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Who is the more shallow? Men or Women.


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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 1/8/2017 10:20:57 AM   
preytolife


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire
Your best relationships/date/sex etc was it with the best looking person you have ever dated or not.


Mine was not. And I would argue people that say their best relationship was with the most attractive previous partner are exhibiting a form of confirmation bias.

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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 1/8/2017 10:29:24 AM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		Mines was not, all my best ones have been with the with nots preytolife and they easily trounced the lookers...I learned that epochs ago ;). But yet I know they matter to most I just dont understand why?

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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 1/8/2017 10:50:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

I was actually being serious (you can tar and feather me any time spirit) and it was 100% related to RM thread before this one.... I know he is a one track waffle against a minority – why fuked if I know...crusade against fuk knows what, etc

In essence it was about profile views and email volume.
In essence he said men get little to no email and he is correct.

Now let us cite site where the numbers and ratios are more balanced of a super 8:1 and call it pof....and use me as an example

Now, if I hide all my pictures I get 0-2 views per week.
Depending on which one I use as my main will determine how many views/mails I get and I prefer my shit ordinary pictures. But women do not. So I think he has a valid point....wicked shoe theorem discusses variable galore I can’t be bothered typing it all out.

So I believe it is true – subtract married cheaty men out of the equation and where are we? Evenish or do women win shallow.
Anyone who knows me knows I like eyes.

And do looks matter? Ive said this time and time again to men/women. Your best relationships/date/sex etc was it with the best looking person you have ever dated or not.

I think looks do matter to most although the logic behind it is wanton/absent i simply do not understand-ayone want to help me out with this one that and I actually think women are the more guilty.

Waves at RM women are rare on this place and women who are actually looking rarer still and the aforementioned are inundated with 1000s of waffle most of it is not good waffle....still even us men like bit of attention-interest now and then



You're a freaky creature with the way you write in the boards at the best of times, but actually I don't think I'd noticed you in here when I first saw your profile on the other side. Now as most people know, I'm not looking for anyone at all, and I haven't been for a very long time. I started out here already with a playmate. I did actually mail you because I read your profile as it made me laugh. It's not the usual. It actually does appeal to me on some level, but your posting style in here really doesn't, and nor are you my sort of taste in men, although I'm sure I'm not your taste in women either.

A well written profile, and the way a person conducts themselves in the forums is bound to impact on how they are viewed just as much as their photos. However, regardless of how wonderful someone may write there also has to be some semblance of physical attraction too.

When younger I was very much attracted to pretty men. There was one chap in particular that I really wanted. I finally got him, and wow was I in heaven. Right until we were on our own. He was just so boring. He could not hold a conversation at all, no matter how hard I tried, and I tried to engage him in everything he was interested in too, but he gave me nothing to work with. Others too thought that their looks were enough to coast along with.

My son's father was different. I never found him good looking at all, but there was just something else. I was very sexually attracted to him, but I have no idea why.

Like yourself I am an eyes person, and that is how my playmate got me. To start with it was purely superficial with him. In fact he was really hard work to have a conversation with to start with, but that changed after a while when we found we actually had lots in common, and he relaxed a little.

What I do know though is that physical attraction can be lost when a person betrays you. I had worried with my playmate that after we ended things I'd always have that 'Aaawww' thing going on if I saw him. I found a photo on one of my hard drives when transferring work from it to a new one the other week having thought I'd deleted them all. I'm very glad to say that whatever had first pulled me to him has gone. It's fair to say though that to start with the physical attraction played a part in how good the sex was with him.

I'm only 44, therefore I'm hoping I'm still to have the best sex to come yet

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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 1/8/2017 4:33:17 PM   
Spiritedsub2


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

Mines was not, all my best ones have been with the with nots preytolife and they easily trounced the lookers...I learned that epochs ago ;). But yet I know they matter to most I just dont understand why?


It might be at least partly the influence of culture and media. Or maybe it's age, young people instinctively looking for the best genes, older people free to look for more rewarding qualities.

Then again, maybe lots of people no matter how old are just really shallow

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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 1/9/2017 2:53:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire
And do looks matter? Ive said this time and time again to men/women. Your best relationships/date/sex etc was it with the best looking person you have ever dated or not.

One of my worst sex is the most gorgeous man I ever seen on earth, and to me, he is more beautiful than any of my favourite male celebrities. As many of my favourite male celebrities do not have the big body, like the rock, that I like. And The Rock obviously isn't good looking at all to me. So great body, not so nice face. This dude got it all.

Perfect face, perfect body. He got a personal trainer who got him to tip top condition. But also on top of that, perfect mind too, I really love the way he is. He was a Harvard grad too, so book smart, but also seriously, lateral thinker. So I really dig him but was so disappointed, in bed, we just didn't click at all. We just didn't enjoy the same things in bed. What a pity, he was so hot and smart as well.

But I have to say, my perfect sex right now, best sex I ever had in my life is physically precisely what I love in a man. Also large, tall and big, not ripped, but firm enough. He would be my perfect body too. And he calls himself ugly, and to be fair, he is not traditionally handsome. Not like the other guy who I think is the kind of look that is unanimously handsome with most women. But my current best sex looks pleasant enough to my eye. I mean, it's a look I would like alot that is not handsome, but I like it alot! I love him alot physically. I practically lust for him like a pervert.

