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Polyandry and dating - 1/29/2016 1:15:42 PM

EmpressElle

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What is the best way to date while poly specifically polyandry ? Is it best to make that guy feel like he's the only one during the date or is it best to begin things as they will be with him being one of the boys?

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RE: Polyandry and dating - 1/29/2016 1:51:39 PM

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I always find the best policy is to be up-front and straight.

Lay your cards on the table so they know what they are in for.
Deceit and lies (or omitted truths) tend to come back and bite you in the ass sometime later.

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RE: Polyandry and dating - 1/30/2016 3:32:55 PM

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If you don't think he's special, then why are you spending time with him?

You should think they are all special in their own way. Or do you want them to tell you that they can barely remember your name, that you're just like every other woman they've dated?

Unless you're a pro and they've negotiated for this. Is this a professional relationship or a personal one?

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RE: Polyandry and dating - 2/21/2016 7:58:13 PM

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Date as a trio. :)

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RE: Polyandry and dating - 2/22/2016 5:56:38 AM

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Just for clarity, I'm not a submissive.

I'm of the mind that you tell people up front that you are poly. This is information that they should have for them to make an informed decision about the choice to date you or not. (I still work with the theory that most people assume that a person is monogamous unless a person specifies otherwise.) That includes whether you are already dating someone else at this time or not. If you already know you are poly and have the intention of dating/having relationships with multiple people down the road, even if you are just starting with the first person now, it's just the decent thing to do to give them a head's up about the situation.

From that point, you're probably going to have to explain what kind of poly you participate in. Will all of your relationships be separate, as in V type poly? Will you be practicing O type poly where everybody spends time together as a group unit and possibly have 'more than friends' relationships with each other? Will all of the relationships (partners) have equal importance in your life or will you have primary and secondary partners? Will all partners be romantic ones or will some of them just be play partners? People who are already poly themselves might have these questions and those who are monogamous will just want to know what you mean by multiple relationships.

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RE: Polyandry and dating - 3/4/2016 11:04:46 AM

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I agree that you need to tell them you are poly before dating.

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RE: Polyandry and dating - 3/4/2016 5:30:26 PM

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Just to clarify, I have two boyfriends, and they are also eachother's boyfriend so we date as a triad and it works fine. Those times when it is just two of us going out (not always me and one of them, sometimes it is them together) is a sort of special bonding type time.

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RE: Polyandry and dating - 3/6/2016 2:24:07 PM

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Hmmm,

another profile that does not exist.

So here is the deal.

1. If you are female, dating two males ... make sure they are in to you, and make sure they love making love with you, before introducing them to the idea of poly

1.a and they agree, then quickly introduce them to each other.
2.a. if not, try to persuade them by describing how and why they are doing it, for You!

2. If you are a man ... a bi-Lesbian Married Couple is perfect! Imagine, two Ladies in bed with you and they love each other as much as you. It is fabulous ...

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