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Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/15/2016 6:51:47 AM   
eliottsky


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I just wonder if anyone else besides me would appreciate a condid review Section for both Doms and Subs. I see there's a section for "positive" experiences and that's great, but I've been burned once or twice on this site and having a review Section might prevent others from being disappointed. At the same time, Doms could post about the subs they've experienced - a referral of sorts that could help ease the mind of other Doms before enabling a one to one meeting with the sub. Referrals work great for business and they sometimes work good in personal hookups. There is no reason why it shouldn't help for subs seeking out Doms and vice versa. Just a suggestion.
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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/15/2016 7:42:23 AM   
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hmmmm so if you piss off a dominant(male or female) for some reason and he/she posts that you were the worst person they had ever met you would be ok with it?
Or a submissive that claims that they were abused(in any way) by a particular person or persons, you think that would be helpful ?
Referrals are one thing, blacklisting someone is utterly different.
Blacklisting and outting someone is against Terms Of Service
Did you not read them?
Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and sometimes they reek.
There is a reason there is a section only on POSTITVE experiences.



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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/15/2016 11:47:59 AM   
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Wow Duchess. Respectfully it was only a suggestion. I'm not sure why all the animosity just because I wanted to open a dialogue in the subject. Yes different people have different opinions, and how much "weight" is to be given is always up the receiver of the information. Frankly I'd rather have too much information or a little information than no information at all.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/15/2016 12:04:29 PM   
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You want an open dialogue, you got one. there was no animosity towards you. Towards peoples reasonings to have "negative experience" posts, yes. Not against you personally.

WE all have opinions and sometimes they stink, even mine. Also different levels of sensitivity
Exactly why negative experiences are not allowed on the board.
You can get a reference..it doesnt mean its a good or fair one, or even honest.
By all means read the sticky note on it.
Its the top topic on POSITIVE EXPERIENCES
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Criticism of other users is not permitted. Only members who have met other members from this site in person should post here.

You should also post the username(as of 02/10/13), date (or approximate time) of when you first met in person and how long you have known each other online prior. Any other details will be left up to the person posting. You do not have to be currently involved with anyone that you write about. The only requirements are that you have met them in person and it was a positive experience that you wish to share with others.

This is NOT the place to make accusations about other members since we have no way of knowing whether what is posted is true or not. That isn't a judgment call on any given person since a certain situation could all be true and posted with the best of intentions, but then again, it could be posted with intentions of slander or spite. We have no real way of knowing.

Subjects which are unacceptable regardless of circumstance include, but are not limited to - minors engaged in sexual activities, bestiality, incest involving minors, necrophilia, snuff and criminal activities. Any other questions of acceptability will be determined based on the content of the given essay.

Keep the discussions civil and mature, and do not insult the kinks, preferences, lifestyles, etc. of others.

There is an Off Topic Discussion category elsewhere on this board if you wish to bring up subjects other than those intended here.


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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/15/2016 1:36:55 PM   
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Duchess I'm sorry if this was posted in the wrong thread. I didn't see another thread where the suggestion could have been posted. I truly respect your reasoning and if those are the rules I certainly wouldn't and have never violated them. Yet, as I'm sure you probably also have observed there appear to be a number of real Doms that voice frustration at how many fake subs there are on this board. I'm sure there have been both Doms burned by fake subs (I. E. not extending a courtesy call on reasonable notice to a Dom if circumstances arose mandating a cancellation) and Subs like me burned by making an advance deposit and then blocking out time, driving to a given location only to find out that the Dom wasn't there and no longer responded to my polite email follow-ups. Respectfully, it does not deed to be construed as a "blacklist." the sub or Dom "criticised" would always be able to post his/her own version of the circumstances. I'm originally from new York and relied extensively on reviews of my fellow subs in seeking out Doms (albeit it was for professional services) and yes, when there were negative reviews, any Dom that was reputable would reply and give her version. But I can tell you that the process served to weed out a lot of fakes and time wasters. I don't want to name the directory that I relied upon (I'm not sure if I'm permitted to) but it is a long established directory and very well relied upon directory. Alaa, for some reason there are not many Doms in my given location (florida) that use that directory and I sought out other venues. I'm also looking for something more real than just a one hour professional session. Dear Duchess let me say again if my post in any way offended you or anyone else or violated any rules I deeply apologize and I won't say anything else on the subject. I was trying to be helpful but perhaps I'm just living proof that the subs ought to leave the thinking to the doms and I will now politely, respectfully and (genuinely sincerely) back down.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/16/2016 5:11:22 AM   
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Hi, eliottsky!

