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Marking her property and sharing my bf - 12/27/2016 12:16:10 PM

herblondy

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My gf likes to mark me with her "female" scent and bite marks and I find I enjoy being marked as well. Since the only other one to see me nude since I have been with her is my bf, this is primarily for him to see. Right now it's more a sexxxy ownership, playful type of thing. But lately there have been occasions when she made it noticeable for others to notice when I went out in public. I find this really exciting when I see especially another woman notice how my gf has marked me even though the woman may not know how or why or who. This kink was discovered while my gf was seducing me (I was straight at the time) when she had left a few hickies and bite marks on me that my bf noticed before me. Since he had no clue it was a woman doing this to me I had to explain to him who did it and hope for the best.

The question is do a lot of Mistress' like to "mark their property?" Also, we are maybe looking into expanding ways she can mark me and show off I am owned that don't involve a lot of pain. So far it has been mainly through hickies, bite marks and our personal favorite of her female scent on me. The female scent idea came from another story for another time.

I have another problem but it might be best placed in the poly section? But I will try here first as I guess it could work in either thread.

Where to start and keeping it short as possible. I was in an abusive relationship with a man. I started a new job and met my new bf and my gf within a month of each other. My gf let me live with her so I could get away from him. Soon after I moved in she started flirting with me. She is much much larger than me and I was straight at the time. I can be on the timid and quiet side and I like to avoid confrontations so I let things go WAY to far before I ever protested. Also I felt VERY obligated to her for all she had done. So things kept escalating in what she was doing to me. By way too far I mean what she was doing was starting to turn me on despite myself and I struggled for a long time with my new found sexual feelings for her. It was more than just her being a girl but also her being so dominant and over powering with me that I was enjoying.

Long story short, in time I accepted what I was denying and totally submitted to her. This was right around the time my new bf first discovered the marks on me and I confessed it was my gf leaving them. He took it well and was fine with it as long as I was. At the time I wasn't sure how fine I was with it. LOL. My bf and gf didn't like each other at all from way before me but her "marking me" for him to find and him enjoying it somehow brought them closer together and now they are cordial too each other and show mutual respect for each other. For example, if my gf wants to try something new with me that might affect him in some way, she will often ask him if he is alright with it first.

This has progressed to the point of her aggressively fondling, kissing, and groping me and me giving her massages in front of him. Which we all greatly enjoy. Especially when I act like I don't.

The furthest we have gone so far is me giving my gf oral sex before he comes over and kissing him once he does. My problem is I want to please both of them and I am willing to let my bf watch my gf and I in bed as long as my gf and bf don't touch in any way. So we were thinking of tieing him to a chair and letting him watch. I am just concerned that it will advance past that and I may have problems accepting it. Or we may all love it. Also. my bf would not be good as her sub but he does enjoy seeing my gf being dominant with me. Even though he isn't.

Has any one else ever experienced anything similar to this and how did it work out? I really would like to try doing something like this but I just have concerns.

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RE: Marking her property and sharing my bf - 12/27/2016 3:21:51 PM

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Also, we are maybe looking into expanding ways she can mark me and show off I am owned that don't involve a lot of pain.

probably can't help you much, most of the marking we do involves a lot of pain or cum showers.

As for your other question.

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So we were thinking of tieing him to a chair and letting him watch.

I would leave that decision to him.

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I am just concerned that it will advance past that and I may have problems accepting it.

Entirely possible, but that's what safe words are for, to call a stop to something that is not working.

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Or we may all love it.

Isn't that the whole point? or are you hoping he won't like it?

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Also. my bf would not be good as her sub but he does enjoy seeing my gf being dominant with me.

That too, is a decision for him to make.

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RE: Marking her property and sharing my bf - 12/28/2016 3:30:50 AM

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Thank you for the reply. :)

Oh, he is all for being tied to the chair and watching. It's me thats being a little shy about it.

