domseekingsubnow
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Bottom, John, thanks a lot for your answer. It seems pretty obvious now that I should have posted my question in Ask a Submissive/Slave. John, I would like to challenge you a little bit, please bear with me. You have beautifully explained your view of this, and it matches what I’m hearing from other guys. You do not appreciate male beauty, but appreciate and enjoy women looks, fall in love with them instead. Yes, you enjoy crossdressing, the idea of forced sexual encounters with men entice you, but on the balance you conclude you are heterosexual, based on your sense of beauty and romantic feelings instead of your wider range of sexual attraction. Some would argue that sexual attraction to sex with men by itself would define you as bisexual, but that’s just semantics and I don’t want to go there. I’ve met quite a few gay bottoms who told me how they would dress up like ladies when they were children, secretly borrowing clothes from mothers and sisters. It seems to be a common rite of passage. They wanted to be pretty, to be liked, and their children mind decided looking like a female was the way to go. Later on they discover other males consider them attractive. They developed a taste for the male body and run to the gym, mostly because it is the way to get what they want, male attention. Mind you, they still think women are beautiful and sexy; they worship divas like Madona or Lady Gaga, and have more nonsexual girlfriends than any hetero would ever have, but they seek men for sex, not women. It is also very common for pretty young gay guys to fall in love and get angaged with other pretty gay boys like themselves, making perfectly cute couples, and not doubt great like minded company. However, night time comes, the bar closes, and they head to the local sauna, dark room or daungeon. There they don't seek pretty boys for sex, pretty boys are unwelcome competitors. They seek bigger, older, uglier agresive guys with a big cock. They don’t seek good looking men, they seek body able powerful men that makes them feel cuter younger and sexier. I would submit you are not that different. Yes, you may prefer wearing panties to tiny speedos, but the choice of clothe is perhaps irrelevant, you want to feel pretty, slutty and wanted; For whatever the reason you never took the next step, donning something that a male partner would actually consider sexy, but is not like you have interacted that much with male partners, so you probably don’t have a good picture of that anyway. You don’t find males pleasing to the eye, but guess what, the apreciation of good looks is a male thing. Most females are typically more concerned with social cues, not the looks of a sexual partner. Is he trustworthy, Strong, Assertive? Alpha males are not pretty, Doms are not pretty. Just like many females, a great many gay bottoms don't seek tops because they are cute, they seek guys who get the job done. You don't find handsome males atractive? Well, many females and gay guys don't care that much about how atractive their partners are either. They are attracted to what that guy is going to do with them, just like you. I could however agree with you when you say you may be “slightly curious” instead of gay. You never had sex with males, and you still do things only younger gays would do, it sounds like gay arrested development, or perhaps just minimally gay; Yea, you may be slightly gay, but not enough to develop the full package. Anyway, I look forward to hearing from you; Especially if you think I’m wrong, which I usually am when discussing other people’s feelings :)
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