Not a bad idea. But it's part of collarspace's design not to allow ratings or reviews for the reasons Lucy stated. And your suggestion has been made every few months.

There is a way to accomplish your goal, though. Become a part of your local community. The grapevine works well to ascertain what a prospective partner's reputation is.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/16/2016 7:24:44 PM   
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Off Topic, but ...
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ORIGINAL: eliottsky

I was trying to be helpful but perhaps I'm just living proof that the subs ought to leave the thinking to the doms and I will now politely, respectfully and (genuinely sincerely) back down.

... You are badly mistaken. No dominant we know wants a mindless sub, nor one who will back down to others just because they carry the dominant label. This makes you less ownable, not more desirable to own. If you do not possess personal power and confidence in yourself and your abilities, then you have no power with which to make an exchange. You have nothing of added value to bring to the table, in other words.

Listen to DarkSteven, not because he is a dom, but because he gave you good advice.

In the mean time, use this as your litmus test:

Anybody who believes that a submissive should not be fully capable of thinking for oneself, or needs to be micromanaged, lacks credibility and cannot be trusted.

Anybody who believes random dominants are entitled to random submission outside of an ownership commitment, lacks credibility and should not be trusted.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/20/2016 6:39:06 PM   
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Lisa and Cub and I was saying it "tongue and cheek" - I guess that didn't come across in a message.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/21/2016 11:08:43 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: eliottsky
Lisa and Cub and I was saying it "tongue and cheek" - I guess that didn't come across in a message.

You would be amazed by how many kinky people have this mentality, not just among s-types (submissives, slaves) themselves, and not only with the inexperienced.

It is good, then, that you do not.

For future reference, you may want to avail yourself of the smiley grid to the left of composing a post, such as clicking onto or , in lieu of no sarcasm font.

BTW, it is a coincidence that dominants replied to you, because anybody can post anywhere on these fora. You could have gotten the same advice from another sub.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/25/2016 9:20:25 AM   
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Got it.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 5/29/2016 9:03:34 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: eliottsky

I just wonder if anyone else besides me would appreciate a condid review Section for both Doms and Subs.

1) Blacklisting is not permitted on this site because it cannot be verified
2) If you meet someone and it doesn't click you're at risk at being made a pariah because of one person
3) You're going to post a review of your last relationship?

It's too suggestive and does harm rather than good.

Honestly, I could go post a false review of you right now. How would you like that?

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 8/2/2016 5:29:20 AM   
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LOL personally I would like a LIST of the fakes and scammers. What a time saver that would be

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 8/2/2016 5:41:20 AM   
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would you be happy if your name was added to the "list" of fakes and scammers?

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 8/2/2016 10:36:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Montanaman66

LOL personally I would like a LIST of the fakes and scammers. What a time saver that would be

There is such a list, and you're on it.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 8/2/2016 11:21:48 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: stef


quote:

ORIGINAL: Montanaman66

LOL personally I would like a LIST of the fakes and scammers. What a time saver that would be

There is such a list, and you're on it.

I found it on the list.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 8/4/2016 8:47:00 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Montanaman66

LOL personally I would like a LIST of the fakes and scammers. What a time saver that would be


No point. The collarspace site actively tracks profiles with complaints against them. Once a threshold number of complaints is received, the profile is deleted.

That said, definitions vary. For me, a fake profile is one that has a pic of a beautiful woman, horrible English, no selection criteria, promises of sex and sometimes cooking, etc., and will be asking for relocation money in a conversation. For another man, a fake profile is any woman that refuses to comply with a "On your knees and suck my cock you filthy slut!" initial message.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 3/21/2017 1:51:22 PM   
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I,d like a site filter that automatically deletes any profile that emails the words "on your knees bitch",and then blocks the computer name from creating a new one.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 3/21/2017 8:33:07 PM   
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I,d like a site filter that automatically deletes any profile that emails the words "on your knees bitch",and then blocks the computer name from creating a new one.


Lol... is that a big problem for you? Lol.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 3/22/2017 2:06:24 AM   
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Yeah, because whats really important is to commodotise us more. It's not like we're actual people.

Right I'm off out to get an energy efficiency rating tatooed on my cock.

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RE: Review Section for Doms and Subs? - 3/22/2017 6:17:15 AM   
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Yeah, because whats really important is to commodotise us more. It's not like we're actual people.

Right I'm off out to get an energy efficiency rating tatooed on my cock.

Does receiving a gold star rating entitle one to order the super sub then?

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