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drew01 -> Help (7/24/2006 2:06:52 PM)
Hi, I'm a 19 year old guy and I'm completely new to this lifestyle. I would like any helpful information anyone would want to share and am seeking online training/sessions from someone preferably under 32. I'm interested to learn as much as I can about the lifestyle and any links to pages with good material would also be greatly appreciated. I am not looking for anything in real life, I need to be discreet because my surrounding community is not very accepting of anything outside of the 'country' norm.

eXchanger -> RE: Help (7/27/2006 8:37:13 PM)
Hi Drew-- welcome, and best of luck w/your search. Since you s-i as a switch you might want to consider letting folks know whether you're looking for online experience as a sub or a Dom. I'd recommend the former since you are w/o experience. I understand your need to be discreet and think you will find a lot of support and community here.

Evanesce -> RE: Help (7/27/2006 9:24:32 PM)
Well, drew, the best education you can get online is through discussion forums like this one. Online "training" and "sessions" aren't going to teach you anything except maybe how to write a hot scene. However, keep in mind that EVERYTHING you read online is nothing more than someone's opinion. It's neither right nor wrong, and it may or may not have meaning in your own life.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Help (7/27/2006 10:07:18 PM)
What Denise said. Except that I'd add that in addition to EVERYTHING you read online is nothing more than someone's opinion, that 75 percent of it is pure crap.

Evanesce -> RE: Help (7/30/2006 1:17:43 PM)
quote: in addition to EVERYTHING you read online is nothing more than someone's opinion, that 75 percent of it is pure crap. And even that is still just an opinion. (personally, I think the percentage is much higher) [;)]

shadevarr -> RE: Help (8/1/2006 7:00:03 PM)
Just keep exploring and fantasizing about what you want. The better you get to know what you want and what you are capable of the happier you will be. Also thinking outside the box helps, like boyscout handbooks for learning quick knots and the such. I had to learn a lot of this on my own before I found that there was a community because I am stubborn that way, but welcome aboard and if you have questions I am always available to answer them.

BigEyes -> RE: Help (8/2/2006 10:52:08 PM)
My year on here has taught me a lot of things. I arrived having recognised certain behaviours and desires and came to discuss them with other like-minded people. I found a lot of good, honest, gentle, interesting people, and a lot of horny time wasters. But the most important and valuable thing I have taken from this site is the fact that I have worked out exactly what I am looking for and in what context I fit in - and this was a process that happened while I read what others had to say, talked to people, and asked questions. My pennies worth is to find out what you want, and THEN see what happens. Don't jump before you're sure of your platform.. Big Eyes

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Help (8/2/2006 11:23:13 PM)
One thing I have found useful for many of my beginners has been open conversation about the lifestyle, rather than scenes. Asking questions and listening to stories of others experiences can teach you as much if not more than online sceneing. Unfortauntey, a vast majority of people you can scene with online dont actually get into it. So, it can be little more interesting or infomative than interactive erotica (not that theres anything wrong with interactive erotica of course) Feel free to ask questions, all of us started somewhere and many of us are still learning. Every new pet is a new adventure for me. If youd like to contact me, go ahead. DV

shadevarr -> RE: Help (8/3/2006 12:34:40 AM)
Very true DiurnalVampire. Knowledge is the currency of the realm, learn everything you can.

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