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Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 12:15:40 PM

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I am new male sub looking for a Dom female or couple would love to get to meet new people also

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 12:34:03 PM

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Search in findamunch.com. You could also Google your state, or your city and state and the word munch

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 12:38:31 PM

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 12:45:44 PM

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It really amazes me that people, here and elsewhere, don't think think of Google to find stuff??
If not Google, some other search engine.
You can find just about anything you can think of - unless you're living in China.

So when I see this sort of request, I sincerely wonder how they've managed to survive for this long.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 2:51:12 PM

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It really amazes me that people, here and elsewhere, don't think think of Google to find stuff??
If not Google, some other search engine.
You can find just about anything you can think of - unless you're living in China.

So when I see this sort of request, I sincerely wonder how they've managed to survive for this long.

I have to agree with you. I am constantly amazed with younger people who grew up with the internet not knowing how to do a search or how to use Google. Apparently, they think BDSM is so secret that munches and events won't be found online.

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Yes, I am crazy about feathered creatures. I have a dozen chickens, 3 ducks, 5 geese, and 2 parakeets.

Revise that number. Just got 14 new chicks and 5 turkeys.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 3:09:47 PM

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It really amazes me that people, here and elsewhere, don't think think of Google to find stuff??
If not Google, some other search engine.
You can find just about anything you can think of - unless you're living in China.

So when I see this sort of request, I sincerely wonder how they've managed to survive for this long.

I have to agree with you. I am constantly amazed with younger people who grew up with the internet not knowing how to do a search or how to use Google. Apparently, they think BDSM is so secret that munches and events won't be found online.

I don't know. I am the type of person that will do searches on the internet for something, but then at the same time, might go to a forum board and ask people as well. Might get resources that I initially overlooked.

Besides, if I am googling bdsm-related topics, what are the chances that this site would pop up in search results? Pretty good, I would think. So I go to check it out, see a board where people can ask questions, get on there to ask a question, and...am told to go google it.

What's the point? I figure that if someone doesn't want to bother with lazy people that they think aren't looking on their own, they aren't required to answer. I mean, isn't that part of the reason that boards like this exist?

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 5:04:28 PM

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Fetlife is probably the best place to find munches. I found some in my local area mentioned on there that did not come up on Google.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 5:16:50 PM

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I don't know. I am the type of person that will do searches on the internet for something, but then at the same time, might go to a forum board and ask people as well. Might get resources that I initially overlooked.

Besides, if I am googling bdsm-related topics, what are the chances that this site would pop up in search results? Pretty good, I would think. So I go to check it out, see a board where people can ask questions, get on there to ask a question, and...am told to go google it.

What's the point? I figure that if someone doesn't want to bother with lazy people that they think aren't looking on their own, they aren't required to answer. I mean, isn't that part of the reason that boards like this exist?

The problem is that so many people want to be spoon fed information. If they would do any reading in the forum they would find countless threads about finding a munch. They say they will do anything to find a Dom or sub, depending on which side of the slash they are on, yet they are not willing to type a few words into a search engine. Then we get those who then say they are too shy, too afraid of being seen, or too far away to attend a munch at all. They will come back another time complaining that there are too many fakes online.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 5:26:20 PM

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If they would do any reading in the forum they would find countless threads about finding a munch.

And would be given shit for bringing up a necro thread if they commented or asked for clarification. You can't tell people to look up old threads and then diss them for doing just that. Besides, if nobody asked questions (even if they have been asked before) then the forum would be even deader than it is.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 5:38:36 PM

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I don't know. I am the type of person that will do searches on the internet for something, but then at the same time, might go to a forum board and ask people as well. Might get resources that I initially overlooked.

Besides, if I am googling bdsm-related topics, what are the chances that this site would pop up in search results? Pretty good, I would think. So I go to check it out, see a board where people can ask questions, get on there to ask a question, and...am told to go google it.

What's the point? I figure that if someone doesn't want to bother with lazy people that they think aren't looking on their own, they aren't required to answer. I mean, isn't that part of the reason that boards like this exist?

The problem is that so many people want to be spoon fed information. If they would do any reading in the forum they would find countless threads about finding a munch. They say they will do anything to find a Dom or sub, depending on which side of the slash they are on, yet they are not willing to type a few words into a search engine. Then we get those who then say they are too shy, too afraid of being seen, or too far away to attend a munch at all. They will come back another time complaining that there are too many fakes online.

Like I said, if I think their posting is them being lazy, I just click past it. If I have some tips to help them get past being shy, or scared or being unseen, etc. then I might respond with those, but nobody is forcing me to interact with them. No one is forcing me to waste my time reading their crap, if that is what it is.

