MissKatya
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Hello mistress' , dommes.
My fetish is for online play. I like women that enjoy making me do things to myself on cam. Penetrating, tie, chastity, cum control etc. But I am constantly getting asked to tribute or pay etc etc. I do this for mutual fun. I offer my body on cam for control. Why do all off the "mistress' " here seem to want to dive directly in your wallet. I never ask to see the other person naked or anything just like them to be on the other end so I know they are real, and they are really a woman.
I am being to confining / controlling to be a sub?
Or is there just slit of women claiming to be dommes but just want money.
Oooh....my turn to answer!
So, as I am sure you have figured out-my answer is going to be the same as every other Dominant woman who has answered on this thread-this is catering ONLY to your needs and offers nothing for the Domme.
But for shits and giggles, I want to respond in detail to a few key comments.
Hello mistress' , dommes.
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My fetish is for online play. I like women that enjoy making me do things to myself on cam. Penetrating, tie, chastity, cum control etc. But I am constantly getting asked to tribute or pay etc etc. I do this for mutual fun.
Here is the problem-it's not mutual fun. This what YOU want to do. While it's nice to stay positive and think that someone is out there who is willing to reciprocate, you are seeking the holy grail of online kink-a male submissive with nothing to offer other than their kinks, looking for a woman to take the time to watch them do it. You are looking for a specific yet tiny demographic.
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I offer my body on cam for control. Why do all off the "mistress' " here seem to want to dive directly in your wallet.
Simple answer-because it gives us nothing in return. Money is the great equalizer. It leverages the playing ground. You are asking a woman to take time out of her day to watch you perform on camera under the guise of "her controlling you" when in reality, we aren't "controlling" you. We're watching you do things that you already wanted to do to yourself, on cam. I'm going to save my whole speech on how the whole "I offer my body on cam for you, Mistress" is just flat out male entitlement...that's for another thread.
But also, many of us already play in real-time. With that being said, why would I want to take time to watch some random guy pleasure himself when I can feel real flesh under my hand and servitude at my approval and discretion?
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I never ask to see the other person naked or anything just like them to be on the other end so I know they are real, and they are really a woman.
Doesn't matter if they want to go on cam wearing only cabbage leaves. It's taking time from someone's life to meet your needs.
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I am being to confining / controlling to be a sub?
The common term is "topping from the bottom" but honestly, you aren't a sub or submissive. Your fetish is being told what to do but that's about it. Everything else about you is about your needs.
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Or is there just slit of women claiming to be dommes but just want money.
If a random stranger asked me to take time from my life to pay attention to them and watch them do things that I have no desire to engage in, you bet your sweet ass I am going to ask to be paid. Instead, I'll go play with someone who I share mutual interests with and enjoy their company.
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I think the point of me generalising may of been missed somewhat. What I am willing to perform has been generalised in my op.
I looked at your profile and I stand behind my above comment. Your "submission" is one-sided and only caters to your needs. I know very, very, very few women who truly enjoy pegging on a personal level and when they do-it's with some one the are either intimate with or comfortable with.
And while I do enjoy chastity play with my subs-it's only in real time and in conjunction with other interests. In other words, it's not even a focus of play-merely a basic requirement in serving.
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every sub or slave is here to find a domne / mistress for their own personal satisfaction because they enjoy being controlled. It's a selfless yet selfish act. Otherwise it would be mooronic being here in the first instance.
Yes and no. This type of thinking is the problem. Yes. The goal is to find a Mistress (or sub) that meets one's needs however there is an understanding that mutual interests need to be met. Key word that you keep missing here....MUTUAL. If you have nothing to offer, then you have nothing to gain. Just like you don't want to pay for play, I don't want to give up my personal time for someone who can't make it worth my while.
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I'm happy to do many things more the quoted.
Than state that in your profile.
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But why will dommes not verify how genuine they are? Why must it always be the sub? I understand the sub is the lesser of the relationship. But surely the sub has the right to know the perso he is performing for online is actually really a woman, and a woman who is enjoying it for way it is. Not just enduring it for the $$$ like a glorified whore.
Ah yes, the "she's only in it for the money" speech. How I love this line. Seriously, can we please stop beating a dead horse here?
But since it was said, I'm going to reciprocate with the horse beating response-do you expect a doctor, a lawyer or **insert any occupation here** to do anything for free? Do you think that **insert any occupation here** doesn't enjoy what they are doing and only in it for the money? What you are asking for is a business transaction for free. While there are doctors and lawyers who will offer their services for free, it's based on a case by case basis. Same applies to your kink. Either pay for it or hope that someone comes by that will take your case and give you what you want. Real simple stuff.
I'm a retired Pro-Domme. I'm also into this lifestyle and I have subs who do serve me on a non-professional level but they are few and far between because anyone who I am going to get into a personal D/s relationship is going to have to prove themselves well past our mutual interests. I want someone who is going to serve me entirely, not just with play but with making my life easier.
On a professional level, mutual interests and respect is still a requirement as well but tribute is required because these are men who are looking to skip the hard work and want the end result. They can't (or choose not to) build a personal D/s relationship, which is fine as long as they understand that we meet to engage in our kinks and they are paying for that time.
And I suppose that would put me in the "glorified whore" category but let's look at it this way: if it was all about money, I wouldn't have invested so much money and time (16 years) into my clothing, gear, dungeon, furniture, etc. Those who are just in it for the money tend not to spend their money on things that they don't enjoy.
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