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Poly Household Curious - 4/19/2017 1:27:35 AM

SkylineChill

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I'm curious about the people that are making this work out. How is it working for you? Do you have any recommendations to meeting nice...long term relationship minded people?

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RE: Poly Household Curious - 4/19/2017 5:34:59 AM

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It is working out just awesome. The three of us wll be celebrating 12 years the end of the month. A fourth joined us a several months ago and it gets stronger everyday for all of us.

As far as advice... strong relationship skills.... have them... work on making them better

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RE: Poly Household Curious - 4/21/2017 5:21:15 PM

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It worked great, then it fell apart, then a new one surfaced. It is like anything else in life, ups and downs, it comes and goes.

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RE: Poly Household Curious - 7/3/2017 9:42:14 PM

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Meeting people is the key. often folks that come here tend to think there's a special well they can fish from to find the perfect catch. It's not like that at all. Finding just one person you can be happy with over a long period of time is hard, some people go years into their adult lives before finding one, and that may not even work out; and others go on to repeated failures and are never happy. Being poly or even desiring to be poly is like taking all the complications of relationships and multiplying that by a factor of ten. Understand what you want and what you have to offer others, enrich their lives as much as possible, learn how to communicate with others, learn how to read what other people are trying to say but are too afraid to say, and create an environment that welcomes people into your life even just as friends. its not easy and it's not supposed to be.

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RE: Poly Household Curious - 11/14/2017 3:46:09 PM

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It takes time plus a great instructive and affectionate, gestation period. The trip there can be almost as exciting and pleasurable as...when you get there.

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RE: Poly Household Curious - 11/21/2017 4:07:53 AM

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I agree with all of the above. Being in a poly relationship is just like being in any other relationship. It takes a lot of work and open communication. We have had both good and not so good experiences together but the key is being open and honest about everything. I met the two of them almost 10 years ago and last weekend they just gave me a key to their home. At times, I wish that we did not live 3 hrs apart but sometimes I feel like that makes the time we do get to spend together that much more enjoyable.

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RE: Poly Household Curious - 11/21/2017 5:01:54 AM

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Contrary to what it says on the bottom, this response is to the OP:

For me, I prefer to just let relationships happen. I don't go looking for them, they come to me.

To the outside world, there are plenty of times I appear to be monogamous. I've gone years with a single partner (which has caused some issues, but that's a discussion for another day).

One of the ladies with whom I'm involved literally "fell into my life". I was at school, a few years ago (I was a fifty-year-old, "non-traditional student") and there was another student (also an older, "non-traditional student") who frequently crossed paths with me, due to class schedules and locations.

She was beautiful and had a helluva shape and a penchant for wearing high heals (usually boots). I used to "stare" at her as surreptitiously as possible. One day, as she was walking by, she fell, just a few yards from where I was sitting with friends. I ran over and helped her up and let her lean on me until she was sure her ankle was okay.

I heard her accent and asked (in Russian) if she was Russian or Polish. She answered: "Polish" and I was able to say a few phrases in Polish, which she enjoyed, immensely.

From that moment on, we just kind of "hung out" together. The fact that we were both well over the average age on campus probably had something to do with that.

Here's the weenie: Once we started engaging in a relationship, she related to me that the reason she fell that day was she had also been "checking me out" for quite some time. She wasn't watching where she was going because she was looking in my direction.

An added bonus to "my way" of doing things (I feel) is she is confident that I don't spend my life "on the hunt" because she's experienced it, herself. We didn't really start engaging in a "Relationship" (notice the capital "R") for months after that day.

Good luck to you.

Peace,

Michael

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RE: Poly Household Curious - 12/7/2017 3:02:34 AM

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hello are you still there for the package ...?

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