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Is it just me? - 12/1/2004 9:33:28 PM   
Oakfrost


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Status: offline 		I understand that polyamory is a large part of the scene, but I'm just wondering if there are any sub females out there who are not looking for a female to be with their husband/significant other....just something I've noticed, was wondering if it's just me.
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RE: Is it just me? - 12/1/2004 9:44:37 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		I think there's different way of defining polyamoury.

My partner and I are mono-amourous. We only want to be in a 2 person relationship and we, pesonally, can only be in love with one person at once. However, we sometimes enjoy the company of a third or third and fourth party, for play only. I think the distinction's important.


That said, I'm not looking for a female or male to be with myself and my partner. :)

*edited to fix a dumb typo I didn't catch till this morning*

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 3:43:15 AM   
masterchazz


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Status: offline 		I've wondered the same thing. Are there any Submissive females that are Single and looking for a Straight Male Master? All I seem to find are Lesbian subs, Bi subs looking for Mistress or Bi subs looking for Bi subs to have a 3some with her and her Master.

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 5:17:11 AM   
subbiejenn


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the boards Oakfrost and Masterchazz!!

Iv'e never understood the "poly" relationship but i have friends who are into it and say there is nothing better. I love having sister subs to share with (chat) but i don't think i could share my Master/Dom (when i get one of my own) with someone else on a day to day basis. I think having another sub join us for play every once in a while MAYBE good. (not sure if i could even handle that) I am Bi-Curious but i am not sure if i will ever explore in it, and when or if i ever do my views may change on "poly" relationships. *grins* Maybe i will enjoy it more then i think i will.

I believe it takes a very special relationship between all people involved, a very loving and understanding relationship with a lot of communication.

I do think there are many subs out there looking for just one to share thier life with. Iv'e said this many times -- we all have our own kinks and desires and it takes time to find the right person. With every kink we have our pond we are fishing in gets smaller and takes more time but don't settle the fish are there you just have to find them.

best of luck
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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 6:00:38 AM   
cynnacent1


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quote:

I'm just wondering if there are any sub females out there who are not looking for a female to be with their husband/significant other....


<--- a female sub who is not looking for a female to be with her Master. .oO(... wouldn't exactly claim that 'the door is closed' to the possibilities of one who may desire to be with *me* though! )

Patience is a virtue, just keep looking. With as many members as there are at collarme, whatever is being sought IS out there, in most cases.

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 7:00:41 AM   
lilserenity


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Status: offline 		I am one female who feels the same will not share why receive partial attention or half when you should receive full. Cheaper on the Dom and easier on His mind.. I have seen polys everywhere as well but they are mostly online polys nothing serious nothing gained on their parts..ManyI have either enocountered are playing only online. I rarely find a treasure and REal Dominant who wants more than a lap jumping or tea served.. So sis dont worry its the internet thing keep seeking and ask questions.. There one Dominant for Everyone just have to have patience and ask... be safe and warm hugs serenity

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 7:15:51 AM   
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I'm just wondering if there are any sub females out there who are not looking for a female to be with their husband/significant other


perhaps it is their Doms or Masters that are encouraging or demanding the looking?
this slave has noticed that in "vanilla" society, it is a common, socially acceptable fantasy for men to want to be in on the "girl on girl" action(they don't consider them lesbians)--this slave has yet to meet a man (nilla or otherwise) who didn't think it was "cute" or "sexy"(unless he was gay). we have attended swinger's club events----99% of the "swinging" is husbands watching wives engaged in lesbian sex----never, EVER see two husbands going at it while the wives watch.
this slave wishes she had a nickel for every time she has heard a heterosexual male say he'd like an encounter with two females and watch them sex each other up--and this slave has NEVER heard a girl friend tell her she'd love to have a threesome where the two men get it on and she enjoys the show.
truth be told, this heterosexual slave wishes she was more interested in lesbian sex, just in case Master ever wants to have more than one female sex partner at a time, so she would not have to feign enthusiasm during the act, however that is what it would be-an ACT.

this slave is straight, NOT even bi-curious(tried it once a long time ago and did not like it) and is NOT looking for a lesbian or bi sub to be with Master......however, if it was Master's desire, then she would do everything in her power to track down a willing participant and try her best to make it fun for Him to watch.

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 7:15:55 AM   
INSIDEYOURMIND


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Status: offline 		What I don't like to see are all the submissive/slave profiles that seem to be pimping for their Masters.

I know my sub has a desire to be with a woman, I have a desire to make that happen, but I am not going to have her interviewing, or soliciting woman for this. I want it to happen, I will make it happen.

I am sure there are many that do this for their Masters because they want to, but I would think there are many more that do it because they are just trying to please him.

We don't seek a poly situation, we seek a friend, I guess the old friend with benefits, kind of friend.

