Bhruic
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Joined: 4/11/2012 From: Toronto, Canada Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: newbiesub1977 my one and only goal is to please Sir. From a submissive's point of view, how do you overcome apprehension / anxiety / fear about trying something that you are unsure about? I want to please him, but feel uncomfortable with the idea of walking around like a dog? it is a complete mindf^ck for me as i do not want to risk making him unhappy when everything has been going so well. Is that sort of thing a dehumanizing exercise or does it invoke respect from a Master? i am afraid of having the discussion because I so want to please Sir, but also want to retain respect?.. Next, may sound stupid, but where is the difference between submissive and slave? i would appreciate and and all input please It sounds to me like you have a ways to go yet before you understand what you want, and why it excites you. Both submission and slavery intrinsically require submission and obedience. Many people derive their pleasure in the fact of being required to do something that makes them uncomfortable. That is what gives them the sense of having submitted, or of being an obedient slave. For some, it would be hard to feel submissive doing only what you already want to do. You say your only goal is to please Sir... but it sounds like what you really want is that he just be please with whatever you are comfortable with. I'm not saying what you should do, or be... I'm just saying that it sounds like you have embraced the language and trappings of a particular scene, before knowing what, in fact, you really want. The way out of that is for both you and your partner to have open, frank, discussion of what you each want and need. No worthwhile Dominant would be offended by that. And if your fear is that you might tell him things he doesn't want to hear... that there are things he wants that you just don't want to do... then better to have that conversation sooner than later, because if you don't, you will disappoint him anyway, but it will be worse if you wait. In my own relationship, the difference between submission and slavery is that the slave is committed to total obedience. Yes, consensual slavery is a sort of illusion, but it is a very powerful one. The slave trusts that the dominant will not demand something that will go too far and break the relationship, and the Dominant trusts that if they keep to that, the slave will obey all commands. As you can imagine, for that to work, you have to know each other very well... and that happens only by open communication.
< Message edited by Bhruic -- 7/31/2016 7:29:06 AM >
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