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armysgt -> In your head. (7/17/2016 1:02:55 PM)
Submissive, This game is played out in your head. The marks and welts on your skin are only past moves of pieces shifted about the game board..... and as ephemeral. The mind is truly where the "Game" is played. Crafting the "scene" is so important to wending your consciousness of into "subspace" that this an important area to solicit your input regularly. Scents like vanilla or sandalwood can instantly invoke your yearning for a guiding, controlling presence. Sounds like Italian opera, a forest at night, or the chanting of Buddhist monks can jar you out of the moment and into your "other space". I am looking for some fresh perspectives on drawing a submissive out of her (his?) daily public persona and sweep them into their more true identity.

littleladybug -> RE: In your head. (7/17/2016 1:24:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: armysgt I am looking for some fresh perspectives on drawing a submissive out of her (his?) daily public persona and sweep them into their more true identity. I would think that what might work to move someone into a different mindset would be a very individual thing.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: In your head. (7/17/2016 1:57:01 PM)
What a load of balderdash.

LilJuly76 -> RE: In your head. (7/17/2016 2:51:15 PM)
can you explain what he's talking about? Because I'm lost.......

armysgt -> RE: In your head. (7/17/2016 2:59:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LilJuly76 can you explain what he's talking about? Because I'm lost....... What I mean is the "scene" is really set by the submissive. So what internal and external factors (this is particularly individual) sets the mood for the submissive? As a Dominant, I only really need to be in charge, setting and place does nothing for me. However, I have found time and again it is the fantasies and expectations of the submissive that drives the D/s relationship. Mileage may vary for others of course. So I am really looking to add to the props and aids that keeps a D/s relationship fresh.

angelikaJ -> RE: In your head. (7/17/2016 3:06:59 PM)
It doesn't work that way for me. I belong to Him. The rest is just the icing on the cake. If my thoughts are scattered one whispered word settles them: "Mine". So there isn't a stage to set. It isn't a scene. I belong to Him.

LilJuly76 -> RE: In your head. (7/17/2016 3:11:48 PM)
um yeah I'm with angelika3 on this one. I belong to him. D/s isn't a scene, and I don't choose how we go. I had a spanking session yesterday, I didn't give the idea, I didn't give instructions on it, I just went with it. if scene you mean session, I never set my scenes it's up to the Dominant that I'm involved with how he wants it done. D/s is not based on fantasies fantasies are for the bedroom.

kiwisub22 -> RE: In your head. (7/17/2016 6:02:14 PM)
when my dom was alive, there wasn't a scene, there was just life. If he wanted me to cook dinner that is what I did. If he wanted to beat me that is what he did, and there wasn't setting any scenary for me . If he wanted music then he played what he wanted. As his submissive, I expressed opinions - when he asked for them. Because he loved me and cared for my feelings if he knew I didn't care for a specific activity, there was a good chance that we wouldn't be doing that, but no guarantee..... Actually, when he told me he wanted me in the dungeon, that pretty much put me into the right frame of mind - I knew what was going to ensue.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: In your head. (7/17/2016 7:01:22 PM)
quote: What I mean is the "scene" is really set by the submissive. Not around here.

OsideGirl -> RE: In your head. (7/17/2016 10:01:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick quote: What I mean is the "scene" is really set by the submissive. Not around here. Awww, that's cute - he thinks "scening" equals submission.

LilJuly76 -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 3:31:08 AM)
he also thinks that scening means D/s, I smell newbie on an open BBQ anyone?

Lookin4Lace -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 8:35:44 AM)
Look armysgt no offense but a subs place is at a Masters feet, where he/she goes they follow, what you see on tv or in porn websites is pure fantasy, your not going to find that here. The Doms or Masters this place has are some of the finest livery i have seen in this lifestyle and are devoted to their self awareness, being a Dom/Master or sub the roles are lived by their respected parties they are not acted out for fantasy or role play evening get togethers this is how we live here.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 9:25:27 AM)
quote: Look armysgt no offense but a subs place is at a Masters feet Not around here, around here my place is at his side.

OsideGirl -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 10:47:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick quote: Look armysgt no offense but a subs place is at a Masters feet Not around here, around here my place is at his side. Agreed. M views having a submissive as something that makes life easier. That means that my skills and strengths get used, not wasted sitting at his feet.

LilJuly76 -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 2:36:39 PM)
yeah I never been involved with a Dominant yet that wants me at his feet, scrub floors, make beds, cook what he wants for supper, do laundry, vacuum.... haven't been able to sit by the feet yet.

Lookin4Lace -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 3:55:21 PM)
Fine if you want to be technical about it let me rephrase that for you all, sheesh ok a Dom instructs , a sub is acting or rather living in service to the Dom/Master, It was expressly implied in that type to show segregation between the one controlling and the one controlled in the above replies their dynamic is correct in the gorean lifestyle mine is correct

LilJuly76 -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 4:11:31 PM)
oh I'm not even going to start with that.... or will I?

OsideGirl -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 4:41:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lookin4Lace Fine if you want to be technical about it let me rephrase that for you all, sheesh ok a Dom instructs , a sub is acting or rather living in service to the Dom/Master, It was expressly implied in that type to show segregation between the one controlling and the one controlled in the above replies their dynamic is correct in the gorean lifestyle mine is correct The reason for my reply is that many throw out fantasy based ideas of how their D/s relationship will function, when in reality it's an unrealistic expectation that adds stress to relationship when it doesn't work. Real life happens.

ResidentSadist -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 5:35:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick quote: What I mean is the "scene" is really set by the submissive. Not around here. Same in my house...

DesFIP -> RE: In your head. (7/18/2016 8:09:13 PM)
Play is not my true identity. It's the fact that he does have that authority in real life which makes this real. And because he cares about me, he'll usually get around to fulfilling my requests.

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