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ORIGINAL: smileforme50

Many years ago when I first started exploring "all of this", I remember some people telling me how they felt that it was not a good thing for a Master to fall in love with his slave, because it would cause him to go soft on her. She would slowly try to get past the rules he hadd set for her, and he would let things go until eventually the relationship was essentially vanilla.

Well....I am finally seeing this for myself for the first time. I have a Dominant friend who has been in an on-again/off-again relationship with his slave for several years, and with most recent time she has come back to him, he really doesn't want to lose her this time....he wants this to time to be for good. But even he sees what is happening and he has expressed his fears to me. He sees that she is doing things she shouldn't....making decisions without asking him first, making plans to visit friends out of town, insisting that they need to stop somewhere while on a trip, and then arguing with him. He knows he needs to put his foot down but he is afraid that if he does, he will lose her again, and he doesn't want that to happen again.

Have any of you had this problem? How did you handle it? Any suggestions for any advice I can give him?

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ORIGINAL: smileforme50
Have any of you had this problem? How did you handle it? Any suggestions for any advice I can give him?

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ORIGINAL: baudeight

8 believes that there is no harm in the submissive loving the Dominant but that a Dominant loving a submissive will prevent the Dominant from taking the submissive to its full potential and value.

respectfully
8

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ORIGINAL: tamaka

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

I dont have the view I shouldn't love my slaves. In fact the very opposite. I am deeply in love with my three ladies. One of which is a newly begining elationship and ironically we first cross paths here on CM some ten years ago. I believe it's more insecurity and trust in that the love that causes D types to go soft. The other factor the d-type is not all that dominant as they like to portray and after awhile the lack of the dominance factor will come out. The former problem can be resolved the latter not so much.


As a note. I have never been accused of going soft in my dominance of my ladies. Largely because I am very much focus on building that secuirty and trust in the beginning of the relationship and maintain going forward. If everyone is authentic the path is rather incredible. But I have had a couple individuals come into my life who may of truly wanted the life. They were not honest with themselves. This lack of authenticity eventually ended those relationships.

For anyone out there interested in trying a poly relationship, i'd like to highlight two red flags of the kind of people to avoid getting involved with.
1st is the dominant is so unstable that he claims to be 'deeply in love' in a very new relationship. Unless of course he is a teenager.

2nd is the dominant/family takes no accountability for failed relationships. It is always only the 3rd subs fault.

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

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ORIGINAL: tamaka

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

I dont have the view I shouldn't love my slaves. In fact the very opposite. I am deeply in love with my three ladies. One of which is a newly begining elationship and ironically we first cross paths here on CM some ten years ago. I believe it's more insecurity and trust in that the love that causes D types to go soft. The other factor the d-type is not all that dominant as they like to portray and after awhile the lack of the dominance factor will come out. The former problem can be resolved the latter not so much.


As a note. I have never been accused of going soft in my dominance of my ladies. Largely because I am very much focus on building that secuirty and trust in the beginning of the relationship and maintain going forward. If everyone is authentic the path is rather incredible. But I have had a couple individuals come into my life who may of truly wanted the life. They were not honest with themselves. This lack of authenticity eventually ended those relationships.

For anyone out there interested in trying a poly relationship, i'd like to highlight two red flags of the kind of people to avoid getting involved with.
1st is the dominant is so unstable that he claims to be 'deeply in love' in a very new relationship. Unless of course he is a teenager.

2nd is the dominant/family takes no accountability for failed relationships. It is always only the 3rd subs fault.

You should really not comment about things that you know nothing of. This man has made even non believers in poly like me know that it can work if all parties are committed to it. The love and genuine respect shown in his relationship is the things most folks dream about.

Seriously, the ignorance shown in this post of yours takes the cake, and for someone who has shown as much ignorance on these boards as you have, that is really saying something.

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

I dont have the view I shouldn't love my slaves. In fact the very opposite. I am deeply in love with my three ladies. One of which is a newly begining elationship and ironically we first cross paths here on CM some ten years ago. I believe it's more insecurity and trust in that the love that causes D types to go soft. The other factor the d-type is not all that dominant as they like to portray and after awhile the lack of the dominance factor will come out. The former problem can be resolved the latter not so much.


As a note. I have never been accused of going soft in my dominance of my ladies. Largely because I am very much focus on building that secuirty and trust in the beginning of the relationship and maintain going forward. If everyone is authentic the path is rather incredible. But I have had a couple individuals come into my life who may of truly wanted the life. They were not honest with themselves. This lack of authenticity eventually ended those relationships.

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

yeah wtfe......I forgot for a moment I was replying to Miss Knows it all.....have a lovely day, and my apologies for thinking you could ever learn or admit you were mistaken.