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lordsnot -> Payment question (12/20/2016 9:40:50 PM)

So I met a mistress on OKcupid. She so far made me join a website to proclaim myself as her slave. Then made me wire $150 to some dude in the Phillipines to pay for my slave License and now wants me to wire another $100 to the Phillipines to put a deposit down for dungeon time. I offered to give her cash in person and she stated she cannot ever take money from a slave,

Am I being scammed?

Thank you for any advice !



Lucylastic -> RE: Payment question (12/20/2016 9:43:46 PM)

yes you are being scammed
big time.
sorry dood.



tamaka -> RE: Payment question (12/20/2016 9:47:58 PM)

This is a joke... right?



OsideGirl -> RE: Payment question (12/20/2016 10:05:53 PM)

Yes, scammed



WickedsDesire -> RE: Payment question (12/20/2016 10:15:53 PM)

Have you been lobotomised lately or more than the once?

If what you say is true then yes. OKC is a terrible site, possibly the worst of all sites for women the bulk of its minute userbase is made up of scammers, con artist and cat fish and the little that remains after that are usually attached attention seeking needy whorebags...look they are what they are.

It lives of a reputation it never had in the first place and i still laugh and laugh at match.com paying $50 million for it - the cynic in me wonders if they are trying to recoup their loses. 99% of what mail i got on there was from scammers and catfish and conartists - not worth the time being on it

Beware of scammers on here too, like OKC this place has almost no genuine women...so go join kinkydating.com - they will keep those shenanigans to a minimum to non existant...or fetlife - who really dont care about that sort of thing

never part with your cash, ever no matter the website



stef -> RE: Payment question (12/20/2016 11:11:21 PM)


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ORIGINAL: lordsnot

Am I being scammed?

Think with your big head and the answer to that question will be clear.



MsLadySue -> RE: Payment question (12/20/2016 11:22:16 PM)

At 42, he has to ask if this is a scam?



epiphiny43 -> RE: Payment question (12/20/2016 11:27:35 PM)

A question I ask regularly on public streets and bike paths occurs here: HOW did some people get to be as old as they are without constant adult supervision??



smartsub10 -> RE: Payment question (12/20/2016 11:34:19 PM)

I just can't believe this is a sincere question. Can anyone actually be that horny that all blood is lost to the brain?



MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 1:40:32 AM)

Seriously, $150 blown already and another $100 in the works, for what, some wank fodder, at best?

Instead of throwing your effing money away on NOTHING, give it to someone who NEEDS it. Local warming centers, homeless shelters, victims' crisis hotlines, and local food banks need donations, especially this time of year with frigid temperatures in some regions. You should be damned ashamed of yourself for being so utterly STUPID, SELFISH, and WASTEFUL. You could actually be HELPING someone with that money and feel GOOD about it, rather than having a sick, "have I been scammed" feeling. Which charity to send it to is a simple google search away.
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lordsnot -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 5:48:18 AM)

Whoa you guys are harsh. Talked some sense into my lonely, depressed ass tho.
Been a tough year, got divorced (due mainly to my Ex being fed up with the complications I suffer from due to Chrons Disease). Yes, and that is the other problem, chron's disease, I am probably not too far off from needing a colostomy (aside from the lobotomy you guys prescribed) makes me think I have little time to realize my fantasies.

She (or whatever) sounded convincing.

May I ask there questions:

1) Is there such a thing as a slave license or dungeon
2) Do you ever have to make upfront payments?
3) How much should a mistress charge?




Diffident -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 6:18:33 AM)

No such thing as a slave license. Nothing to stop you from making and printing your own on your computer, but it means absolutely nothing.
Dungeons are usually available to hire in most big cities. They will have websites.
Non-Pro Dommes do not charge and do not ask for payment. Exactly the same as vanilla dating.
Pro-Dommes do charge and often require a deposit if they have never seen you before. They will have a website that you should read thoroughly if you are considering seeing them that will answer most questions.



smartsub10 -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 10:15:13 AM)

Your ex-wife sounds like a selfish, unsympathetic bitch. Really? She got fed up because you have Chrohns Disease? Good riddance to her.

Of course the scam artist seemed convincing. That's how they scam horny dudes such as yourself.

Find a woman who will care about you and not see you as a disease.

In the meantime masturbate and be patient. Relationships take time.



LadyPact -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 10:17:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lordsnot
1) Is there such a thing as a slave license or dungeon

That's really two different questions.

There really isn't anything such as a 'slave license' that means anything. There are some folks out there who get a kick out of that 'slave registry number' thing that you'll see on some people's profiles or in their signature line. Again, doesn't mean anything. (In fact, it's a turn off to some people because just as many people think it's foolish as other people think it is fun.)

There absolutely are such things as dungeons. A dungeon is usually what people call a permanent building, with BDSM furniture, that is open to the public. A lot of major and some semi-major cities have them. There are also conventions that have their own temporary dungeons that are up for the duration of the event, small munch groups that have their own play space, etc. Some individuals, such as myself, have their own that aren't as big as what you'd see at a club, but do a dang fine job. [:)]

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2) Do you ever have to make upfront payments?

