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chubbybtm48507 -> slave buying his own equipment (4/3/2016 3:23:00 PM)

As I head in to my first time as a slave is it normal the dominate is demanding I pre-buy the bdsm equipment hood leg cuffs cock cage andspecial order
collar..at a pretty hefty price tag.. met on line haven't even met yet... is this normal? ??



mnottertail -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/3/2016 3:24:26 PM)

you want some other slave to wear your buttplug, or are you looking to wear theirs? Who is responsible for the spirochetes?



DesFIP -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/3/2016 7:00:04 PM)

I would buy anything you want someone to use on you. It's the only effective way to prevent disease transmission.

But if she's giving you long lists of things and expecting to keep them afterwards, then no.

She doesn't know your budget. Or doesn't care about it. And if you aren't interested in trying some of the things, then that's a waste of money.

However, there's no reason to buy anything before you've even met for coffee. You might decide not to progress to playing together in which case you have time to accumulate a toy bag. You buy it, you own it, is the rule.



OsideGirl -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/4/2016 2:56:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: chubbybtm48507

As I head in to my first time as a slave is it normal the dominate is demanding I pre-buy the bdsm equipment hood leg cuffs cock cage andspecial order
collar..at a pretty hefty price tag.. met on line haven't even met yet... is this normal? ??



So, you're saying that you'd be okay stuffing your junk into the same cock cage that the last guy wore?



masmiss -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/4/2016 3:11:06 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

you want some other slave to wear your buttplug, or are you looking to wear theirs? Who is responsible for the spirochetes?


I say the spirochetes should share the cost with the clostridium difficile bacteria. [:D]



FelineRanger -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/4/2016 3:59:25 PM)

Have you discussed your budgetary limitations with this new dom? If not, why not?



OsideGirl -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/4/2016 4:46:08 PM)

I'm guessing that this is a play session BDSM relationship - since most Dominants in a D/s relationship would want to purchase and then collar their submissive.

So - going into a new BDSM play relationship, it's not unreasonable for the Top to request that the bottom to buy things that will get bodily fluids on them...hoods, gags, insertables, cutting instruments etc. Just to prevent the possibility of spreading scary things.

And also to be fair....being a Top is expensive. The price of equipment quickly adds up.




littleclip -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/4/2016 5:39:40 PM)

i prefer to buy my own toys so they will be used on me and i know they will be clean. also when the dynamic is over i will still have my toys.



thishereboi -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/4/2016 5:47:44 PM)

I've bought my own toys because in most cases I wouldn't want to play with something someone else has used. That said, I wouldn't buy anything until I had actually met her and knew we were going to be compatible.



peppermint -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/5/2016 9:28:10 AM)

Someone has to pay for all that stuff. If it is going to be used on you, for you, then you pay. No one else would have use for items used on you. However, I do agree with others that it's too soon to be buying expensive equipment. First you need to meet face to face. Then you can decide if this other person is someone you would want for a Master or Mistress. Then, since you both communicate well, you explain that you can not afford all that stuff right away, but can gradually accumulate items as time goes by.



RebeccaRayne2 -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/18/2016 1:08:01 PM)

Had a Master one time who sent me into a craft shop to buy a scalpel to carve 'slavebitch' on my tummy and 'slut' on my breast. I bought it but he paid.



garssy -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/19/2016 8:19:38 AM)

Perhaps OK, but depends on the items. I had one online that wanted to have me buy all personalized stuff and that was fine, and we discussed budget. Then he pushed for a standing cage and a bondage table, running into big money and well over the budget we had agreed on. Also wanted me to purchase all the items from some friends of his, and post money up front. OK. I am applying for a sub role so I guess he had the right to be demanding, but the $, plus no place to put such big items and the upfront payment to friends of his...it seemed like a big scam to me. BE CAREFUL!



Lucylastic -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/19/2016 9:06:54 AM)

pushing for furniture, not "just toys" is taking the piss as far as Im concerned
Having bondage furniture is lovely... a wish list is lovely.
But its like buying a hotel and only using it once a year.



LadyConstanze -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (4/19/2016 9:40:37 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: chubbybtm48507

As I head in to my first time as a slave is it normal the dominate is demanding I pre-buy the bdsm equipment hood leg cuffs cock cage andspecial order
collar..at a pretty hefty price tag.. met on line haven't even met yet... is this normal? ??



I'd meet first



DannyIsNotWelcom -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (5/17/2016 6:26:18 PM)

I say it ain't normal. Household items do the trick just fine, if that's what's really desired. Of course your slave has to be really willing to submit otherwise some bling bling cock cage might just comfort you ;-)



DannyIsNotWelcom -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (5/17/2016 6:28:56 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: RebeccaRayne2

Had a Master one time who sent me into a craft shop to buy a scalpel to carve 'slavebitch' on my tummy and 'slut' on my breast. I bought it but he paid.


That sounds like the both of you need therapy.



ifansinnott -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (7/15/2016 6:55:01 AM)

Hey dude you wanna play then you gotta pay!



WickedsDesire -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (7/15/2016 9:06:37 AM)

Sock has its usual variants and two of them are:
1. His cock must be imprisoned
2. His balls must be stomped on

I have told you, many times, to behave >50% of the time have I not? i would prefer >90% of the time.

I will say this once and once only regarding Equipment and Etiquette opinion is split. But my opinion is both look and purchase together. And if one has greater fiscal means-then they do the actual purchasing, they still look together.

And yes of course I have used the same thingy on some of those creatures of wretch. Whom amongst us did not have his favourite swishy stick (with 6 splayed canes)



MsLadySue -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (7/22/2016 7:53:10 AM)

Who pissed in your Wheaties? Assholes like you are a dime a dozen.



stef -> RE: slave buying his own equipment (7/22/2016 10:25:12 AM)

A dime? That's awfully generous of you.



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