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RE: Being a Findom - 9/30/2016 2:02:06 AM

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your post is still there, you were calling submissives names, that's not any sort of Dominant at all. I'm with Gauge all the way (by the way Gauge you're so darn likeable)

ALL the findoms I've seen do that. In fact all the online Dommes I've seen here and on fet do that. I thought in that circle it was expected and encouraged
I'm guessing the ladies in question wouldn't do it if they didn't get the response they wanted from their intended victims.....erm......audience

I just popped back into this thread.

Greatlilbabygirl, I think you need to pay WAY more attention, if you've not already corrected yourself. I am a domme,and one of the LAST things I want to do, generally, is call anyone names. In fact, I rarely see dominant women in real life or on these forums calling submissives names, because WE LOVE SUBMISSIVES.

The ones I do see calling men names in real life are of two camps:

1. They are affectionate names.
2. They have negotiated a humiliation dynamic.

I would suggest that instead of painting an entire group with an assumptive brush, that you look at the kind of people who display different types of behavior and draw better conclusions.

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RE: Being a Findom - 9/30/2016 3:20:28 AM

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wow I didn't even see GLBG's response. excellent answer Nookie. if one goes by those findomme's online as to how Domme's treat submissives of any kind than they need to ask more questions to the ones that know what they are talking about. I have known a lot of Domme's in 22 years, and they all treat submissives with respect, including the ones that they aren't involved with.

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RE: Being a Findom - 10/1/2016 2:59:52 PM

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Concur OsideGirl!

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RE: Being a Findom - 10/2/2016 1:26:59 PM

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TNDommeK, My heart is going pitty-pat! ;-D

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RE: Being a Findom - 10/3/2016 10:27:18 PM

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TNDommeK, My heart is going pitty-pat! ;-D

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RE: Being a Findom - 10/4/2016 1:36:25 AM

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I don't utter a word and my slaves empty their wallets for me.

and I LOVE it because what I want I get. With no effort at all.

With a snap of my fingers and saliva on my boot with money in my bank account well "It gets no better than that."

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Ah so you have over 5 years experience holding out your hand? I dont know sounds too complicated for me.

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RE: Being a Findom - 10/5/2016 5:36:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

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your post is still there, you were calling submissives names, that's not any sort of Dominant at all. I'm with Gauge all the way (by the way Gauge you're so darn likeable)

ALL the findoms I've seen do that. In fact all the online Dommes I've seen here and on fet do that. I thought in that circle it was expected and encouraged
I'm guessing the ladies in question wouldn't do it if they didn't get the response they wanted from their intended victims.....erm......audience

We don't all do it, not genuine Findommes anyway, though I've seen it a million times myself, and I find it disappointing. It's part of the reason we get labeled scammers and gold diggers so often - a million girls peddling the same angry line because they don't actually feel or understand Findomme. Yes, there are many men who enjoy being spoken to or treated like that, but because they desire it, it becomes more of a rewarding or positive play, not a true opinion. Most Findommes respect and value their subs. We inspire them to want to please us - we aren't schoolyard bullies taking their money (unless that is part of the game ;-)) and we are not pro's making a deal regarding sessions. I have total respect for pro Dommes, but that isn't Findomme.
I think a lot of the reason Findomme is turning transactional (as someone said previously) is that more and more girls like this are getting into it without understanding. We are certainly getting a bad name due to the thousands of "I'll take your hard earned money" ads.

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