UllrsIshtar
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ORIGINAL: JessieFly Do you use being emotionally distant and cold to your submissive as an acceptable form of punishment? What does it matter how 'many Doms' answer that question? You've already decided that this isn't for you, so even if 99% answer that question with a 'yes', you'll still be looking for the 1% who'd answer it with a 'no'. Don't ask 'many Doms' ask the Doms you're actually interested in. quote:
ORIGINAL: JessieFly I need to be submissive.. but I'm scared of being loyal and devoted to someone in all aspects and having that abused with emotional manipulation and no respect. I need a dom who will respect me... who will support me to take their physical punishment by strengthening me emotionally? Does that make any sense? Yes, and those Doms exist. What you're describing is what most submissives I know look for. quote:
ORIGINAL: JessieFly I don't even know how to explain it well. I see so many things on this site that scare me. Keep in mind that the internet is always going to show you an exaggerated version of reality. This is anonymous wonderland. People can say, and do, whatever they want on here. Because of that, you're going to get all the 'extreme' stuff be represented much more to the surface, even if in reality for most of these people it's just an online fantasy, and in real life they're looking for the same type of thing as you are. If you go to munches, clubs, or conventions, you won't see all the crazy scary stuff, because in real life people aren't as fucked up as they pretend to be on the internet. Really. quote:
ORIGINAL: JessieFly The trouble is I don't know if that guy exists! Haha. I don't know if people would consider what I want domination... I mean I wouldn't agree to everything.. and if that's the case is he ever truly in control? He exists. It is domination so long as you actually submit. Submission means "yielding to the authority of another". So if your D-type told you "wear red panties tonight" and you do, you just submitted. Even if you told him beforehand "I won't to xyz, at all, ever". You not doing xyz, and him not ordering you to do xyz, has no bearing on your ability to submit to him when he tells you "wear read panties". What you have then, is a relationship where your D-type is truly in control over the color panties you wear. But isn't in control over xyz. Which is pretty much what every consensual D/s relationship, anywhere, ever, is like and has been like. Nobody ever agrees to everything. You see tons of profiles online with people claiming they want blank agreement to everything. Or people claiming they'll submit to anything the D-type says, but when push comes to shove, it's not true. What they mean is: "I'll agree to anything as long as it falls withing the realm of what I think submission should look like". I've got a pretty funny test for s-types who mail me on here, claiming: "Mistress I'll do ANYTHING for you". I tell them to write me a poem. 99.99% of them I never hear from again at that point, because "writing a poem" isn't a 'sexy' thing they want to do as part of a D/s relationship, and so they don't do it. There is not a single consensual D/s relationship on the planet in which the D-type has ever been in control of everything, even if it sometimes looks like they are, because what the D-type wants, and what the s-type doesn't want is so similar, that the D-type never wants to order the s-type to do something they wouldn't agree to do. Look for that. Look for a D-type who's desires match your own close enough so that he wouldn't want to order you to do something you don't want to do, and voila, you now have a D/s dynamic in which you'll do anything at all he'll ever tell you to do.
< Message edited by UllrsIshtar -- 11/22/2016 12:32:13 PM >
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I can be your whore I am the dirt you created I am your sinner And your whore But let me tell you something baby You love me for everything you hate me for
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