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Was I out of order here? - 10/27/2016 10:46:39 AM

LukeSilver

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I get a lot of messages on Bdsm sites with people telling me not to trust person X because they are a scammer it gets pretty annoying after a while.

today I got the following message

"Hello Sorry to bother you and this is NOT SPAM! but this email is to make you aware that the profile XXXXXX is NOT the real XXXXXX as I know her and can confirm this, ignore this profile and do NOT pay!!!"

so I replied with the following.

Hi thanks for the message, I am sure you feel frustrated due to rightly or wrongly feeling that you paid for a service that you did not get.

You may think I identify this as someone who is caring and concerned has been injured and wants to protect other people from such an unpleasant occurrence. Well you would be wrong I know this is not the case.

The truth is I am well aware that so called Dominants and so called Submissives otherwise identifying as Findoms and paypigs get in disputes over exchange of services for money. Sometimes the findoms feel that the Paypigs have wasted their time and used them for a quick twang of the wrist when they were never serious. Other times Paypigs feel that the Findoms have taken their money and failed to provide sufficient gratification for their kinks.

It is difficult for anyone on the outside to know for sure, which way this one goes or whether it is a combination of the two. You may at this point feel that you can perfectly explain why the other party is a scammer in the wrong etc. In the back of your mind your brain is probably simulating scenario where you break this down point for point, and I am left with no logical choice but to agree with your logic to come out and condemn this person.

Your self righteous mentality feels a sense of justice and satisfaction regarding this scenario.

However you may have come to the realization if you have read to this point that this is not the scenario that is going to play out.

I don't condemn peoples kinks if you get off on Findom that is fine, However I personally have a standard of wanting to know the girl properly before I engage in any Dom/Sub stuff I may ask about kinks and etc to feel how compatible we are but I am not just pulling the skin of my penis in raw exacerbation regarding the concept of any random stranger happening to marginally fulfill whatever perverted thoughts I have in my mind.

I also have a standard of not been a complete Idiot by trusting random strangers without any form of verification with my money over the internet. If I really get desperate for the twang of the wrist I do have pornhub."

I think my reply was harsh but funny, it just gets annoying after a while, and I snapped. I do think I should keep this as a standard template reply message for when I get these annoying messages.

Is this really out of order or justified?

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RE: Was I out of order here? - 10/27/2016 11:17:30 AM

BitaTruble

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Out of order and not at all funny and chock full of assumptions. Also, very doubtful that it will hold true for the next or subsequent email warnings to you so to use it as a template..not a good idea but..it is up to you how to handle your email account.

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RE: Was I out of order here? - 10/27/2016 8:09:32 PM

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quote:

Is this really out of order or justified?

neither really, more just petty.

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RE: Was I out of order here? - 10/29/2016 8:30:49 AM

WickedsDesire

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I find it hard to believe you get many messages on BDSM sites. Guys rarely get messages...ive never had one along those lines either in my lifetime on here - which is 11-13 years

Personally I think you took a lot of time and I am undecided what to make or the mail you were sent and its purpose and the intent of the sender.

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RE: Was I out of order here? - 10/31/2016 1:55:16 PM

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I've gotten messages that turned out to be cam models

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RE: Was I out of order here? - 11/4/2016 3:24:57 PM

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Hello A/all,

I confess that I am uncertain of where your message to the "offending party" ends and the rest of your
post resumes. You may have intended humor... I didn't really read any. I think that a simple, "Thanks."
would have been sufficient.

I occasionally get unsolicited messages here on CS. I look upon them with... Well, you know the saying,
"Take him/her with a grain of salt?' Do you know those big blocks of salt left out for cows to lick?

'Nuff said.

Respectfully,
(s) Mike
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