MasterFireMaam
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Joined: 3/1/2006 From: Charleston, WV Status: offline
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Sometimes, no matter what we do, what the sub/slave projects (as in the psychological definition) onto us will put us up on a pedestal, no matter what we want or say. Our job, in the words of Master Skip Chasey, is to be able to withstand and allow the sub/slave figure it out. Specifically, he says, "A Master is willing to stand in the middle of his slave’s projections about the Master without moving, neither supporting nor fostering the illusion, nor destroying it." This might be hard at times. I had a submissive friend fall in love with me. I knew that it was coming months in advanced and warned him that if we continued down the path he professed to want, he would and it wouldn't be requited. I gave him the choice of what experience he wanted. he chose to remain on that path and was hurt when it all came about. But, he was able to be very mature about it and saw what had happened. We are still good friends and I am blessed to have him in my life. It's the sub/slave's job to come into the relationship with reality in mind, aware of or looking for projections they may be making. And don't forget, Masters project onto slaves, too, so it's our job to do the same for ourselves. I did some serious projection onto slave jason. It's a natural human occurrence that simply can't be stopped. But, what we can do is to be more self-aware, be willing to be compassionate with ourselves when we find it happening unconsciously, despite our best efforts and to learn from the experience. I've not said this anywhere near as I've heard Master Skip say it, but perhaps it still has meaning. Master Fire
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The power of who we are can be intoxicating. The power of who we could be is humbling. ----- Ms Relationship Books ----- BDSM How-To Books
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