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ThatDizzyChick -> RE: New to the lifestyle (11/15/2016 8:37:01 PM)
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I am hoping someone can take a look at our profile and point out some good things and things that can be improved.
Well there is fuck all in there about you and what you offer to this girl. See, the thing is, for every female slave willing to join an established couple, there are like 3000 couples. So it's a buyer's market, so you really have to sell yourself. the other thing is to be prepared to look for a long time, many people spend years looking for somebody to add to a couple.
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First I don't have a huge toy chest yet, but the means to get them. The big ticket items are expensive and doesn't make sense to purchase without the right partner, is that a mistake?
Sounds reasonable to me, why spend thousands of dollars on stuff you may never use.
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We are asking for correspondence before just accepting someone, is this appropriate?
That seems to be the norm these days, though I would recommend some real world meet ups and dates as well during the feeling each other out phase.
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In the profile I suggest they tell me what they like and expect from a dom. In part this is to insure we are a match and in part to know what equipment to look forward to purchasing, is this the right way to get the information.
I wouldn't put it into the profile, I would draw that information out during the getting to know you phase. The reason for this is because by putting it in your profile it sort of implies that you wish to immediately start discussing kink, rather than spending a little time to see if you actually even like the girl as a person.
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The mrs. is interested in the friendship her and the sub can have as well as assistance with daily duties without being part of the bdsm sex. Is this a realistic goal?
Who cares. My goal was to have two bi Doms who were in love with each other as well as with me, way unrealistic, but I found it. And I have seen comments on Fetlife from women who would prefer that sort of arrangement, so they are out there.
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Finally I have considered going to some munches to meet other people in the lifestyle. My mrs. would rather skip that part.
Do it, and try to get her to go with you.
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