But sexually, I have never met a man in my life also, who gets the nuances of little things I like in bed. I have also never met a man in my life who's body is so sensitive and reactive to touch. I have never enjoyed playing with a man's body so much as much as I love touching him. He gets so much from everything. I am a woman with a very sensitive body too. I can cum instantly from light touch to side boob too, so this man is the male version of me. He can cum not just from cock stimulation. But other parts of his body too. He is amazing! And it also helps that his sex drive rival mine. Most men the more they cum, they more they slow down. He is like me, the more we cum, the more into a sex frenzy we continue on and on and on non stop. We never sleep when we are together. He matches my relentlessness.

I have had sex once with a super duper nice guy. Irish dude. Who was too close to my height and too skinny. He was handsome, I feel he looked almost like an Ewan Macgregor with a beard, and yes, his beard was a big problem for me too! I hated it! It was sexual kill joy for me personally anyway. And I didn't like how he feels with my body.

I got silly quirks like, when I lie on a man's chest, my feet should not go beyond his feet. So for example with my best sex, when I am just chilling on top of him, lying on his chest, I love how my feet fully stretched can only reach his ankles. With a shorter, guy, it over extends and I hate the feeling of it sooo much! It just doesn't feel good. It just doesn't feel sexy or make me arouse with him.

And I literally had sex with him because he was so nice to me and I thought, okay, I know physically he is not my type, but we seem to have sexual preferences in common and he seriously was so damn nice to me. Anyway, for me, it's just sex. No big deal.

Although he did everything right sexually. But I was so turn off. So I gave it a chance though, I mean, nice guy, and I was hoping I would enjoy him but I did not, and it was a pure physical thing. I just don't like him physically.

He wanted it to be a regular thing after, and I had to turn him down for that. But it was extremely difficult to explain to this dude why I didn't want to fuck him again, because he was sooo freaking nice to me. I simply told him, I don't feel we are sexually compatible, so I don't want to continue.

I think there has been 3 times already I experienced sexual compatibility but refused to see the guy again because I didn't like him physically. All 3 men because they were too skinny for me. I do have a BBM fetish. And I know physical is important for the perfect sexual experience. But since I have a BBM fetish, what I find a perfect body may not be other woman's perfect body.

And the thing is, I do love nice guys. My policy is, I think I will practically fuck any guy who is super nice to me, because I like exceptionally nice guys and I should give it a chance before I write him off just because I don't like him physically. I think alot of men find being nice too much effort to make. I like it when men make effort. Plus, I love pushing man's buttons to check if they got a temper, so that's how I spot a nice guy. How he handles it when I push his buttons and test his patience. I do it intentionally all the time, try to piss off the guy first to see how his temper is like. For me it is a safety mechanism. I never feel safe with bad tempered men.


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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 1/9/2017 4:05:19 AM   
thorneyone


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Status: offline 		This is yet another irrelevance. A pose that invites prejudice and meaningless clap trap.
Define shallow for crying out loud!!!!!!

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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 2/14/2017 11:57:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		It seems to me that before we can discuss who is more shallow we would need to take a look at that word "shallow". To the best of my knowledge, adjective is simply a pejorative. It means, "I don't value the things you value so you are inferior to me". I think by societal norms, we tend to use "shallow" more to refer to men than women... largely dissing male sexuality more than making any particular commentary about how people make their mate selection choices.

My general observation is that people are people and the two genders are WAY more similar than they are different.

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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 2/15/2017 5:57:57 AM   
WTFUTURD


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Status: offline 		both genders can be shallow so no contest.

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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 2/15/2017 5:59:25 AM   
WTFUTURD


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

I was actually being serious (you can tar and feather me any time spirit) and it was 100% related to RM thread before this one.... I know he is a one track waffle against a minority – why fuked if I know...crusade against fuk knows what, etc

In essence it was about profile views and email volume.
In essence he said men get little to no email and he is correct.

Now let us cite site where the numbers and ratios are more balanced of a super 8:1 and call it pof....and use me as an example

Now, if I hide all my pictures I get 0-2 views per week.
Depending on which one I use as my main will determine how many views/mails I get and I prefer my shit ordinary pictures. But women do not. So I think he has a valid point....wicked shoe theorem discusses variable galore I can’t be bothered typing it all out.

So I believe it is true – subtract married cheaty men out of the equation and where are we? Evenish or do women win shallow.
Anyone who knows me knows I like eyes.

And do looks matter? Ive said this time and time again to men/women. Your best relationships/date/sex etc was it with the best looking person you have ever dated or not.

I think looks do matter to most although the logic behind it is wanton/absent i simply do not understand-ayone want to help me out with this one that and I actually think women are the more guilty.

Waves at RM women are rare on this place and women who are actually looking rarer still and the aforementioned are inundated with 1000s of waffle most of it is not good waffle....still even us men like bit of attention-interest now and then


Well said and so very true. By the way how do you do?

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RE: Who is the more shallow? Men or Women. - 2/15/2017 6:01:26 AM   
WTFUTURD


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ORIGINAL: preytolife

Men are statistically more inclined to be visual creatures and often require more visual stimulation. Women have a tendency to require emotional bonds, or the illusion of emotional bonds. That said, contemporary culture drives people regardless of gender to value physical traits over many other attributes.


Esspecially the strange characters in the fictional NCIS TV cop show.

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