theHouseofAvalon
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ORIGINAL: domsl80 Hi, I am new in bdsm world with no experience as a dominant. I am saying dominant because I like to dominate slaves/subs and I tested my kinks on bdsmtest also. can anyone give me idea how to start relationship because all slaves/subs want an experienced dom. what a newbie will do? any tips will be helpful. thanks I will not give you the standard CM forum answer which is likely go to munches and events. You will be a fish way out of water should you jump into munches and events this early in your career. After all, in these dynamics they respect knowledge and experience before anything else and likely you will be disrespected in those and that might destroy your enthusiasm. So, know at least a little about what you are doing before you expose yourself to the crowd at munches and the local events. Instead, make Amazon your best friend and read. Start with "The Loving Dominant". That book will teach you the basics in attitude and skills as well as event protocol. That book will actually teach you beginning flogging skills and how to become good at it before even meeting a submissive. With this knowledge and even a decent skill level you are now ready to attend an event or even meet a knowledgeable submissive with enough justifiable confidence to impress her. Speaking of that, I found that knowledgeable submissives , experienced submissives, are attracted to experience but they will be just as attracted to honesty and attitude and great looks, so learn a little, be honest, work out and get in shape and then go get em. Your attitude and honesty will even work here on CM, on the other side, in attracting local submissives. One final recommendation, get your flogger not at the local sex shop but online from a place that hand crafts fine leather works of art. Nothing says "beginner" more than cheap tools. Cecil WAIN Studios (WAINSTUDIOS.COM) is a great place online, there are others. One more final note, pick up a copy of "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns" from Amazon, it is informative, funny and easy reading. Go get em. The Master of the House.
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