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Pinkinpretty -> What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/17/2016 1:27:43 PM)
Very long story cut short I was involved with a Dom I cared about, we met, I thought he was awesome ...apparently he thought the same but for one reason or another life got in the way and it did not progress So he ends it back in December, telling me he's met someone else and doesn't want to be unfair to me or her I was gutted, but moved on as his decision was made So we have kind of kept in touch just polite messages via email every now and then... And well, my pride got the better of me and I didn't want him to think I was still hung up on him so when he asked i told him I'd met someone Thinking that would be that But no, he's now like bombarded me with questions about this new (imaginary) guy, is he kinky, do I like him, where did I meet him blah blah blah I've like diverted the conversation to normal stuff, but each time he asks me another direct question about this guy I made up So Whys he doing that? He said he's in a happy vanilla relationship so whys he asking? And secondly I wish I'd never made this guy up I'm running out of answers lol

Kana -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/17/2016 3:44:52 PM)
Be fucking honest. Show the man at least the bare minimal level of respect and come clean Fess up. Fuck.If nothing else you won't have to wake up with a liar every morning...that liar being you, of course

mousekabob -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/18/2016 3:01:32 AM)
He's asking you because that's what people do. When I was in relationships friends were always hounding me with questions. They are curious, want to give advice, be a good friend. It's normal. Want him to stop? Be honest with him and in the future just tell the person you want to make sure you stay just friends and nothing more. Stop lying.

LilJuly76 -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/18/2016 4:49:26 AM)
gotta agree with Kana on this one. So what he dumps you and then you tell him you were involved with someone else. Why lie if you aren't involved with someone else? The same thing happened to me I was involved with someone but instead of him telling me or any other girl for that matter that he was involved with about 5 of us at one time until he chose who he wanted to be with. He did the lying there, the other four of us had to find out the hard way by the person he chose sending us emails ordering us never to talk to her "Master" again because he chose her and not anybody else. Lying before a relationship starts, during and if it ends is not the best thing to do even if you do have pride, we all have pride, but how can you be prideful if you lie to someone you were involved with?

Lucylastic -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/18/2016 5:09:24 AM)
That pride thing will make idiots of all of us. There is no pride in lying tho. Its obviously eating at you so you know already:) I semi recently split from my sub...ive sat on my tongue, my fingers over several things to stop giving in to all the emotions after my split..... hard as hell at times, I can get you.... I walked away. Ive mailed to him 3 times since august. out of necessity, but once Im done, Im done. moving on, being happy .... You have a decision to make. good luck. Oh and its called "keeping you dangling, just in case i need a booty call" and some males and some females do it.....sub and dom, some will do it out of ego, too. Some are fine with that, but if you arent...

crazyml -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/18/2016 12:26:10 PM)
Fess up. Then move on. As for his reaction. .. well... the idea of you being unavailable to him bothers him a bit. It's not an amazingly mature response but it's natural enough. But it's worth yiu asking yourself how continuing the lie is going to male your life better...

Bhruic -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/19/2016 7:32:13 AM)
Everyone hates being left out, even when they are the one that left a situation. I don't think you need to fess up... just move on.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/19/2016 9:20:41 AM)
What is this Dom doing??!!? Wtf are you doing? Why on Earth would you try to maintain a 'friendship' with somebody you categorically can't manage to be honest with? If you're still so hung up on him that you feel the need to lie to him out of embarrassment of being single, stop fooling yourself and stop fooling him, you guys aren't friends. Fess up to him how you really feel, or leave him alone.

LadyPact -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/19/2016 2:18:42 PM)
I have to say I agree with the others. If you have to make up an imaginary boyfriend/Dom like an immature twelve year old, this is not your friend, and let's face it, you're not being the definition of a friend, either. I'll bet you're not lying to your other friends about "Mr Imaginary" and that's a huge sign. He might like you dangling or he might not. On the other hand, he might just be like me and he's asking questions because he thinks his "friend" has a new relationship that she/you'll want to talk about. It's that whole thing about being happy that your friend is happy and probably wants to talk about it. If you can't be honest with this guy, just leave him be.

DesFIP -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/19/2016 8:13:39 PM)
Tell him you don't want to be interrogated and you think it's better if you stop talking to him. Take six months off and heal. Afterwards if you think you can be friends, do so.