Some people on here like to be helpful with that sort of thing. Let them deal with it. Spewing negative stuff at people looking for info just discourages newbies and lurkers from asking what may be very good questions that end up in good discussions for us all. And god knows we need more of that around here.

Again, isn't that part of what we are here for? Its one way of getting new people to stick around and become regulars. I don't want to see the day when all we are left with is the dungeon, because new people who join don't stick around because they were discouraged from asking questions.

If there are stickies that address the question they are asking, then respond with a link to the sticky. But its not a matter of not be willing to type a few words into a search engine, because they had to do that just to find this site in the first place. So telling people who probably googled something to find this site to 'try googling it' serves no purpose other than to belittle them. If that is all someone has to offer in response, then they should just save themselves some time and not respond at all.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 5:39:52 PM

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If they would do any reading in the forum they would find countless threads about finding a munch.

And would be given shit for bringing up a necro thread if they commented or asked for clarification. You can't tell people to look up old threads and then diss them for doing just that. Besides, if nobody asked questions (even if they have been asked before) then the forum would be even deader than it is.

EXACTLY.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 8:28:45 PM

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If they would do any reading in the forum they would find countless threads about finding a munch.

And would be given shit for bringing up a necro thread if they commented or asked for clarification. You can't tell people to look up old threads and then diss them for doing just that. Besides, if nobody asked questions (even if they have been asked before) then the forum would be even deader than it is.

What clarification needs to be done if the advice is to go to Google and search their state and or city and the word munch? Seems pretty straight forward and I've suggested it numerous times on the forums.

As it was I did not dis the OP. I gave him the advice I have given others. Yet, like freedomdwarf, I wonder why these young people have no clue on how to use Google.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 9:39:00 PM

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I wonder why these young people have no clue on how to use Google.

And I wonder why these old folks have no clue on how to use a DISCUSSION forum, especially one they have been on for over a decade.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/15/2016 9:55:23 PM

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If they would do any reading in the forum they would find countless threads about finding a munch.

And would be given shit for bringing up a necro thread if they commented or asked for clarification. You can't tell people to look up old threads and then diss them for doing just that. Besides, if nobody asked questions (even if they have been asked before) then the forum would be even deader than it is.

EXACTLY.

A necro thread isn't 'dragged up' unless they reply to it.
The info is there for them to follow if they bothered to look.

The fact that they found this site, registered themselves, managed to get to the forums, then posted an info request in the correct one, which is available on just about every search engine just shows they want it on a plate and couldn't be assed to sift thru the results.

I typed 3 words into Google "munches in Arkansas" and got 13 million results.
The top result was findamunch.com/tag/Arkansas.
So how hard was that compared to what they had to do to post a request in these forums???

Now, if they had said they'd looked and found a few and wanted to know which is most likely to benefit them, that's a different ball of wax.

OP isn't the only one and not just for BDSM.
The whole younger generation seem to be inherently lazy.
My kids and their friends are just as bad.
My daughter will ask stupid things like "what's the weather tomorrow?".
She has 3 PC's, a tablet, a laptop and a smartphone; so I say 'look it up'.
My step-daughter will ask "what does such-and-such word mean?".
She has two PC's and two smartphones; so I say 'Google it'.

I'm sorry, people like OP just wanted it delivered on a silver platter.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/16/2016 7:08:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

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If they would do any reading in the forum they would find countless threads about finding a munch.

And would be given shit for bringing up a necro thread if they commented or asked for clarification. You can't tell people to look up old threads and then diss them for doing just that. Besides, if nobody asked questions (even if they have been asked before) then the forum would be even deader than it is.

EXACTLY.

A necro thread isn't 'dragged up' unless they reply to it.
The info is there for them to follow if they bothered to look.

The fact that they found this site, registered themselves, managed to get to the forums, then posted an info request in the correct one, which is available on just about every search engine just shows they want it on a plate and couldn't be assed to sift thru the results.

I typed 3 words into Google "munches in Arkansas" and got 13 million results.
The top result was findamunch.com/tag/Arkansas.
So how hard was that compared to what they had to do to post a request in these forums???

Now, if they had said they'd looked and found a few and wanted to know which is most likely to benefit them, that's a different ball of wax.

OP isn't the only one and not just for BDSM.
The whole younger generation seem to be inherently lazy.
My kids and their friends are just as bad.
My daughter will ask stupid things like "what's the weather tomorrow?".
She has 3 PC's, a tablet, a laptop and a smartphone; so I say 'look it up'.
My step-daughter will ask "what does such-and-such word mean?".
She has two PC's and two smartphones; so I say 'Google it'.

