Deliberate Disobedience

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TinkaCat -> Deliberate Disobedience (1/11/2016 3:42:32 PM)
I provoke my master to strangle me, because I love being punished. Does anybody else have this problem, I feel like a bad slave when I do but I'm so desperate. Does anybody have any tips to help with self control. I really do want to be a better slave.

FelineRanger -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (1/11/2016 7:24:15 PM)
You might want to reconsider masters if his response to disobedience is to strangle you.

DesFIP -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (1/12/2016 2:11:21 PM)
You might want to talk to your partner and explain that you enjoy breath play and would like it more often.

Kaliko -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (1/12/2016 2:17:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP You might want to talk to your partner and explain that you enjoy breath play and would like it more often. This. Because if he knows you crave it, then possibly he'll let you experience it more often...if you behave.

LilJuly76 -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (1/12/2016 3:41:37 PM)
I don't know a lot of Dominants that want their submissives to be brats

JanahX -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (1/12/2016 4:31:46 PM)
Uh - no, because strangulation and hands only asphyxiation is the biggest turn on for me eveh... bring it on!

royalarchmason -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (1/15/2016 5:23:34 AM)
You should not provoke him into strangling you silly girl! If you need to be punished it can be done regularly and in a civilized and caring manner so that need within you is satisfied.

dreamofdaddy -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/8/2016 11:42:16 PM)
Nope never. I only want positive attention. I am very obedient and try behave to the best of my ability. I could not be with a man that ignored me anyway (just been in a relationship like that and it really hurt me) I do not want punishment. Yes I want discipline, but that is a different thing. Punishment means I have done something wrong, I have let him down. To do that on purpose? Oh god no. When I meet the right man, his happiness will mean everything to me.

DarkSteven -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/9/2016 2:28:31 AM)
Do you feel like this is the best way to get his attention? If so, then an hour of ignoring you would be a far better punishment.

DaddySatyr -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/9/2016 2:49:47 AM)
A couple of people have said that bratty behavior is not their goal and I agree. I think, though, that there may be another facet, here. First, as some have mentioned: open and honest expression of wants and desires is probably the most important ingredient to a successful relationship. I can't help but wonder if you're engaging in "bratty behavior", are you truly motivated to serve him or are you looking to accomplish your goals while ranking his wants and needs, second? Maybe ... just maybe he doesn't find breath play/strangulation to be pleasurable ... ethical, even? To put it another way: maybe it's one of his "hard limits"? I could be way out of line, as far as others are concerned, but in my house, our needs are equal, but my wants far outweigh hers. Michael

LilJuly76 -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/9/2016 5:38:03 AM)
I can't help but wonder if you're engaging in "bratty behavior", are you truly motivated to serve him or are you looking to accomplish your goals while ranking his wants and needs, second? I agree with this.

WickedsDesire -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/9/2016 7:51:52 AM)
brats should always be dumped in the manner known as devastating and cast asunder and scattered to the four winds...they are a lost people. DarkStevenhmm one hour is a trifling moment in time

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/9/2016 9:10:53 AM)
This is the problem with the whole punishment dynamic to my mind. Here's a crazy idea, how about be with somebody who likes doing to you the things you like done to you.

LilJuly76 -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/9/2016 9:15:44 AM)
WickedDesire I think being dumped is a little harsh even if it's a brat. it comes down to compatibility that's why I think talk is always important, go on some coffee dates when you try to set up a relationship with a Dominant. so many internet submissives end up with old school Dominants and as a result have two different goals in mind when it comes to D/s, or M/s. If she wants to be a brat to get her way for whatever reason, probably an old school Dominant wouldn't be for her. For me myself for incompatibility I would not hook up with a green Dominant. I'm an old school submissive I don't have the patience to teach a green Dominant. I obey to whoever I'm involved with. The relationship would be doomed.

shiftyw -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/9/2016 9:21:11 AM)
Eh...we play around like this. I'm not a "brat" per se- but sometimes I absolutely bait him into banging me after chasing me around the house because I poked him one too many times. but I don't identify as a slave- and we have agreed upon these things. Why not just ask your Dom for more breath play?

BondageersT -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/9/2016 9:22:48 AM)
TWO 18 YEAR OLD IMMATURE LITTLE KIDS. JUST BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR. OR FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL BOTHER ABOUT YOU.++ CHANGE YOU NAPPIES NOW .

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/9/2016 9:49:25 AM)
Well, on a positive note you aren't dead and he hasn't left you or dumped you. Given the above, I have to assume he is either a very weak man with little kids hands OR he likes the bratty behavior and is allowing it because he IS consenting to your brattiness by indulging it. If you truly are provoking him to anger and he genuinely is strangling you in anger you should both seek counseling.

StrongSpirit -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/19/2016 6:17:25 PM)
Bart, you are not allowed on this website. Marge will be very dissapointed.

FrostedFlake -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/21/2016 1:36:12 PM)
There may be a need to synchronize dictionaries, here. In my book, a slave is very different from a bottom. The type sometimes referred to as a 'do me sub'. As if there were something regrettable about it. Which tells you a lot about the outlook of folks who use that expression. And how well they are likely to get along with folks they are inclined to use it about. And of course there are shades of grey in between. Even though we are all tops and bottoms. It seems to me the parties in question may be running their plays out of different books. Perhaps discussion? If things can be better, this would seem to be how. If they can't be, this would be how to find that out.

wannapleez -> RE: Deliberate Disobedience (4/22/2016 10:12:47 AM)
My USD 0.02: A lot of this depends on the dynamic of the relationship. Some Dom(me)s like a little brattiness in their sub, as there are some things that they like to do to the sub, but only perceive them as viable when punishment is necessary. I would say two other things: 1) Talk it out with him. 2) Don't disobey too often unless he specifically requests it. Otherwise, it becomes topping from the bottom.

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