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fluffygiggler -> A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 12:42:59 AM)
In a poly relationship, (a V relationship), would you want to stay in a Dom/sub relationship where your Dom would always change his order that he gave to you to what she says to do if the alpha sub disagreed with his initial order? Just something I've seen, and want to hear opinions about the relationship.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 4:32:28 AM)
It the tail wagging the dog syndrome. He is no dominant in my book. Unless there is a safety reason for not following his order, the sub shouldn't be making suggestions. And if there was a safety issue for this, he still isn't a responsible dom. The other sub should get out of this V, post-haste. Unless they are a doormat, I can't see this ending well.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 5:22:05 AM)
No

LilJuly76 -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 5:43:54 AM)
lately we seen a few subs that shouldn't be in V relationships and their Dominants do not seem to be Dominant. good advice to the OP though.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 5:52:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl No No??? To what exactly??

LilJuly76 -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 6:11:28 AM)
she's probably replying to the OP but didn't bother hitting reply after them.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 6:29:09 AM)
Why don't people use the 'Reply' button instead of the general box? That's what it's there for. [8\|] I know the software is crap on here but that has always worked.

LilJuly76 -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 7:04:08 AM)
until somebody pointed it out to me I was just leaving the last reply, since than I try to use the reply button, sometimes I forget. regardless "no" doesn't add much to the conversation.

kiwisub22 -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 7:21:34 AM)
In my relationship with my dominant, if I disagreed with him, I had permission to speak up - because, as he said, I was intelligent and had a valid point of view. That didn't mean he would change his mind, but he would listen. And just as a point of interest - does he ALWAYS change his order, or does he change it enough that it pisses you off that you are essentially obeying the orders of another submissive? Either way, if there is something about your situation that is annoying you enough to write a forum post, it would behoove the health of the relationship to address this matter to him, and probably her as well.

DesFIP -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 7:38:38 AM)
It means he's smart enough to have picked a smart partner and wise enough to use her intelligence in his favor. By listening to her advice, he stops thinking with his dick and re-engages his brain. When The Man listens to my advice and changes his mind, it's because I've pointed out a potential pitfall. And by heeding what I said, he avoids making that mistake. Why do I get the feeling that the op wants to break up this couple and take her place? In many poly relationships, the primary partner gets veto privilege because she can identify when the third is pretending to be poly while scheming to get the guy for herself. Smart doms know they are less likely to identify this until after damage has been done and therefore accept their partner is wiser at seeing it and thus will take her words as gospel.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 7:54:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1 Why don't people use the 'Reply' button instead of the general box? That's what it's there for. [8\|] I know the software is crap on here but that has always worked. Sorry

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 7:56:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LilJuly76 until somebody pointed it out to me I was just leaving the last reply, since than I try to use the reply button, sometimes I forget. regardless "no" doesn't add much to the conversation. It was a yes or no question. My answer was no Why are you always so seemingly critical in your responses?

Gauge -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 8:05:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fluffygiggler In a poly relationship, (a V relationship), would you want to stay in a Dom/sub relationship where your Dom would always change his order that he gave to you to what she says to do if the alpha sub disagreed with his initial order? Just something I've seen, and want to hear opinions about the relationship. Give an example of the disagreement. This is the only way to accurately judge what is going on. For myself, if I would change my mind, it would depend on my girl's objection and reasoning for it. Although, it rarely, if ever, happens.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 8:18:34 AM)
Good response Gauge. My guess is that it doesn't happen so often in your situation because you are on top of things and are responsible; hence the problem seldom arises.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 8:59:30 AM)
quote: the sub shouldn't be making suggestions. Oh bullshit

tamaka -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 9:29:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP It means he's smart enough to have picked a smart partner and wise enough to use her intelligence in his favor. By listening to her advice, he stops thinking with his dick and re-engages his brain. When The Man listens to my advice and changes his mind, it's because I've pointed out a potential pitfall. And by heeding what I said, he avoids making that mistake. Why do I get the feeling that the op wants to break up this couple and take her place? In many poly relationships, the primary partner gets veto privilege because she can identify when the third is pretending to be poly while scheming to get the guy for herself. Smart doms know they are less likely to identify this until after damage has been done and therefore accept their partner is wiser at seeing it and thus will take her words as gospel. I understand what you're saying but for me this would cause a problem if it happened too often. If my Master didn't have the ability to think through things, exercise good judgement and make good decisions on his own... if he needed her to help him to do this too often, he wouldn't be the right Dom/Master for me.

WickedsDesire -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 9:33:05 AM)
DesFIP excellent point. But an example or three would have been nice from Op

LilJuly76 -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 9:40:09 AM)
you take things so personal all the time, drives me nuts. If you notice most people's posts to whoever leaves the original post, they add more then just a one word answer, they leave their thoughts and sometimes recommendations, people can think about things more that way and process it at their leisure, what they do with the information is up to them.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 10:00:16 AM)
quote: he wouldn't be the right Dom/Master for me. The "for me" is the key point here. Me, I want a dominant who listens to me

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: A Dom that lets his alpha sub change his mind (9/17/2016 10:01:20 AM)
quote: If you notice most people's posts to whoever leaves the original post, they add more then just a one word answer So? Let her answer however she wants to.

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