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advice for a new findomm - 12/1/2015 3:54:34 PM   
missnikki6969


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Status: offline 		Can any other mistress out there give me some advice on being a findomm? How do I get set up? How do I not seem like I'm only wanting finical help but I am interested in this?
How do I do get trubuted for lets say a video session? Or phone?
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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/1/2015 4:16:28 PM   
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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/1/2015 4:23:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I had a quick look at your link Oside. Quite informative! lol.

Made some money and looks to be looking at a jail term for tax evasion - if she isn't there already.



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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/1/2015 4:50:51 PM   
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I had a quick look at your link Oside. Quite informative! lol.

Made some money and looks to be looking at a jail term for tax evasion - if she isn't there already.



People who think that financial domination is a quick buck and easy money rarely realize how tentative their world is. They tend to have a very short arc. You're relying on men wanting to send money to a stranger in return for being told that they're lowly pigs. Eventually it gets old to them - especially since a lot of men that label themselves as submissives are actually "do me" bottoms. (Let's face it....they're paying to masturbate).

In this case, all it took was pissing off the wrong person. There's another blog that I read from a FinDomme that was here on CM - essentially she had a good arc at the beginning, crashed, then tried again with lower results, tried again with even lower results....and it appears she's living with her mother now. (and that's with also being a Cam Girl)



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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/1/2015 6:45:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: missnikki6969

Can any other mistress out there give me some advice on being a findomm? How do I get set up? How do I not seem like I'm only wanting finical help but I am interested in this?
How do I do get trubuted for lets say a video session? Or phone?



Niteflirt I think it's niteflirt.com or so, they will take a percentage but you don't have to worry about legalities, they'll send you a cheque I think but since they request your social security number and stuff, I would declare it.

Seriously, this whole findom thing sounds easy but you get a ton of wankers, there might be a few guys into buying you stuff, not sure what they get out of it, but if you're strapped for cash, I seriously doubt it will work as they smell desperation.

I think every woman here had offers of guys sending her stuff, most just want your address (seems some weird fetish) I asked some of them to donate something to a charity, they never did, if you're comfy with cam sessions, try out the sites at least you don't have to worry about guys finding out your private info and then stalking or harassing you

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/1/2015 10:29:29 PM   
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I think every woman here had offers of guys sending her stuff

Hell, I once joked that I wanted a guy that would make my car payment and buy me Louboutins...and my inbox blew up. None were serious.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/1/2015 10:43:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: missnikki6969

Can any other mistress out there give me some advice on being a findomm? How do I get set up? How do I not seem like I'm only wanting finical help but I am interested in this?
How do I do get trubuted for lets say a video session? Or phone?

Shouldn't a "goddess" know these things?

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 4:11:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: stef


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ORIGINAL: missnikki6969

Can any other mistress out there give me some advice on being a findomm? How do I get set up? How do I not seem like I'm only wanting finical help but I am interested in this?
How do I do get trubuted for lets say a video session? Or phone?

Shouldn't a "goddess" know these things?



Give her a break, she seems to have had tough luck lately, if some guy gets his jollies by giving her money, that's fine, come on this whole findom thing seems like a great idea from the outside and she's falling for the hype...

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 5:27:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		To the OP, you don't, you cast it out of your mind and you actually get a job, get an education , attend meetings and munches in the lifestyle, if your honest bout being a Domme learn, if your truly wanting to make money off of this, then you become a Pro-Domme and exchange non sexual services (actual acts) in a dungeon(business local) and get paid, like a masseuse etc.

Fin-Domme is a hype , a very sad fad by the younger generations, much like the "live-in sub" fad, the majority of them are just young adults or teens who have no desire to be anything but lazy asses. and think they can make easy money by telling some guy or girl they suck etc, and yes while it may work once, unless the guy or girl is truly desperate and has absolutely no desire to do anything but waste their money, and yes these kind of people exist but they are less than 5% of the actual community.

I am only here to help vet , my best friend and employer whos a Dom, cause he got tired of the BS, if a girl shows interest, I talk to them and vet them. On the other hand I am currently running a Social experiment, as you can see in my profile, in which I offer "ruination", its amazing how many messages I get with subs/domes/doms wanting to be ruined and will "do anything" even better is when I mention financial ruination and suddenly they change their tune. Far to many on this site are as someone mentioned "do-me" bottoms. they are only here to get their rocks off and cannot be honest with themselves, their SO's and the people they are talking to, but the amusing aspect to me is how many actually use fake or stolen photos, for example one girl this morning who actually offered to send money, I knew "she" was lying because the majority of her photos were taken by someone else, and she couldn't produce a verification photo..... so I played along, I gave her my employers paypal (hes verified and would refund it if it was actually sent, after reporting it as fraud) and guess what little miss "ill do anything" suddenly disappeared with no reply. As I said its amusing, real Dommes are real people with real lives, Fin-Dommes are just fake tired little girls who are lazy and haven't even moved out of mommy and daddys house.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 6:10:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		Seems to me there is a rapidly expanding pool of findoms chasing the same tiny pool of paypigs.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 7:26:01 AM   
SheHungers


