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Fisting - ouch? - 11/25/2015 10:11:51 PM   
joanallalone


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I am a lesbian switch, and I'm single right now but hoping to change that soon. :)
My last gf and I tried fisting, which is super hot and I was able to taker her hand in, but I couldn't really get mine all the way in her. Yes, we used plenty of lube and I kind of have big hands, but maybe I was too shy about going in when it felt so tight on my hand and she was saying enough though not really super painful for her.
Next chance I get at this, and if she's really tight, should I just work it more slowly, push it in harder anyway, or give it up for good while enjoying that full feeling from her? Or anything else that I haven't thought of?
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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 11/26/2015 4:44:08 AM   
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Ask her what she would prefer. Also...you might offer this as a suggestion...try doing the same as you did last time, and then hold your hand still and let her be the one doing all the movement and making all the decisions about what she can take and when.

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 11/26/2015 8:12:19 AM   
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To the OP:
Perhaps read this: http://www.amazon.com/Hand-Bush-Fine-Vaginal-Fisting/dp/1890159026/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1448554058&sr=8-1&keywords=a+hand+in+the+bush
And always more lube. There is no such a thing as too much lube when doing this.

And unless she has told you otherwise, when she says enough it is enough.Pushing your hand in anyway would be sexual assault.
"No means no" is not gender specific.
So even if she has told you otherwise, I would be very careful pushing in anyway.

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 11/26/2015 10:10:16 AM   
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HI....
have you ever hand a hand shoved in so hard that it punches your cervix, makes you scream, making you bleed for days, making you curl up for an hour in pain? did you enjoy it?
I wouldnt try it ...retaliation can be really much more painful.
Pressing is fine, but tooooo much to hard can be excruciatingly painful.
I would never play with anyone I couldnt trust to believe me when I say Im done.



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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 11/27/2015 7:10:38 PM   
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Just be careful - I've had my walls ripped and there was really no way to check to "see" what was causing what seemed like a huge amount of blood.
Sometimes if it doesn't fit - there's a pretty good reason.

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 11/29/2015 8:16:24 PM   
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both the vaginal walls and rectal walls do stretch but may need to be done incrementally to avoid injury or damage. i have a inflatable plug that i used to stretch my anus to allow larger insertions the same can be done for vaginal just do it slowly if it hurts stop.

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 12/14/2015 9:29:12 AM   
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Slow, steady pressure. You don't need to thrust it in. Manual stimulation, massage etc can also help relax someone.

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 12/14/2015 4:32:17 PM   
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the vaginal walls do stretch but like all tissue stretching needs to be done incrementally stimulating and lube helps position helps you can try in a squatting position like on 2 chairs back to wall, that naturally stretches it and can help with insertion

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 12/18/2015 2:03:34 PM   
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You are not genuine.
You are a pathetic man.

it would appear not genuine are the many on these places

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 12/21/2015 3:05:31 PM   
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You are what I refer to as non genuine ass hole of a guy.... name your platform, court of law to thrash the details out with I, of we can duel at dawns first light.

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 1/14/2016 9:50:16 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: preytolife

Slow, steady pressure. You don't need to thrust it in. Manual stimulation, massage etc can also help relax someone.


Agree. Preparation and technique are everything. She must be warmed up already and if you are good she will warm up quickly at the thought of being fisted by you. Technique, very important you start with two fingers then three and then five in a tight cluster, form a "cone" with your fingers tight together and then enter her slowly and talk to her while you are doing this, tell her what you're going to do and order her to show you her legs and point her toes for you to give her something other than possible fear to focus on and it will make her wetter taking such instruction. Talking to her and pressing your "cone" formed by your fingers and now inserted past the knuckles on her G spot will help her take the next instruction. Tell her to show you how she fucks and let her show you, she will orgasm several times in no time at all. Next time she will be wet simply thinking about what you might be doing to her...success!

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 5/14/2016 8:40:29 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: theHouseofAvalon
Preparation and technique are everything.


^^ that

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 5/20/2016 1:55:48 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

You are what I refer to as non genuine ass hole of a guy.... name your platform, court of law to thrash the details out with I, of we can duel at dawns first light.


Who do you pick the fight with?

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RE: Fisting - ouch? - 9/13/2016 11:26:52 PM   
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If something hurts during sex, STOP. That's your body's way of saying something is wrong. Go slow, LOTS OF LUBE, and take things easy. You're not trying to finish a horse race. For things involving dilation of body organs (vagina, penis, anus, etc) you need to take it one thing at a time. Don't just shove the whole hand in there, expecting it to be all sunshine and daises. There are dilation kits you can buy for vaginal use (often used for women who have vaginismus, a type of condition where the vaginal muscles tense up painfully when things are inserted into it) to GRADUALLY widen the vaginal canal. Bear in mind that vaginas naturally "contract vs expand" depending on how "excited" the area is and the like (so for the love of god, dudes, stop saying "omg so tight").

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