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DarkSteven -> RE: Reasons For Being Here (12/4/2015 11:26:05 PM)
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ORIGINAL: wantmyballsgone
Unfortunately, you and others have made no attempt to understand my point. Give and take, tit for tat, that's one thing. The mentality of "If you do this series of things for me, I'll maybe consider doing what you want.", that's the problem. Give and take doesn't come with you must do what I want, but I will only maybe do what you want in return. That's not how that works.
I get that many people are fakes, and that my interests are out-liars, but they aren't any less substantive then many of the interests others have. This site, and many others like it, are full of assholes. They see someone with different interests, and view them as inferior, and think they can manipulate them. That's what's wrong, that's the problem. If there's not some genuine interest in my profile, the interests within, if there's not some real willingness to actually take part in the give and take concept, then why start a conversation, just to mess with someone. I don't do that, and I know most here don't do that. So why is it ok for the minority to get away with it, and then when someone posts about having an issue with it, said person is ridiculed and has his words misconstrued.
Look, fella. Quit blaming and whining. Take a step back and LISTEN.
You stated in your original post that you've struck out on other websites. You've stated that nobody is understanding you.
Basically, you've stated that the problem is everyone else. On this site, and on other sites.
If you're correct, then everyone on numerous websites are idiots incapable of understanding you, or willing to work with you. If you're wrong, then it's just one person. You.
So it looks like you have a choice. You can keep flitting from one website after another, futilely hoping that for some reason, people will be different on this website than they are on every other one. Or you can try to change your own approach.
What did you do?
1. I do find it sad, that this is a site that I was recommended to join, that my interests could be further explored and realized by joining this site, and a couple others. However, thus far, what I mostly have found, is that it's just another place to be ignored. To be questioned on my interests, which would be fine, if the approach individuals took when talking to me wasn't that of me being completely ignorant on the interests that I have. To have others try to push me into other interests that I have no desire to get into. I don't push my interests on others, and I do find it sad that others will offer to "consider" my interests, if I flatly accept theirs. That isn't what this site should be about.
You say "this site is just like the rest". Red flag. You want others to change, but sound unwilling to change your own approach.
When you did get to talking with others, you demanded it being done on your terms. Why not give a little?
2. Thanks for disregarding the entire point of my post thus far guys.
What the hell? At this point, you've got a thread full of people. They're joking, throwing jokes back and forth. And they're aware of your kink. Just freaking speak to them on their own terms. Throw in a joke or two about getting the ball rolling, or something similar. YOU NEED TO MAKE OTHERS LIKE YOU.
If you had done that, and sent a PM to DaddySatyr about his rat's ass avatar, and another to Bunnicula about her chocolate raisins, you'd be swapping stories right and left. After an hour or so of happy talk, ask them for a favor. You've got this unusual desire, and want to find a gay male Dom who'd be flexible enough to consider helping you.
3. That was not the point of my post. If you don't agree with the things I'm into, don't reach out and lecture, which is what many here and elsewhere do. Don't assume I'm an idiot that has done no homework on this topic of interest. I don't reach out to others and lecture them for the things I don't agree with.
My original post, hit on a couple of key points. First, some will offer hold my interests above my head if I fall inline with what they want, which is a ridiculous posture to take. Second, others reach out, and insist that I couldn't possibly be someone that has done research, haven't thought the good and bad of this interest of mine.
Dude, do you see what you're saying? You are talking with real human beings, some of whom might be able to help you. And you're still complaining that everyone doesn't listen to you and misunderstands you, and that nobody is willing to help you ON YOUR OWN TERMS.
If you get what you want, accept that it may be on others' terms. And you'll make much more progress.
Good luck.
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