If your plan is to see a professional, there are some that will require a deposit up front. This is to ensure that you don't make an appointment and then flake out, wasting her time. If you do want to schedule a session with a pro, for heaven's sake, do your research and find somebody reputable. Plenty of people have their own web page with reviews from clients, have people in the kink community who know them, etc, etc. Fetlife has a few groups related specifically to pros and classifieds for helping clients connect to them.

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3) How much should a mistress charge?

This is really, really open ended. A lot of this is going to depend on what you would like to experience during your session, where the professional is located, how skilled the professional is, how long of a session you would like to book, and so on. Keep in mind that not all professionals offer the same types of play and not all permit sexual contact during your session. Again, back to doing your research. Consider what you would like to experience and see who fits that criteria via the professional's webpage. Expect to pay more for higher experience level, niche kinks, and more equipment.

There are several current and former professional Dominants that are on the forums. (Ones that I would consider good.) They can probably answer your questions better than I can. I'm *just* a lifestyle Domme. [8D]

Best of luck to you.



DesFIP -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 11:04:19 AM)

The ex has Crohns. It wasn't the fact that he has it that was the problem, it was him taking his anger out on me.

If I cooked stuff that was on his diet, he had temper tantrums because it wasn't what he wanted to eat. If I didn't make meals that fit his diet I got accused of plotting to kill him. Nothing I ever did was good enough and I failed mind reading.

When we added the stress of a handicapped child, something had to give. It was the marriage.

So I doubt the op was a saint.

All that's irrelevant to the op's question. Since you are okay with paying to have your fantasies fulfilled, find a pro domme. Go to munches, meet dommes and ask if any of them do take clients or if they can recommend a reputable pro domme.



DocStrange -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 1:34:20 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lordsnot

So I met a mistress on OKcupid. She so far made me join a website to proclaim myself as her slave. Then made me wire $150 to some dude in the Phillipines to pay for my slave License and now wants me to wire another $100 to the Phillipines to put a deposit down for dungeon time. I offered to give her cash in person and she stated she cannot ever take money from a slave,

Am I being scammed?

Thank you for any advice !

Are you really that stupid?



epiphiny43 -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 1:59:50 PM)

Crohns Disease is one of many bowel inflammatory diseases that may simply disappear with a well done 'fecal microbiota transplant' (FMT). Rumors that various 'Probiotics' can do the same all seem to founder on the acidity of the stomach. My Personal Care Provider was in med school where some probiotic studies were done and he worked in the studies. Nothing alive got through the stomach unless through a tube to the small intestine or a capsule that lasts more than the not unusual 3 hours for food to process to the intestine.
Fecal Transplants work best if taken from as close a relative as possible, and a Healthy bowel one at that. Google FMT for more info, and the early studies for use on Crohns. Most practitioners just proscribe more and different antibiotics, how most people Got Crohns.
Good luck, save your money. It's not unusual for a ProDomme to charge in the $500/hr range. If you get what you want, cheaper than dating someone who won't be satisfactory? I'm hooked on the emotional connection to make D/s either way engaging, so it doesn't matter I can't afford a Pro.



DesFIP -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 2:28:47 PM)

Crohns is an autoimmune disease like lupus. Treatment is not antibiotics, it's immune system suppressants and/or steroids. But you can't live off of steroids. Like damn near everything else, a history of tobacco use is common in patients.



Wayward5oul -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 3:10:25 PM)

FR
My bff has crohns. Does the immune suppressants. But had to have an operation and have part of her colon removed. She now has a stoma and bag to deal with, in addition to all the other stuff associated with crohns. It can be a bitch. But if your partner supports you, you can get through it. And she is into kink, and it doesn't interfere with her activities. Take care of yourself and be realistic.



dcnovice -> RE: Payment question (12/21/2016 6:06:58 PM)

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I am probably not too far off from needing a colostomy

My sympathies! I have a colostomy, thanks to rectal cancer. I won't pretend it's a joy, but it wasn't the life-destroyer I'd dreaded.

If you're on Facebook, you might want to check out Colontown, a great support community for folks with all manner of gastrointestinal travails. I've found it a huge help on both big questions (Should I give up hope of ever being intimate again? No.) and small (Is there a way to keep the skin around the stoma from getting inflamed? Yes.). You're also welcome to PM me if it would help to connect personally with an ostomate.

Shortly before my first anniversary as an ostomate, I pecked out a list of reasons I'm grateful for my stoma:

-- No sitting on nasty public toilet seats.
-- Ostomy nurses have been some of the coolest medical professionals I've met.
-- I save a bunch on toilet paper.
-- No tearing to reach the bathroom on time.
-- If anyone ever threatens to beat the crap out of me, I can calmly smile, detach the bag, and hand it over. "All yours, dude."
-- Bags come in nice, sturdy boxes that are wonderfully handy at Christmas. (I generally don't tell gift recipients what the box previously held.)
-- I get to decide when and where to release gas into the atmosphere.
-- I've learned that I can live through having one of my deepest fears come true.
-- I have a perfect excuse for keeping the seat up.
-- I never have to buy Preparation H again.
-- Oh, and I'm not dead, since waste has a safe route out of my body.

Hang in there! [:)]



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