If something hurts during sex, STOP. That's your body's way of saying something is wrong. Go slow, LOTS OF LUBE, and take things easy. You're not trying to finish a horse race. For things involving dilation of body organs (vagina, penis, anus, etc) you need to take it one thing at a time. Don't just shove the whole hand in there, expecting it to be all sunshine and daises. There are dilation kits you can buy for vaginal use (often used for women who have vaginismus, a type of condition where the vaginal muscles tense up painfully when things are inserted into it) to GRADUALLY widen the vaginal canal. Bear in mind that vaginas naturally "contract vs expand" depending on how "excited" the area is and the like (so for the love of god, dudes, stop saying "omg so tight").
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