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verbatimguy -> RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an obsession? (5/17/2016 12:13:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
As women, we start to sense that there are some men who are natural givers in bed, and others who have reduced pussy-worship to such an intense fetish that the woman is secondary.
And if a man is doing anything, ANYTHING to pressure her, or sulk when denied, it's just not appropriate.
And it is NOT necessary for a woman to give any reason at all other than, "I just don't feel like it."
For men who are insistent, say they just want to please her, and going down on her is something he is good at and what's wrong - she WILL have an orgasm, right? For these men, how would your attitude change if she said, "I actually really would rather have you massage my shoulders for a half hour right now. I am feeling super tense about work."
It's the sulking and passive behavior that comes with a man's pussy obsession that creates relationship problems. The fact that some women actually sit back and think of other things or just wait to get it over with so his ego can feel good. You want to avoid that.
This reddit thread shares some personal stories on the matter:
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1p0e2t/unique_problem_boyfriend_m25_seems_obsessed_with/
"On the one hand, it's nice he seems so eager to please you. On the other, based on his mood when he can't I'd wager his fascination with oral is more for his own enjoyment than yours. Let him know that while you appreciate his willingness it is not cool for him to pressure you into it. I mean, come on, you are on the receiving end! If you're not enjoying it then what's the point? It would be like if you insisted on cooking him an expensive, 3-course meal every night. Sometimes it's great, but eventually you get tired if filet mignon and just want a burger!
Maybe try setting up oral nights a few times a week? A way for you both to please each other."
Guys, just be careful about not making her feel objectified, and listen when she says she's not up for it. Do not pout or be passive aggressive. Otherwise she will endure it out of guilt, then it can escalate as a quick fix, and then she'll start faking that it's the best thing ever to keep you from sulking.
Adore the whole woman, not just the pussy.
Akasha
The advices to adore the entire woman is good.
So is doing what she wants is good.
Why else do it unless she asks for it in the first place>
My only job is to let her know that she can ask and not be at all worried about reciproacation.
If she doesn't wish to ask she can tell but if she doesn't wish to ask or tell that is ok too.
Always it is up to her at her whim is the only point.
If she smile that is good.
If she happy that is good.
Why else do it unless that be so?
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