I'm sorry, people like OP just wanted it delivered on a silver platter.

So why waste your time by whining about their question? Just ignore it.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/16/2016 1:12:44 PM

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So why waste your time by whining about their question? Just ignore it.

Because, these people need to be told that not everything comes gift-wrapped on a silver platter a-la Amazon prime.

Some things, like finding people for relationships, requires just a little bit of effort.

The next thing we'll know is yet another post asking why they aren't attracting the right people.
Or that they're getting swamped by xyz that they don't want.
Or for people like us to look at their profile coz it's not working for them.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/16/2016 1:38:56 PM

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So why waste your time by whining about their question? Just ignore it.

Because, these people need to be told that not everything comes gift-wrapped on a silver platter a-la Amazon prime.

Some things, like finding people for relationships, requires just a little bit of effort.

The next thing we'll know is yet another post asking why they aren't attracting the right people.
Or that they're getting swamped by xyz that they don't want.
Or for people like us to look at their profile coz it's not working for them.

And no one is requiring you to answer those either. Or even read them.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/17/2016 11:45:36 PM

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The good answers to the original question in the title have been given. (More on that in a sec.) However, the conversation in the thread is more interesting.

If a person doesn't know the term "munch," I tend to be more lenient about it. A person might make that additional step of using Google to enter "what is a social gathering of kink people called," or something similar. I did a few quick searches trying a few variations of this. I was successful because I used the terms 'kinky' and/or 'BDSM'. Without those, I'm not sure of how well this would have turned out. Not quite sure how a person would find CM without using something similar, but I'm willing to be generous in the idea that it may not connect for them, but it's sketchy.

Anyway, I tested the Google theory. Personally, I don't find this to be the most effective. Many of the listings are not "munches" at all in the United States. The M.A.L.L. Directory, (which is basically the Munch + Adult Local Links Directory) is basically a reprint of 'groups' that a person can find on Fet that, at one point, had a decent amount of activity. In just a quick bit of research, this meant that such 'internet groups' never really had in-person munches or socials at all. Some were nothing more than discussion groups, 'find a renter' type, online mentor groups, etc. Very few of the listings actually take you to anything other than a link on Fet, so I would have to think that just using Fet to begin with would be more productive.

In addition, it took me very little time to discover that many links in the M.A.L.L. Directory that were seriously outdated. Several munches that used to meet, but had no posts about actually meeting for over a year. If I could come up with six groups that were no longer 'meeting' in person in just a few minutes, I can't say it's an awesome resource. It's better than nothing and I know that the folks associated with trying to verify this stuff over a year ago did attempt their best, but I don't consider it current. (It's a huge undertaking and I doubt anybody just doing it out of the goodness of their heart could possibly keep it up to date.)

This isn't even scraping the surface of the ideal of, "is this a 'good' munch' to send a new person to? Would **I** attend the munch/event based on it's reputation? In some cases, I'd absolutely say "no" in either case. Not exactly info that a person can obtain just from Google.

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/19/2016 10:07:03 AM

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The good answers to the original question in the title have been given. (More on that in a sec.) However, the conversation in the thread is more interesting.

If a person doesn't know the term "munch," I tend to be more lenient about it. A person might make that additional step of using Google to enter "what is a social gathering of kink people called," or something similar. I did a few quick searches trying a few variations of this. I was successful because I used the terms 'kinky' and/or 'BDSM'. Without those, I'm not sure of how well this would have turned out. Not quite sure how a person would find CM without using something similar, but I'm willing to be generous in the idea that it may not connect for them, but it's sketchy.

And then add local "culture". In SoCal, you have socials, Breakfast and Bash, Le Slosh, Kink N Coffee etc...etc..

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RE: Looking for a munch event - 12/19/2016 10:23:43 AM

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And then add local "culture". In SoCal, you have socials, Breakfast and Bash, Le Slosh, Kink N Coffee etc...etc..

I'm kind of thinking the M.A.L.L. directory would cover that, since it's what a person gets when going through google, findamunch, etc. The main page does say that it's munches, sloshes, socials, and so on. (I forget what all names of types of meets they stated but it was a pretty comprehensive list.)

I do have to admit, I might be a little biased. I've never actually used M.A.L.L. to *find* a munch or event. Not even before Fet came around. I always did it the old fashioned way. Not something that would work well for anybody brand new to the whole thing because unless a person already knows people, it doesn't always pan out.

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