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 8:07:39 AM   
MistressFire70


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

this slave is straight, NOT even bi-curious(tried it once a long time ago and did not like it) and is NOT looking for a lesbian or bi sub to be with Master......however, if it was Master's desire, then she would do everything in her power to track down a willing participant and try her best to make it fun for Him to watch.



*chuckle* Perhaps Merc would be interested in watching the two of you run away from each other? The two of you start on one side of the tree. you part, run around the tree and SMACK into the other on the other side...then repeat until each are bruised and worn out. He sits with beer and a toy of some sort to spur on the fun.

On a more serious note: poly doesn't HAVE to be sexual, especially if you are looking to build a household. How many would feel ok with another serving, but in a different role? Perhaps you are the primary and sexual relationship, but the others are household managers, domestic servants, gardeners, cooks, etc. Each has a specific task or set of tasks that are theirs. This is MY idea of poly. Perhaps they serve as sex partners for each other (and can do such as free porn for you and your Master).

And yeah, I'd like to watch the two (or three) men go at it! Might, at some point (don't IM me), consider a threesome with 2 men. Of course, they'd have to realize it was 2 men servicing me, not me servicing 2 men.

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 8:15:05 AM   
EStrict


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Status: offline 		Actually Beth, I've known a fair amount of woman who fantasized about a 3 way with 2 men, and even men who fantasized with it being 2 men one woman. The difference is, in most of those cases they were looking to just make more *use* of the woman, and in most cases didn't want any physical interation with the other guy.

On a side though, I know LOTS of male subs who fantasize about being used by a couple (male/female) being forced to service both....

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 12:19:19 PM   
realophelia


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Status: offline 		I don't consider my relationship poly but my Master is part of a Dom/Domme couple so there is more than one of us. We do not play together, however. The three of us do have a special sort of a relationship dynamic when we do vanilla activities together which I really enjoy. Whether it's a poly type of dynamic or not, I'm not sure.

Different type of relationship dynamics do interest me. I'm not attracted to women particularly but I would be a little curious to see Master play with another sub -- though not really sure I could handle it. I wonder if some of the women who post ads looking for a third are as interested in finding that as the guy is?

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/2/2004 11:54:52 PM   
harmony3709


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quote:

ORIGINAL: realophelia

I wonder if some of the women who post ads looking for a third are as interested in finding that as the guy is?



I just went through this with a couple who contacted me and were interested in a poly relationship, although very little sex was to be expected (supposedly) between the two subs. (I don't consider myself bi either.) One of my first questions in return was.....is the submissive really interested in this or just doing it to please her Master? The response? No, she was not "really enthusiastic" about it, but knew it would "please Master". At least they were honest about how she felt. However, my response was then thanks but no thanks, mostly because I thought that meeting someone (the sub) who really didn't want you there in the first place was not my idea of fun.

harmony

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/3/2004 4:28:22 PM   
MistressDREAD


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quote:

RE: Is it just me?

Yep. LOL
Poly isent everywhere
We are the minority
when it comes to
relationship setups.
Ive watched men get
it on with each other
for My pleasure who
were straight. This
was not a desire of
theirs but was done
to please Me. I had
a active three way
marraige with two
Men for more years
then many here have
lived an successfully and
I gotta tell you it was
fun! Gawd how I miss
Them both.I have slaves
whom do not serve Me
in any kind of way sexually.

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/3/2004 4:35:27 PM   
MistressDREAD


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any dynamic of people whom are in a relationship of more then two is poly in nature when agreed apon. Sex does not have to be any part of it to be Poly. HOWEVER, Trust and Faith, Love, Devotion and Concensuality do. JMO

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/3/2004 6:51:42 PM   
feline


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Oakfrost

I understand that polyamory is a large part of the scene, but I'm just wondering if there are any sub females out there who are not looking for a female to be with their husband/significant other....just something I've noticed, was wondering if it's just me.



Hhmmm really? I'm curious as to what brought you to this conclusion?

Not wanting, not looking, not interested. On either side of it. Being a third or looking for one. You are not alone.

Take care,





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RE: Is it just me? - 12/14/2004 5:12:18 PM   
HadesJester


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Status: offline 		Yes, there are single het female sub/slaves looking for one-on-one with a het male dom/master.

They just don't want US!

That's the way it seems to me.

Then again, what do I know?

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RE: Is it just me? - 12/15/2004 3:44:47 AM   
SweetlyMisguided


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Status: offline 		I'm a single female... and I only seek one on one relationships...

My Master knows that I will never be poly... It's just not me... I couldn't handle it emotionally and the toll it would take on our relationship would destroy us both. Been there, done that... So don't say not to knock it until I try it... It's just NOT for me.


I will admit the quickest thing to upset me is when you have the submissives/slaves contacting people saying they are REALLY interested in this... yet they are only saying that for fear of losing their Master if they don't because they are being told "if you really loved me, you aren't a true slave, or the best... I'll find someone else who is" grrrrr just irks me to no end!

Though I respect those who are REALLY into it, and REALLY desire it to be a part of their relationship... Sorry... just not for me!


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