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why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then walk... - 7/23/2006 11:55:29 PM

sweetnsoftinpa

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the Master that was training me gain my trust then my heart then left and found a younger one but told me that there was not another why lie about it

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 12:10:41 AM

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First of all, he isn't a Master. He is a liar. You are better off without him. It may be hard to understand that, but you will. You were snookered by a jerk. Learn from it.

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 3:24:54 AM

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Agree with Estring....

Unfortunately, your experience is all too often the newbie fem/sub's initiation to the lifestyle. Many a "master" deliberately targets inexperienced newbies because the experienced fem/subs can spot a fake/phoney/tosser a mile away. Remember the lesson for future reference and trust your intincts about strangers.

Hopefully your Forums experience will prove more enjoyable - welcome, btw....

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 4:15:32 AM

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Sorry that you had to experience that. Unfortunately, this happens all too often as Focus said. Hopefully, you will find what you seek

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 4:19:21 AM

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because he wasn't a real dominant, just a player. Learn from this and find the good and real one you deserve.

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 4:46:09 AM

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Agreeing with the rest. He wasn't/isn't a master but a jerk. Honey been there done that and wear that t-shirt. The best we can do is learn from the mistakes we make and grow from them.

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 6:11:32 AM

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Sorry to hear about your experience. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger...and more discriminating. Good luck to you!

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 8:38:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Estring

First of all, he isn't a Master. He is a liar. You are better off without him. It may be hard to understand that, but you will. You were snookered by a jerk. Learn from it.

Masters can be liars and jerks. Real dominants can be assholes. Being a dom doesn't mean you're a good person- it just means you're a dom.

I'm curious to know how much time was taken before a commitment was made? And whether it was a first? At least this was the hurt that you had and not much worse. Next time you can make a better choice.

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 11:17:22 AM

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I have to agree with Estring also.

Its unfortunate this happened to you.Dont get to down...there are many more fish in the sea.

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 11:34:12 AM

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why lie about it

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 12:47:39 PM

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Quite frankly? Because they can. They will always have a string of people that they can take advantage of because they don't do their due diligence before becoming involved.

This is one of the reasons it's good to be involved in your local scene or have a mentor that is local to you. News of users and abusers, be they Dom or sub, travels fast within a community. But, if you don't particpate in that community.....you'll never know.

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 1:08:45 PM

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Sheesh.. here I had a really good answer and OsideGirl gives it first...

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RE: why do some Masters play with a subs feelings then ... - 7/24/2006 1:11:22 PM

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I always have to be the devils advocate when too many people are saying the same thing, but at least there have been roughly two different viewpoints on this subject. I am not disagreeing with anyone, more just trying to look at what no one else has yet said, so I hope not to offend anyone, I just wanted to add a bit more. I have to agree though that if he had to lie about his actions then he is a coward for not facing what is the truth. But lets face the fact that all of us at one time or another are out looking for what we want. Do we ever realy find what we want, or do we settle for the closest thing that matches to what we want? Even more so how many of us realy know what it is we want? This can be true for both men as well as women, if we dont know ourself we dont know what we want. It happens on both sides of the coin, where do we draw the line and begin to say I am going to stay with this one person and stop looking elsewhere?

Now granted we men are vile creatures that of course want the cutest thing to look at. We are simply wired to be vissual creatures. There are a lot of things to love about a woman but anyone trying to tell you differently is again not facing the truth. It may not be the only thing we consider but it is always going to be there. The real factor on this is how well does a man know himself? If a man knows himself then he will know what he wants, and he will look for a lot more qualities in a girl other than simply the physical appearance. If he does not know himself well then he will look only at physical beauty and loose site of other things. Again it all comes to knowing one self, if you cannot be honest with yourself then you will never be honest with someone else.

Perhaps this will not help you in your current situation, but rather be a helpfull insight for the furture. I am sorry that you were hurt, but that is just a part of life we all have to face.

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