From: Pittston, Pennsyltucky
Contrary to what it says on the bottom, this response is to the OP:
For me, I prefer to just let relationships happen. I don't go looking for them, they come to me.
To the outside world, there are plenty of times I appear to be monogamous. I've gone years with a single partner (which has caused some issues, but that's a discussion for another day).
One of the ladies with whom I'm involved literally "fell into my life". I was at school, a few years ago (I was a fifty-year-old, "non-traditional student") and there was another student (also an older, "non-traditional student") who frequently crossed paths with me, due to class schedules and locations.
She was beautiful and had a helluva shape and a penchant for wearing high heals (usually boots). I used to "stare" at her as surreptitiously as possible. One day, as she was walking by, she fell, just a few yards from where I was sitting with friends. I ran over and helped her up and let her lean on me until she was sure her ankle was okay.
I heard her accent and asked (in Russian) if she was Russian or Polish. She answered: "Polish" and I was able to say a few phrases in Polish, which she enjoyed, immensely.
From that moment on, we just kind of "hung out" together. The fact that we were both well over the average age on campus probably had something to do with that.
Here's the weenie: Once we started engaging in a relationship, she related to me that the reason she fell that day was she had also been "checking me out" for quite some time. She wasn't watching where she was going because she was looking in my direction.
An added bonus to "my way" of doing things (I feel) is she is confident that I don't spend my life "on the hunt" because she's experienced it, herself. We didn't really start engaging in a "Relationship" (notice the capital "R") for months after that day.
Good luck to you.
A Stone in My Shoe
Screen captures (and pissing on shadows) still RULE! Ya feel me?
"For that which I love, I will do horrible things"