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Can you help me? - 12/20/2016 4:34:22 PM

SecretsinLace142

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I met someone on here a few weeks ago, who said he was a submissive. He admitted that he had hid his profile because he was having trouble with dommes on the site. I met him twice in public. I liked him at first, but realized after talking to him that he had a bad temper. I didn't want any drama so I text him the next day, and explained I didn't think it would work out. He sent me 8 angry, insulting messages. I thought that's that, but he put up a fake profile, pretending to be a female in Ohio with the same Username except for 1 number. In the profile he berates me. I reported it 2 times but it's still up there.

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RE: Can you help me? - 12/20/2016 5:00:12 PM

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You want help? Here it is:

Learn to ignore that which doesn't not matter.

It doesn't matter what a stranger is saying about you on the internet with a fake profile.
Just ignore it.

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RE: Can you help me? - 12/20/2016 5:20:51 PM

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Sadly support on the site is very lacking. Simply put him on ignore. Good news for youthe fake profile he put up against you will not stop people from contacting you.

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You can try contacting support by clicking on the Support link at the bottom of the main page on the other side. The Report profile function an automated function and requires a certain number of people to report the profile before it gets yanked. So contacting Support will get you a quicker response.

< Message edited by DocStrange -- 12/20/2016 5:40:15 PM >

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RE: Can you help me? - 12/20/2016 5:29:44 PM

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I wouldn't worry too much about the attack profile that he set up. Anyone with half a brain will not pay attention to a new profile that attacks another user. Once he gets bored and stops logging in to the new profile then it will slip further and further down the listings until no-one ever sees it.

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RE: Can you help me? - 12/20/2016 5:32:59 PM

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And for my 2 cents worth, they would have to read through his fake profile first. Not much chance of that. Anyone with an ounce of common sense, and there are plenty of us here, are well aware of these whiners. They're so easy to read right through. Block and ignore. Tried and true method.

I wish you luck in your search. There really are some terrific people on here. But you have to sift the wheat from the chaff.

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RE: Can you help me? - 12/20/2016 7:46:06 PM

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Yeah, basically what they said.

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RE: Can you help me? - 12/21/2016 5:27:19 AM

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Unfortunately this is a classic case of she said v he said
The problem with reporting some people is that actual fake profiles can report legitimate/genuine profiles….or liars can report truth speakers, cliques report rapscallions, those without integrity report those with, and so on.

Just block the profiles after taking screen grabs.
As for the “He admitted that he had hid his profile because he was having trouble with dommes on the site.” This is something I do not believe. 1. there are so few “domes/women on this place” and two ive never been hassled by any of the legitimate ones and find it hard to believe anyone else has

Personally I loathe fake profiles, no matter the site, and view all with disdain as they ruin lives, set up to abuse, voyeurism, exploit, etc

Simply record/screen grab any bad mischief and speak to your local law enforcement office regarding this.

As for here the report button hmmm I really dunno….but attach what you have of the loon and I am sure if there is anyone there sporadically they will take it seriously, eventually-ish kinda perhaps maybe.

As for the particular type of Fake profile he allegedly created - yes ive seen a few of those in my time on here, and other places...so simply grab a screen shot and forward it to reort button thingy. But as docstrange said it wont stop people contacting you. If he has uploaded pictures of you to those profiles then the matter becomes more serious

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RE: Can you help me? - 12/21/2016 8:42:18 AM

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I appreciate all the advice. I will just ignore the fake profile. I'm not really bothered by what he said, I just don't understand how he can get away with it.

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RE: Can you help me? - 12/21/2016 8:55:49 AM

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Because it's a free world.

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RE: Can you help me? - 12/21/2016 12:18:50 PM

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I appreciate all the advice. I will just ignore the fake profile. I'm not really bothered by what he said, I just don't understand how he can get away with it.

He gets away with it, because basically, management doesn't care about this site or it's members.

There's virtually no support, no work done on this site, no management of it, no moderation. The owner doesn't care. He gets his check in the mail (which, even with the neglect is rather substantial still) without having to do any work for it.
Apparently he considers the check to be big enough so that he's not particularly driven to increase it's size by managing the site more actively.

What that translates into for you is that, when you're faced with an issue like this, nobody who can do anything about it actually cares enough to even bother reading your complaint message/email/report.
So in the end, there is nothing you can do about it, and he'll get away with it.

If you cannot live with that, your only choice is a new profile, or to leave the site.

On the up side, I read the fake profile he made, and it's actually very flattering towards you, if you read between the lines.

It reads very much like he's got a case of sour grapes, and his constant whining about 'you not being a real Domme because you're not bitchy/assertive enough' reads very much like you're a real person, who's looking to connect with another real person, on a real level. And you're not just some shallow fake, who thinks that being a Domme equals 'being a mean bitch who begs for money'.
It sounds like you actually want to get to know your subs, before claiming the prerogative to start bossing them around, and that your realistic in your expectations, instead of expecting a stranger to fully submit to you on a first date.

All of those things will work in your favor when it comes to meeting a sub who also has realistic expectations, and who's ideas of submission aren't fueled a 100% from porn, and are completely impracticable in reality. Any realistic sub, who wants his relationship with you to grow at a realistic pace, will -if he read that profile at all, which is very unlikely- not be scared off by it, but see it as a confirmation that you have realistic expectations as well.

It's really rather flattering when you read it from a not-every-BDSM-relationship-is-like-in-porn-movies perspective.

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