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Status: offline 		No different than the increasing amounts of "live-in" subs/slaves and so called "no-limit" subs/slaves, its a series of fads that are balancing off of each other.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 8:51:15 AM   
missnikki6969


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Status: offline 		Someone told me about it. I had posted an ad to sell used panties and he contacted me and told me all about this I'm trying to get a job but there's still that problem of day to day exspensies and he glammed it all up making me think I can do what yall have already said get paid for it and its legal. I'm just in honest need of help. I'm on probation and my phone bill and living in a hotel having to pay rent day to day. So waiting to get a job then a pay check is good in the long run but I'm trying to figure out something for the now.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 9:04:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		The issue here is that you're not Dominant, you're just looking to make a buck. Telling people that you're Dominant is a lie and it irritates those of us that actually live in D/s relationships.

It would be more honest to set up a Niteflirt account and do role play.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 9:26:29 AM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: SheHungers

No different than the increasing amounts of "live-in" subs/slaves and so called "no-limit" subs/slaves, its a series of fads that are balancing off of each other.



Or the "social experiments"

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 9:26:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		It would also help our wannabe findom if she used a spell checker too!

Nothing worse than claiming to be a dominant and can't master some very simple spelling and grammar!

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 9:34:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: SheHungers

No different than the increasing amounts of "live-in" subs/slaves and so called "no-limit" subs/slaves, its a series of fads that are balancing off of each other.



Or the "social experiments"


Social experiments are a fad but most often not nearly as harmful as previously mentioned "fads" which almost utterly always end up with someone trying to leech off another. As proven by the the OP when she gave her reasons as to what shes doing.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 9:36:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: missnikki6969

Someone told me about it. I had posted an ad to sell used panties and he contacted me and told me all about this I'm trying to get a job but there's still that problem of day to day exspensies and he glammed it all up making me think I can do what yall have already said get paid for it and its legal. I'm just in honest need of help. I'm on probation and my phone bill and living in a hotel having to pay rent day to day. So waiting to get a job then a pay check is good in the long run but I'm trying to figure out something for the now.



I sent you a C-mail (but I'm not sure it went through) with a bunch of sites where you can cam and all that, let me know if you got it or feel free to shoot me an email, seriously, the whole findom stuff, I can't say I get it or it ever interested me, I sometimes ask a guy here to pay me, because that is the fastest way to get rid of them.

If the guy with the panties comes back, asked him to give you money since he knows so much about it, I think he was just wanking himself into oblivion thinking about the whole findom thing, that's why he told you.

Fingers crossed that you find a job soon, is there anywhere else where you can stay than a hotel? You know maybe sharing with a few people? Might be less expensive

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 9:41:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Findom isn't just about give me money, well at least it shouldn't be. That is part of it but you must learn to actually Domme otherwise you aren't a Domme you are a cam girl. I don't sell panties or pics I don't do cam shows. I am very selective about my subs and I take my responsibility seriously. I only take on true submissives who interest me. I can afford to be picky because I have my own money. I don't need theirs , that's the trick with findom if you need them .. THEY OWN YOU! You aren't in control if that's what you are doing. My subs never see me naked I don't do sexual favors . Learn about tpe, take time to get to know what you are doing. Find out what YOU like. Not all men want to be humiliated either. I form actual relationships with my subs. I take care of them in the way a Domme should. If you cant do this or don't want to, do cam shows and become a sugar baby it's easier.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 9:53:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		If you're desperate, you will not make it far. It's best to do what you already know. I enjoy total control so I use that to my advantage. Plus you can't spell which is a turn off haha. For me it was that if you worshipped a certain part of me, you would want that part pampered. So if you liked my feet, you would arrange for my pedicures. If you liked my face lol, you would be fine giving me gift-cards for makeup or paying for my hair to be done which isn't cheap. Every person is different.

On a side note being a sugar baby is mentally exhausting. You need to be organized, diligent and a good actress lol. Not for a quick buck.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/2/2015 9:58:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Interesting never had any experience being a sugar baby. I just assumed "possibly wrongly" that you jus tlook cute and men give you money to do what they want .. wait I guess doing what other people want all day would be exhausting.

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