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Am I really a sub? - 12/21/2016 11:35:05 AM

Curiouscorally

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I am new to this whole lifestyle. I have been talking with people to try to determine if what I am looking for is actually sub like behavior. I want rough sex with only one man that I trust. I would like to try being tied up, whipped, spanked, and many other things. Thus the trust. I want to be his whore in the bedroom. I want him to use me for his pleasure and maybe even some for me. But outside I want to be his friend or equal. Some doms ive talked to say others are full of shit and aren't following the rules. Where do I learn these rules? How do I know the men I'm talking to aren't just feeding me bullshit?

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RE: Am I really a sub? - 12/21/2016 11:41:00 AM

stef

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If you're only interested in playing while in the bedroom, then you're more likely a bottom than submissive, and there's nothing wrong with that.

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RE: Am I really a sub? - 12/21/2016 12:15:12 PM

OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Curiouscorally

Where do I learn these rules?

The only rules that exist are the ones that you and your partner say exist.

It's perfectly fine to be a bottom or bedroom only submissive. Own it and have fun with it.

You entitled to set out what it is that want and pursue it. The only thing I would tel you is to be absolutely upfront and honest about what you want. If someone has an issue with it, they're not the person for you and move on. There are a ton of guys that are absolutely thrilled to have what you're offering.

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RE: Am I really a sub? - 12/21/2016 1:59:34 PM

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