Should I be concerned?

Join Our Community

Collarchat.com

Home Login Search

Should I be concerned?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Polls and Other Random Stupidity >> Should I be concerned?

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Should I be concerned? - 9/22/2016 3:08:18 PM

shiftyw

Posts: 2837
Joined: 6/6/2013
From: The Shire
Status: offline

In the past two weeks I have been contacted by two (I'm hoping different people- if not- then it's creepier) guys I chatted with online but never actually met. One texted me- looking to see how life was now- 8 years after our last conversation. The other found me on fetlife and said "hey I think we talked a lifetime ago- either way you're a smoke show!" And after asking him what he meant- I chatted with him a decade ago!

Is this just a weird thing that's happening? Or is it maybe the same person (and has been for years, like literally a decade of this)? Just so creepy to me it happening back to back like this. i just hope no one turns up at my doorstep to skin me anytime soon. But for real- am I paranoid? Or is this creepy?

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: Should I be concerned? - 9/22/2016 3:24:40 PM

OsideGirl

Posts: 14415
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline

I think I would be concerned if the conversations become invasive, otherwise, I think you're probably fine.

I recently stumbled across an old boyfriend from over 20 years ago. He's the VP of a company for which I was putting together a bid. I'm sure he thought I was a stalker when he got the email until I explained that I was sending a reply to an RFP.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 9/22/2016 3:39:46 PM >

_____________________________

Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

(in reply to shiftyw)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: Should I be concerned? - 9/22/2016 3:34:07 PM

jlf1961

Posts: 14840
Joined: 6/10/2008
From: Somewhere Texas
Status: offline

What Oside said.

Now, just because I can, and she threatened to punch anyone who said it in the throat....

That's a lot of bike

<<<<figures when her and her guy show up to do the throat punching, they will settle for a couple of beers and steaks.

_____________________________

Boy, it sure would be nice if we had some grenades, don't you think?

You cannot control who comes into your life, but you can control which airlock you throw them out of.

Paranoid Paramilitary Gun Loving Conspiracy Theorist AND EQUAL OPPORTUNI

(in reply to OsideGirl)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: Should I be concerned? - 9/22/2016 3:41:52 PM

OsideGirl

Posts: 14415
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: jlf1961

What Oside said.

Now, just because I can, and she threatened to punch anyone who said it in the throat....

That's a lot of bike

<<<<figures when her and her guy show up to do the throat punching, they will settle for a couple of beers and steaks.

_____________________________

Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

(in reply to jlf1961)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: Should I be concerned? - 9/22/2016 3:48:24 PM

longwayhome

Posts: 1035
Joined: 1/9/2008
Status: offline

It's going to happen every so often surely.

You only notice the coincidence because it doesn't happen that often, but if you think of all the people you have randomly met over the years, it would be strange if you didn't "bump" into one or two of them occasionally.

Same rules as any non-continuous friend or acquaintance contacting you or vice-versa. There's only something wrong with it if it becomes a bit stalkery. Someone saying hi, being respectful then reading the cues in how you respond more or less correctly isn't any more of a problem than any other random communication.

I get why it might seem a bit creepy, especially if you think it might be people you want to actively avoid.

I can think of a few people I would rather not contact me, but on the other hand my curiosity would probably trump any sense of suspicion I might have.

(in reply to shiftyw)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: Should I be concerned? - 9/23/2016 4:49:26 AM

WhoreMods

Posts: 10691
Joined: 5/6/2016
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: longwayhome

It's going to happen every so often surely.

You only notice the coincidence because it doesn't happen that often, but if you think of all the people you have randomly met over the years, it would be strange if you didn't "bump" into one or two of them occasionally.

Same rules as any non-continuous friend or acquaintance contacting you or vice-versa. There's only something wrong with it if it becomes a bit stalkery. Someone saying hi, being respectful then reading the cues in how you respond more or less correctly isn't any more of a problem than any other random communication.

I get why it might seem a bit creepy, especially if you think it might be people you want to actively avoid.

I can think of a few people I would rather not contact me, but on the other hand my curiosity would probably trump any sense of suspicion I might have.

This.
It's like it says in Ecclesiastes: "to everything there is a season". If it's the season for people you haven't spoken to in years to try to get back in touch, then that can happen.

_____________________________

On the level and looking for a square deal.

(in reply to longwayhome)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: Should I be concerned? - 9/24/2016 11:28:49 AM

YourSincereSlave

Posts: 82
Joined: 7/29/2016
Status: offline

8 years is a very long time for a stalker to wait.. It's probably just sincere curiosity.

(in reply to WhoreMods)

Profile

Post #: 7