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Help me help you - 2/7/2017 5:04:52 PM

topupornot2pup

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My submission is incorporated into my direct and straightforward persona. I'm a bit asking to be slapped around and more often than not I'm being cheeky and testing the waters to see how far I can push you or get away with. I just recently put all this together, and was wondering does this come off as subby or am I coming off wrong? I'm choleric, honest and loud so I want to know how to better attractive my type instead of more subs.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/7/2017 5:08:20 PM

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Some guys like bratty, some guys don't.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/10/2017 1:31:46 PM

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Frankly, OsideGril has spoken eloquently.

There is this (unwritten) "expectation" that a submissive will be "tame" (for lack of a better word), that a "bratty" (feisty, independent, choose *your* word) is not. That's more about the Dom/me than the submissive, their preference. Of course, it's easier for the Dom/me to have their sub "behave", inherenlty follow the well defined dynamic, but an individual such as yourself is then lef tot NOT be themselves, which entirely defeats what =you= are looking for.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/12/2017 11:32:58 AM

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Are you honest about this when you talk to prospective dominants? Because you need to be so they can tell if they're compatible or not.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/14/2017 5:53:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: topupornot2pup

My submission is incorporated into my direct and straightforward persona. I'm a bit asking to be slapped around and more often than not I'm being cheeky and testing the waters to see how far I can push you or get away with. I just recently put all this together, and was wondering does this come off as subby or am I coming off wrong? I'm choleric, honest and loud so I want to know how to better attractive my type instead of more subs.

Know your dom. I, frankly, would either pass as too much trouble, or, if already with me, whip your ass hard with a belt. So depends on how you want this to end up.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/15/2017 8:10:32 AM

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I'm also curious as to why you can't simply turn to your partner and ask for a spanking or whatever. Some guys prefer that and it gets you the same thing in the end. Pun intentional.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/15/2017 8:37:51 AM

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Yep. And they do.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/19/2017 1:13:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: topupornot2pup

My submission is incorporated into my direct and straightforward persona. I'm a bit asking to be slapped around and more often than not I'm being cheeky and testing the waters to see how far I can push you or get away with. I just recently put all this together, and was wondering does this come off as subby or am I coming off wrong? I'm choleric, honest and loud so I want to know how to better attractive my type instead of more subs.

If you are a woman offer him your hair and look disappointed if he does not pull it and if he does then reward him by rubbing your ass on him and surely he will get the picture.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/19/2017 1:54:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LTE

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ORIGINAL: topupornot2pup

My submission is incorporated into my direct and straightforward persona. I'm a bit asking to be slapped around and more often than not I'm being cheeky and testing the waters to see how far I can push you or get away with. I just recently put all this together, and was wondering does this come off as subby or am I coming off wrong? I'm choleric, honest and loud so I want to know how to better attractive my type instead of more subs.

If you are a woman offer him your hair and look disappointed if he does not pull it and if he does then reward him by rubbing your ass on him and surely he will get the picture.

So, rather than discuss it before hand like adults, your suggestion is to top from the bottom to try to manipulate the situation.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/19/2017 2:04:39 PM

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The heretofore suggestion of 'rubbing someone's ass" on a Dominant must be prevalent to working on males. As a female Dominant, I can assure you that cozying up the ass cheeks isn't that big of a thing. I mean, I'm a fan of ass fucking, but it doesn't translate into putting up with other people's sh^t.

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RE: Help me help you - 2/19/2017 2:08:28 PM

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I would say party pooper if it would move this conversation along................sadly.....................

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RE: Help me help you - 2/19/2017 2:13:49 PM

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Party POOPER.

I might piddle.

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RE: Help me help you - 3/12/2017 11:13:23 AM

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It is all a matter of taste, Topupornot2pup. Generally speaking, I dislike the bratty type. Even though I enjoy when my sub acts like one every once in a while, it is a good pretext for punishment - and she knows that too. But I don't encourage her to do it more often than, say, twice a month. Some Dominants might find your type to be more intriguing. In the end, you have to be yourself and the right partner will come. No point in denying who you are, it doesn't look good in the long run. Play safe.

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