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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

Just out of curiosity, tonight I got on the internet and tried to find a book akin to the one John Warren has written ("The Loving Dominant"), or any relatively commerically successful book, that would be a "How to:" on Sadistic/masochistic bdsm relationships. Books specifically about Sadists and masochists, not general D/s. And about how this S/m dynamic plays out in bdsm relationships, the headspace the people are in when they engage, sample secenarios they might engage in, how they keep "the fires burning" so to speak, etc. And - I was very surprised to find amost nothing. Nothing that would be commercially recognized as a success on the same level as John Warren's book, for instance (I've read it, it's a great book, Mr. Warren).

I had to wonder if either my research skills are going downhill, or if a publisher would shy away from producing something like this, because it might be considered too "taboo" ? Even if that's true, surely someobody has published a decently informative book about this topic area.

*Anyway, if anyone has any references for me as far as a book on Sadisitc/masochistic relationships in the bdsm world, I'd be grateful for one (or several). I've read all the dry medical journal articles I can stand, and they are not telling me what I want to know, anyway.

But - that is not my only point in this thread. I really do think, considering how long it took me to not find what I was looking for, that the commercial book market is ripe for this kind of book - and have to wonder why nobody has written one ( nobody I could find, anyway - and I looked for over two hours).

*If someone wanted to make their first million, they could do this - and I know the publishing world can be brutal, but there are probably people here that could write a book like this. I know a woman who wrote a book called "How to Satisfy a Woman Every Time". She was a housewife, and within three years, she was a milionaire, because it sold so well. Of course, finding a publisher (for any  book) is no easy task sometimes, but I am sure it could be eventually be done, with perseverence (and a well-written and researched book).

With that in mind, I've taken it upon myself to think up some possible titles to inspire someone, maybe, to give doig something like this a shot. (I am too busy to do this right now, and am not an expert in this are anyway. That's why I was looking for a book)!

Here are some possible titles. Feel free to add your own to the list. Let your mind wander and roam. And, if anyone knows of any books about this area, I'd appreciate the title and author (or location)? Thnaks.

Sadism and Masochism: Entering Your Own Pleasureable Hell
 
Sadism and You: Satisfying The Beast Within
 
"Oh God, Make It Stop...Please, Please, Make It Stop!" - A Guide to Everyday Sadism and Masochism 

Daddy Dearest: The Creative Use Of Everyday Items In Sadistic Scenarios
 
You Are Not A Bad Person. Well, Okay - Not a Really, Really Bad Person.
Satisfying Your Sadistic Drive Is Not a Weird, Sick Need. It's Okay (Really).
(joke) 
 
How Can Feeling So Much Pain Feel This Good? Sadism and Masochism: An Introductory Guide
 
- Susan