"Entirely possible, but that's what safe words are for, to call a stop to something that is not working. "

Haha, while it's happening isn't the problem, for me. I have NEVER wanted anything to stop so far while it was happening. It's when it's over and I think about what I just did. I feel I guess a little ashamed and guilty but that excites me some how as well.

"Isn't that the whole point? or are you hoping he won't like it?"

OMG, what an interesting question! I never even thought of that. I always thought of it as showing off for him. Now I have to reconsider after your question. Hmm, I guess a part of me would like it if he was uncomfortable with it but really excited by it in a rape fantasy type of thing.

As to my bf being her sub too. He would never do it and she most likely would not unless he did. The being tied to a chair is our compromise.

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RE: Marking her property and sharing my bf - 12/28/2016 6:01:38 AM

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It's when it's over and I think about what I just did. I feel I guess a little ashamed and guilty but that excites me some how as well.

Ah yes, I know that little problem well. And for me, what I need to get through that, is the love and acceptance, and yes admiration and gratitude, of my partners. And for that, you need to talk to them. Both about your apprehension before the fact, and your remorse (if any) after the fact. Also keep in mind that you may not be the only one with that problem, either of them may feel that way as well, which is why it is important to discuss the way the things you do affect your head, not just your body. This is especially so when dealing with things like humiliation which are entirely mental/emotional. You are by definition messing around in each other's heads, so you need to talk about how you feel about it.

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I guess a part of me would like it if he was uncomfortable with it but really excited by it in a rape fantasy type of thing.

Yup, I'd say you have some further deep thinking to do. :)

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RE: Marking her property and sharing my bf - 12/28/2016 9:33:00 PM

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"Ah yes, I know that little problem well. And for me, what I need to get through that, is the love and acceptance, and yes admiration and gratitude, of my partners. And for that, you need to talk to them. Both about your apprehension before the fact, and your remorse (if any) after the fact. Also keep in mind that you may not be the only one with that problem, either of them may feel that way as well, which is why it is important to discuss the way the things you do affect your head, not just your body. This is especially so when dealing with things like humiliation which are entirely mental/emotional. You are by definition messing around in each other's heads, so you need to talk about how you feel about it. "

So I am not alone then in having regretful feelings? That helps a lot knowing others feel the same sometimes. I struggled a lot with my new found bisexuality. i just did not want to admit to myself that I was being turned on by a woman. Before we actually ever had sex, she would tease and fondle me so much that I would get super wet. All the while I was begging her to stop. Then when I started wanting her to continue, she would stop and just leave me there slumped on the floor or bed and quivering for release. I would go into the bedroom and masturbate to a huge orgasm then cry myself to sleep. Not for what she had done to me but for what I had done to myself. I swore I would never let her do that to me again. Then the next night I would find myself pinned under her again and repeating it all over. And it was totally avoidable. I was always putting myself in harms way by saying or doing something that I knew would provoke her. I tried to convince myself that I didn't want it but my behavior suggested otherwise. You see, i had convinced myself that as long as I didn't like it,I was straight. But the things i was doing to myself and her made it harder and harder for me to keep the charade up. Thats why I think I felt guilty and bad. Then to amplify things, it was clear I was becoming more and more subservient to her. Something I never was before with any lover. it was like I had no control what so ever over what was happening to me inside my body and out. We often did talk about it but not until after we started having sex. And it did help a lot as you said.

Oh the rape fantasy thing I have come to terms with. We "play" at that all the time and we both enjoy it. I have become quit the little actress when it comes to resisting. :) It's the idea of me liking that my bf is uncomfortable with the idea and me liking that is something I need to think about more and talk with him about.

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RE: Marking her property and sharing my bf - 12/29/2016 10:46:37 AM

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There are other forms of marking. Probably the more common is red marks, welts, and bruising from being whipped, paddled or flogged. Cat-o-nine tails, floggers, whips, crops, canes and a variety of other instruments are used to this end. Many Dom(mes) take delight in seeing the marks hours to days after play as a reminder.

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RE: Marking her property and sharing my bf - 12/30/2016 10:44:15 PM

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The only red marks she wants are from a red sharpie.

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