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ebonylapdog -> sexual self control (12/4/2004 4:40:50 PM)
Hello, i have a question i thought might be good to ask here: If a slave is unowned / and - or not kept in chasitity how do you maintain self control and not masturbate. Personally i find it difficult to keep my hands to myself but i know this behavior/ mindset is improper for a slave and will not be looked at kindly by a Domme interested in me. i'd appreciate any suggesting the group might have. respectfully, dog

mydestinyunfolds -> RE: sexual self control (12/4/2004 6:48:07 PM)
If you are un-owned then why can't you maturbate? i could understand if you were in a relationship (owned) or working with A Dom/Domme/ Master/Mistress/Top that you would want to obey and only masturbate if you are allowed. Since you don't seem to be in a relationship or owned then i see no reason why you can't pleasure your self until you find that specail Someone. Just my opinion. katie

BeachMystress -> RE: sexual self control (12/4/2004 7:10:14 PM)
Posting the same question in more than one forum is frowned upon. The mods will del one of them.

ebonylapdog -> RE: sexual self control (12/4/2004 7:54:34 PM)
Thank You about the info on posting in more than one forum, this dog was unaware. The reason i don't want to masterbate is because i've noticed the mindset it instills in me -- that i can have my own pleasure whenever i want -- while this is gratifying sexually it is something i seek to get away from as a true slave. respectfully, dog

BeachMystress -> RE: sexual self control (12/4/2004 7:55:31 PM)
If you aren't owned, why do you think anyone cares about your masturbatory habits? Also, if you curtail it yourself, it is not something you can gift to a Domme. I have a sweet sub who is refraining from masturbating for a week for me. I'm very touched and made happy by this because I know it isn't his choice. He's doing it for ME. How would it be a gift to me if he just did it all the time? Think about it.....

subgreg -> RE: sexual self control (12/4/2004 8:02:41 PM)
I don't think a potential Mistress would hold it against you if you like to masturbate. Abstaining from masturbation just to show you can is actually somewhat self involved and has nothing to do with submission. If however you are wondering what it would take if this was requested of you by a Domme, then I would say it was mostly a matter of self control. If pleasing the Domme really means more to you than sexual release, you will not do it. Of course, it helps if you do not put yourself in the position where you will be tempted to masturbate.

BeachMystress -> RE: sexual self control (12/4/2004 8:06:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subgreg Of course, it helps if you do not put yourself in the position where you will be tempted to masturbate. You mean like not looking at sets of images like these? innocent smile

proudsub -> RE: sexual self control (12/4/2004 10:07:04 PM)
quote: You mean like not looking at sets of images like these? innocent smile OMG LMAO, now you're being cruel to the poor guy.[;)]

perverseangelic -> RE: sexual self control (12/4/2004 10:43:45 PM)
quote: The reason i don't want to masterbate is because i've noticed the mindset it instills in me -- that i can have my own pleasure whenever i want -- while this is gratifying sexually it is something i seek to get away from as a true slave. Honestly, I don't see the point to controlling masturbatory habits if you are unowned. The way I see it, one's pleasure is one's own untill one chooses to give it to someone else. As an unowned individual you -can- have your pleasure whenever you want. It's only when your body, yourself becomes someone else's that your pleasure isn't yours anymore. I actually talked to my partner about this one, because it was one of the hardest things for me to do. He says that he believes that going from no restriction at all to total reliance on one's partner for pleasure shows an incredible amount of self control, discipline, and respect for the partner.

BeachMystress -> RE: sexual self control (12/5/2004 12:51:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: proudsub quote: You mean like not looking at sets of images like these? innocent smile OMG LMAO, now you're being cruel to the poor guy.[;)] I'm being more mean to the poor guy than you know winks and props halo back up on horns

ebonylapdog -> RE: sexual self control (12/6/2004 11:01:28 AM)
Thank You all for the responses - they gave me some needed perspective. Mystress Beach, that was cruel...thank You. : ) dog

subgreg -> RE: sexual self control (12/6/2004 4:55:35 PM)
Ma'am, Taking my own advice and not going past 100 on those pics.

BeachMystress -> RE: sexual self control (12/6/2004 5:23:19 PM)
grins glad to have promoted random acts of dominant cruelty.. :-) That was actually directed as a tease to sub greg, who is actually trying his hand.. er.. ah NOT trying his hand so to speak, at abstaining from self gratification for a bit for me. :-) quote: ORIGINAL: subgreg Ma'am, Taking my own advice and not going past 100 on those pics. That's probably a very good idea hon.. I'll be so disappointed if you don't manage to make it till Friday! I do believe in you though and know you'll manage it for me. Friday will be well worth the wait.

theroebabe -> RE: sexual self control (12/6/2004 5:58:14 PM)
I have to agree with what has been poste here. If you are unowned, yo ucan do what you want and enjoy it, once you are owned then you have to obey. SO ENJOY!!!!!!

juicycute -> RE: sexual self control (12/6/2004 9:27:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeachMystress quote: ORIGINAL: subgreg Of course, it helps if you do not put yourself in the position where you will be tempted to masturbate. You mean like not looking at sets of images like these? innocent smile ROFL!! So very bad... i love it!

stef -> RE: sexual self control (12/6/2004 10:00:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juicycute ROFL!! So very bad... i love it! Indeed! Harukawa's art is wonderful [:)] ~stef

BeachMystress -> RE: sexual self control (12/8/2004 2:21:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sfgrrl quote: ORIGINAL: juicycute ROFL!! So very bad... i love it! Indeed! Harukawa's art is wonderful [:)] ~stef I love him too. That is my personal collection :-)

srahfox -> RE: sexual self control (12/8/2004 12:20:35 PM)
My view on it is that you aren't really offering your future owner anything if it was something you'd given up on your own. However, if you masterbate all the time and then give it up for that person, that is something.

inadazey -> RE: sexual self control (12/9/2004 1:30:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeachMystress If you aren't owned, why do you think anyone cares about your masturbatory habits? Also, if you curtail it yourself, it is not something you can gift to a Domme. I have a sweet sub who is refraining from masturbating for a week for me. I'm very touched and made happy by this because I know it isn't his choice. He's doing it for ME. How would it be a gift to me if he just did it all the time? Think about it..... I think that is an EXCELLENT point.. wouldn't you rather take this time while you are unowned to pleasure yourself as much and however you want, and then, when you find your Domme, give all of that control to her??

cynnacent1 -> RE: sexual self control (12/10/2004 8:35:42 AM)
quote: If a slave is unowned / and - or not kept in chasitity how do you maintain self control and not masturbate. If a slave is unowned, who are they a slave to? Just my opinion, but if one is not owned, technically they are not a slave at that time. They may have the qualities needed to be a slave but in all essence, they are free. In that case i see no need for self control regarding masturbation. If one were to maintain control, who are they submitting to in that control? Their self? An undetermined 'future' master? My opinion stands that if one is not owned, masturbate & masturbate often. ¸,ø¤º°cynnacent°º¤ø,¸ (proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND)

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