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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: satanscharmer

Thank you, yes I did miss that.

I read an article, and of course I can't find it now, where a psychologist listed off three most common reasons he was given from men as to why they don't cheat. Answers given were variances to the three. Interestingly enough, none of the reasons cited moral integrity or religious reasons. If I remember correctly they were 1) Too busy, 2) Too shy, 3) Were content.

That would be interesting if you can find it.

I've always been poly, and I actually have a fetish for my partner sleeping with other women. I'm a bit of a female cuckold/cuckquean. I derive sexual gratification from my husband sleeping with other women. Especially when he does it without me present, and later uses it to humiliate me with by pointing out that he fucked other women instead of fucking me.

One of the biggest frustrations in my marriage has been that my husband has not been sleeping with other women, until recently. He's been 100% faithful to me almost the entire time, with the exception of me dragging him of and (with me basically forcing him) fucking a hooker in Amsterdam a few years back.

Interestingly enough, the reasons he cites for not having more of an interest in fucking other women are exactly the ones you bring up: He's too busy to find another woman, he's too shy to hit on women in hook-up bars or swingers clubs, and he's sexually content with me so has no drive to find other women to fuck.

He's complained on multiple occasions that I put too much pressure on him to fuck other women, and that the logistics around it make it too hard.

Luckily our new girl friend is moving in at the end of the month, so he'll finally start catering to my fetish more, and fuck another woman regularly (current sleeping arrangements actually means that he'll be spending more time in her bed, than in mine, because I prefer sleeping alone).

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ORIGINAL: HisForLife71
Some of the comments on here really do belong on the poly thread, not a mono one lol.

And yet, we can define ourselves better by what we are by what we are not, via negative identification.
Not negative as in bad, but negative as in the opposite, or by what is contrary to our personal value and belief systems.

How many times in life have we known a negative role model, one who is contrary to how we define our idealistic image or archetype?

Or, to put it another way, we may not recognize ourselves in the mirror, but we can recognize who and what we are not in relation to others by observing them more objectively than we would our own selves.

Just saying,

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ORIGINAL: HisForLife71
Some of the comments on here really do belong on the poly thread, not a mono one lol.

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ORIGINAL: HisForLife71
Some of the comments on here really do belong on the poly thread, not a mono one lol.