Relationships are supposed to adjust as need and expectations change. I see this as a positive.
Edit: and so does he. This gives him the chance to find his primary without my jealousy being an issue and we can still have eachother in our lives. I think this was a mature decision.
First, wasn't offended. Just wires crossed.
Second, I don''t know who you (and he) think you're kidding. I'm the first person to say that topping/bottoming doesn't necessarily mean there's an emotional attachment. Heck, even having a dynamic with someone doesn't automatically mean there's an emotional attachment.
However, if you're going into this idea of "just playing" when you already know you have an emotional attachment going in, I find it highly unlikely that anything is going to change. You're still going to be jealous, possessive, and (no offense) kind of neurotic. All you did was remove the kink title/label away. (Meaning, you are saying you are not his sub anymore.)
I'm going by what you have said on all of the threads that you've written. You say you have a sincere emotional attachment to this person. That part, I believe.
What I don't believe is that you think that emotional attachment isn't going to be brought to the forefront once the endorphins start flying during play.
In my opinion, you are setting yourself up for something really stupid. Truthfully, you don't need to do so. You've already written on other threads that you have other casual kink ~ S/m partners to get the *physical* wants satisfied. Play with those folks instead, rather than set yourself up for the powder keg. Until such time as you see the person the exact same way as any other top, with no greater (or less) emotion as you would any other play partner, that's not the person you should be playing with.
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