WindAndSky
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Joined: 6/26/2016 Status: offline
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Most people can just be with someone, at least to start. You're right, vanilla relationships start that way, and so do most BDSM ones. For many people, though, living together eventually is a goal for them. Profiles are a good place to list goals and eventual ideals. The best way to go about it is to ask them. "So, you mention being a live-in slave? How does that look for you, and at what stage of the relationship do you think it would happen? Do you think you could be happy being committed to someone, who is also committed to you, and not living together?" Everyone will have a different answer. Why wouldn't you want to even talk about it, though? To me, being in a relationship for a long time and then finding out we're not on the same page seems potentially hurtful, to both of us. I completely get wanting time to yourself. My sub and I are living together, and it is sometimes hard not to have that alone time, as much as I care for him and enjoy spending time with him. It is a trade-off, one that some aren't willing to make. But there are also ways to get that time occasionally. Have them take a cooking class or some such - better their service and get a few hours alone! Not saying that you have to consider doing that, just that living with someone doesn't have to mean never being alone.
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