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When you D/S relationship ends - 4/9/2017 11:05:31 PM   
Sub19704U


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Status: offline 		I recently broke with my Dom... and by far is the hardest breakup of my life. Any advice on how to recover from this?
I'm guessing the loss of the Master is very hard for a sub... 💔

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/10/2017 10:04:38 AM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		Go to a pub, cry in your beer.
Go to a store, buy new shoes.
Go to local BDSM events, show off new shoes and find someone that makes you smile, or laugh, or cum, or cuddle or etc.

I also hear that eating chocolate ice cream helps.

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/10/2017 3:24:24 PM   
kiwisub22


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Status: offline 		The loss of a significant other is always hard, no matter who...
You recover the way you recover from a nonD/s relationship end.

You go to work, you clean your house, you feed your pets, you feel little joy in anything for a while, then finally, one day, you realise that you are over it. There is probably a soft spot for the old master, but you will be ready to look for another.

Life goes on, no matter who you are or aren't with. It seems unfair, but its just the way it goes.

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/10/2017 4:47:37 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		It's no harder to get over a Master than it is to get over any other relationship where you've invested your time and emotions. As the other have said, you continue to live. You do things. You have fun. You laugh a little, cry a little. Time and life will get you over the hurt.

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/12/2017 3:56:58 PM   
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It may help.

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/12/2017 7:45:25 PM   
littleclip


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Status: offline 		go to local events meet and greets be active and positive I was internally enslaved I cried for several days it took me several weeks to get past it you will as well be strong

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/14/2017 12:45:56 AM   
pakalking


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Status: offline 		This may help:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/getting-back-out-there/201701/the-emotions-grief-after-breakup

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/14/2017 10:52:03 AM   
MelliferaSiren


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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/15/2017 4:15:41 PM   
Masterofslutslav


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Status: offline 		Good points, all of them. Why the break up? That also factors into how you cover. Cheating? Lying? Drugs? Breaking agreed limit? If there isn't trust then you are protecting yourself and should take pride in your actions.

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/16/2017 10:35:48 AM   
focalss


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Status: offline 		I was recently wondering why Ds relationships break up especially if it is F/m. As a sub I think the sub is more devastated but it depends on why. I was in a situation where we were not compatible and it wasn't going anywhere so I wasn't that devastated it was more my decision. I also am wary or picky take your pick and if there isn't a good connection I don't get involved but then again that means I have mostly been alone.

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 4/21/2017 2:52:54 AM   
Greta75


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sub19704U

I recently broke with my Dom... and by far is the hardest breakup of my life. Any advice on how to recover from this?
I'm guessing the loss of the Master is very hard for a sub... 💔

I believe in rebound. But that's just me. Not spend one more moment wasting time mooning over him. Go out, have fun with other men! But that's just me. Or can also go out with girlfriends.

They say, this is bad. But I don't know, when I am heartbroken, I prefer to have distractions than sit alone and keep crying over it at home by myself. I prefer to step up meeting loads of new men for fun.

But everyone is different. Some choose to be alone and grief alone for awhile until they are okay again.

When one door closes, a new one is waiting to open. You just gotta put yourself out there to find it. And just enjoy.

Also, rebound is not suitable for women who wants a temporary replacement relationship, that's a damn bad reason and usually will not go well. Rebound to me, is enjoying being single and the freedom of dating loads of different men again. And just enjoying that freedom to do whatever you want and all the things you could not do while you were with him!

Perhaps I got alot of things that I couldn't do while I was with a partner. Because it would eat into our time together, so I had to give up things. I see it as an opportunity to pursue all the things you could not pursue if you were in a relationship.



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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 5/17/2017 7:23:29 PM   
seekingOwnertoo


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Status: offline 		So OP ...

Here is the very BEST advice

quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Go to a pub, cry in your beer.
Go to a store, buy new shoes.
Go to local BDSM events, show off new shoes and find someone that makes you smile, or laugh, or cum, or cuddle or etc.



And I highlighted the PART that works best ...

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 5/17/2017 7:24:31 PM   
NoirMetal


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Status: offline 		Say fuck it and go find another.

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 5/17/2017 7:36:52 PM   
tamaka


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ORIGINAL: NoirMetal

Say fuck it and go find another.


Like it's so easy to find another.

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 5/18/2017 8:45:02 PM   
NoirMetal


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ORIGINAL: tamaka


quote:

ORIGINAL: NoirMetal

Say fuck it and go find another.


Like it's so easy to find another.

It's better to try than to sit in a pool of your own tears.

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RE: When you D/S relationship ends - 5/18/2017 8:49:28 PM   
tamaka


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ORIGINAL: NoirMetal


quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka


quote:

ORIGINAL: NoirMetal

Say fuck it and go find another.


Like it's so easy to find another.

It's better to try than to sit in a pool of your own tears.


Very true.

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