Greta75 -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/19/2016 9:39:18 PM)
Fr Personally, I don't agree with the rest that you should be honest with him about it. He found someone else. You have told him, you have found someone else too. True or False. Who cares! He doesn't deserve the truth. He left you. You didn't leave him. But what you shouldn't be doing is entertaining his questions. You should tell him, "You are no longer my boyfriend, my personal affairs and other relationships is none of your business." I'd personally just be cold and not bother with him anymore. Let him come crawling back to you if he really cares for you, if not, seriously focus on moving on.

petitespot -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/20/2016 4:38:45 AM)
Tell him it's none of his fucking business.

DesFIP -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/20/2016 3:51:53 PM)
It's also not uncommon for people to move on but not want their ex to. So if his response to anything you told him was that your new partner wasn't good enough or that he kept asking for more info in order to judge if you chose a good enough partners hen this is what he's doing.trying to prevent you from replacing him. And that's why we recommend a total break, so neither of you want to do this.

ImperialPath -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/20/2016 8:00:42 PM)
fr quote: Whys he doing that? He said he's in a happy vanilla relationship so whys he asking? It makes him feel better about breaking up with you if you are doing well with this "other person". Every time he can ask about you and how you are doing and then you give him a positive reply then he feels better for himself and for you because even though he broke up with you he naturally still wants you to be happy. He still cares enough to ask.

AdonaiMalachi -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/20/2016 8:34:04 PM)
"And well, my pride got the better of me and I didn't want him to think I was still hung up on him so when he asked i told him I'd met someone Thinking that would be that But no, he's now like bombarded me with questions about this new (imaginary) guy, is he kinky, do I like him, where did I meet him blah blah blah " Simply still talking to him at your age means you are still hung up on him. the second you mentioned your relationship status and you know this. Silly little cunt. Don't come here playing stupid. Now apologize to everyone here via message for wasting their time.

Lucylastic -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/20/2016 8:45:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AdonaiMalachi "And well, my pride got the better of me and I didn't want him to think I was still hung up on him so when he asked i told him I'd met someone Thinking that would be that But no, he's now like bombarded me with questions about this new (imaginary) guy, is he kinky, do I like him, where did I meet him blah blah blah " Simply still talking to him at your age means you are still hung up on him. the second you mentioned your relationship status and you know this. Silly little cunt. Don't come here playing stupid. Now apologize to everyone here via message for wasting their time. Oh..first post...calls a poster a silly little cunt... this is going to end well.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/20/2016 8:47:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AdonaiMalachi "And well, my pride got the better of me and I didn't want him to think I was still hung up on him so when he asked i told him I'd met someone Thinking that would be that But no, he's now like bombarded me with questions about this new (imaginary) guy, is he kinky, do I like him, where did I meet him blah blah blah " Simply still talking to him at your age means you are still hung up on him. the second you mentioned your relationship status and you know this. Silly little cunt. Don't come here playing stupid. Now apologize to everyone here via message for wasting their time. Dumb-ass idiot. Thinks he can order random strangers around just because he calls himself a dom online. Can't dominate his way out of a wet paper bag offile.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/20/2016 10:09:28 PM)
LOL Yes dearie, whatever you say.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/21/2016 10:34:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AdonaiMalachi "And well, my pride got the better of me and I didn't want him to think I was still hung up on him so when he asked i told him I'd met someone Thinking that would be that But no, he's now like bombarded me with questions about this new (imaginary) guy, is he kinky, do I like him, where did I meet him blah blah blah " Simply still talking to him at your age means you are still hung up on him. the second you mentioned your relationship status and you know this. Silly little cunt. Don't come here playing stupid. Now apologize to everyone here via message for wasting their time. So how well has your moronic approach worked for you here these last 12 years?

Cinnamongirl67 -> RE: What is this Dom doing??!!? (3/21/2016 2:09:06 PM)
Oh that's funny. Sounds exactly like some bird brain thing I would do. He is probably a little jealous or curious, human nature. If you had stayed friends maybe he is just trying to keep the conversation going and likes you. Or or or he might be trying to take candy from a baby. ( a challenge type thing) Only you know what kinda guy he is. If he is a good guy you really trust and do want a relationship with him, tell him the truth. I guess you like him pretty well if your still talking. Good luck.

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