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LordBennett -> congratulations and good luck (7/23/2006 12:55:12 PM)
Do subs/slaves see something wrong with a master or dominant writing them and telling them congratulations when they have just found their one or wishing them good luck in their search? I think it is nothing more than being polite and acknowledging their status and desires. As a result I will do it. I seldom get a reply but I do not expect one.

juliaoceania -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/23/2006 12:57:54 PM)
I see nothing inherently wrong in it but you must realize that in the case of an owned sub that it may be considered rude and trolling to contact her for any reason.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/23/2006 1:00:35 PM)
I do the same thing. I often congratulate boys I see who postt hat they are owned or collared, especially ones whom I have talked to in the past. I always thought it was polite. But then again I do the same for Masters and Mistress announcing they ahve collered their perfect pets and whatnot. As for wishing luck, I do that for everyone. How could it be considered offensive, if you dont want people to be happy for you, then dont post that youve found what your looking for. Maybe thats just my opinion... DV

diamonddreamlove -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/23/2006 2:59:54 PM)
I think it is wonderful that anyone would take the time and effort (even small effort) to congratulate anyone on finding their O/one. It is a time for happiness and good feelings i believe.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/23/2006 3:04:50 PM)
When you're talking about online, and someone you've never talked with before- it's considered a type of trolling or "attempt to see if her profile is really what it says it is and see if I can get a foot in the door." If it's offline and she's announced it to you, or if you're already friends- then it's considered the generic polite response.

perverseangelic -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/23/2006 3:13:47 PM)
I -detest- when someone writes me to wish me "good luck" on my search for my "One" or to wish me congradulations on finding my "One". I hate it because my profile is very clear that my Owner and I have been together quite some time, and I'm not looking for another serious relationship partner I've never had someone write a message like this that actually corespondaned to my profile. It always is written as though I'd just met my Owner, or was still looking for one. Granted, that's a pretty...jaded...perspective.

becca4020 -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/23/2006 4:15:40 PM)
i just joined the site last week, and i received a letter from a Dom yesterday that asked why i am here if i am already owned (as i stated in my profile)!!! i replied that i am here to learn, since although i have long been a sub, being a slave is a totally new experience and i need to read posts and post my own questions in order to figure out some things. He acted as if this place were just some sort of glorified pick-up bar (grr... probably should not have replied at all). -becca

gentlethistle -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/24/2006 5:18:43 AM)
No, I don't see anything wrong with it. If it is appropriate, polite and responds genuinely to an 'announcement' in a sub's profile or journal. I would likely respond to such a message with a 'thank you'. Obviously, it's possible that the person who had contacted me was just 'trawling' and I wouldn't continue with the conversation if we didn't seem to have any common ground. Laura

littleone35 -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/24/2006 5:26:52 AM)
I can see both points of view here. I posted on the fourm when i was collared and i got many congrats (and i thank all for that). This ia a public fourm. If someone emaild me it would bother me a bit unless it was someone who i talk to before. If a total stranger mailed me well nice of them but i would reather they don't. Matt's littleone

Mavis -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/24/2006 6:52:37 AM)
i have written a Dom i was talking to when i found out He had selected a submissive. i said something to the effect of, " i heard You have found Your partner, and i wanted to say congrats..." His response was "Who the hell told you I found my one? Hell, she's just a play partner, she seems to think she has collared ME, which would happen over my dead body.." OMg. lol. she stopped being a play partner shortly after, and i have always felt guilty about that, they might have gone on to a fuller relationship if He didn't get a heads up she was claiming a deeper relationship than He was seeing there. There was obviously a mis-communication between them, or some misunderstanding about the nature of their relationship, but i wish the alert on that hadn't come thru ME. damn. Now, i don't make any congrats or best wishes on the claims of one partner absent the similar claims by the other partner. While we're on the topic, in the old days, it was customary to "congratulate" the groom on winning his intended, as if he'd won the hunt, and she was the prize. The bride was given "blessings or best wishes" instead of congrats, because congrats implied she had laid a trap and drug home her prize, as if she wasn't appealing enough to have won his heart, but had to snare him unaware. i still follow that rule when i hear of collarings and pairings, congrats to the dominant, male or female, and best wishes to the submissive, male or female. Since i get confused when two switches come together for a long term commitment, i just say "party on". (Ok, that was completely a joke! i just follow my instincts with SW/SW joinings.)

LL1aintbehavin -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/24/2006 7:08:36 AM)
LordBennett. i have been contacted many times, congradulating me on being collared and obviously happy with my One. i have responded to A/all of them and thanked them for their well wishes. This moring i got a congratulations on O/our recent marriage, to which i responded with another thank you. i think it is nice when a nice message is sent through from someone happy for anothers success in this lifestyle. Too often W/we are apt to jump on it as an attempt at trolling or fishing, when sometimes we should just say thank you for the nice thought. i prefer to see the best side of people, until shown otherwise. aintbehavin

nstyslave -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/24/2006 7:15:56 AM)
i personally do not see anything wrong with a polite congratulations, After all, the ownership is assumably publicly shared, therefore on the surface i do not think that a mere "congratulations," is too far out there. However, there is an "unseen line" amongst Doms, no matter if They know each Other or not, and Most Doms/Masters, will not cross that line with an owned slave (especially with a sub/slave that He does not know to begin with) because sometimes it is indeed seen as trolling. Also, the reason that some may not reply, might be because their Master has instructed them not too. Simply my thoughts... ~nsty

trippingdaisy -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/24/2006 7:34:40 AM)
i've received several messages on here, only two or three of which has been a solicitation for something. The other messages consisted of someone seeking advice on needle play, and the rest were congratulatory notes on my relastionship with my Master. i don't find anything wrong with that at all...in fact, i thought it was very sweet. i'd send thank you notes back, and that was that.

juliaoceania -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/24/2006 8:26:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mavis OMg. lol. she stopped being a play partner shortly after, and i have always felt guilty about that, they might have gone on to a fuller relationship if He didn't get a heads up she was claiming a deeper relationship than He was seeing there. There was obviously a mis-communication between them, or some misunderstanding about the nature of their relationship, but i wish the alert on that hadn't come thru ME. damn. Now, i don't make any congrats or best wishes on the claims of one partner absent the similar claims by the other partner. I would not feel guilty about it. If he was that into her he wouldn't have dumped her because of a misunderstanding, and he wouldn't have considered her just a play partner either. Either he is into you or he isn't, and telling others that he is isn't gong to make it so...ouch! Feel happy you set her free to find someone who was really into her, it is such a better place to be..smiles.

Mavis -> RE: congratulations and good luck (7/24/2006 8:55:49 AM)
Julie, you know, that's a really good point. i think she's still missing him, but at least she isn't tied to a Dom who won't even claim her, how sad that would be if it continued! Thank you for perspective tip.

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