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Looking for a sub - 5/6/2017 12:22:30 PM   
StarvingArtistDW


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I have spent the last three years actively looking for a sub. I have had limited success because each time I get close to finding one the bail out. I'm looking for one who is serious and if you're much older than me don't bother message. If you're serious and I'm mean just need to know where to come get back to me.
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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/6/2017 12:27:50 PM   
WickedsDesire


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"Much older" you are not exactly gods gift to women unlike me.

But even I gave up years ago and learned how to talk cat

i can also knit would you like to see my knitting anyone - well i can knit a rectangle- that counts right?

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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/6/2017 1:07:22 PM   
UllrsIshtar


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

"Much older" you are not exactly gods gift to women unlike me.



He's gay. I don't think he cares much about being God's gift to women.

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I am the dirt you created
I am your sinner
And your whore
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You love me for everything you hate me for

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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/6/2017 1:13:36 PM   
UllrsIshtar


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quote:

ORIGINAL: StarvingArtistDW

I have spent the last three years actively looking for a sub. I have had limited success because each time I get close to finding one the bail out. I'm looking for one who is serious and if you're much older than me don't bother message. If you're serious and I'm mean just need to know where to come get back to me.


What do you have to offer?

Your profile is all about what you want, but it doesn't state what your houseboy will be getting out of the equation.

Yes, yes, yes, I know, he'll be getting all that wonderful kinky control he is looking for as well... the problem with that is that there are a 100 other guys like you willing to offer him that exact same thing.

And some of them are better looking than you.
And some of them are smarter than you.
And some of them are younger than you.
And some of them are wealthier than you.
And some of them have more interesting lives than you.
And some of them are a better match on kinks for him than you.

Etc, etc.

Out of all those guys who are willing to offer your houseboy all that deliciously kinky life he's looking for, what makes you different from the rest of them?
What makes you better than the rest of them?
What makes you a better fit for him than the rest of them?

Why should he pick to wear your chastity belt, instead of that of another? What do you offer him, that makes you the better choice for him?

Figure that out, and figure out a way to communicate it on your profile and in person, and you'll find the boy you're looking for.

If you can't do that, you'll always be passed by for another Dom who's more X than you, or who is -at the very least- better at communicating what he's got to offer.

_____________________________

I can be your whore
I am the dirt you created
I am your sinner
And your whore
But let me tell you something baby
You love me for everything you hate me for

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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/6/2017 1:22:19 PM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


quote:

ORIGINAL: StarvingArtistDW

I have spent the last three years actively looking for a sub. I have had limited success because each time I get close to finding one the bail out. I'm looking for one who is serious and if you're much older than me don't bother message. If you're serious and I'm mean just need to know where to come get back to me.


What do you have to offer?

Your profile is all about what you want, but it doesn't state what your houseboy will be getting out of the equation.

Yes, yes, yes, I know, he'll be getting all that wonderful kinky control he is looking for as well... the problem with that is that there are a 100 other guys like you willing to offer him that exact same thing.

And some of them are better looking than you.
And some of them are smarter than you.
And some of them are younger than you.
And some of them are wealthier than you.
And some of them have more interesting lives than you.
And some of them are a better match on kinks for him than you.

Etc, etc.

Out of all those guys who are willing to offer your houseboy all that deliciously kinky life he's looking for, what makes you different from the rest of them?
What makes you better than the rest of them?
What makes you a better fit for him than the rest of them?

Why should he pick to wear your chastity belt, instead of that of another? What do you offer him, that makes you the better choice for him?

Figure that out, and figure out a way to communicate it on your profile and in person, and you'll find the boy you're looking for.

If you can't do that, you'll always be passed by for another Dom who's more X than you, or who is -at the very least- better at communicating what he's got to offer.

All of this!!!

In addition, OP, it would be my suggestion that on a site like this, you might want to consider changing your main profile pic.


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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/6/2017 1:26:03 PM   
WickedsDesire


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Look does anyone want to see my knitting or not?


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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/6/2017 9:12:16 PM   
cloverodella


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I thought the fuzzy stuff would be out of fashion by now...

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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/11/2017 2:53:16 AM   
server88


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LOL these comments are really funny

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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/11/2017 3:11:06 AM   
Lucylastic


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

Look does anyone want to see my knitting or not?



New Pantaloons?


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Dont Hate Love

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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/11/2017 2:23:28 PM   
kiwisub22


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

Look does anyone want to see my knitting or not?





That is just the most wonderful black and white fuzzy thing I have ever seen. And what on earth possessed you to knit with acrylic when you live in a country that makes the most marvelous Shetland wool? Wool is so much easier to knit with than just about anything else.

OP - I don't know how long you chitchat online with perspective subs, but you might be better served (haha- pun) by meeting them quickly, like within a few weeks , to see if you click. I was in a slightly different situation - female looking for male - but it gave me a fast idea if we had anything in common other than kink.

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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/11/2017 2:31:54 PM   
kiwisub22


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And OP -read your profile - How many men , younger than 38 and older than 18 have no external ties - such as family, friends or a combination of the two. What you are looking for is a gay orphan who has so little in the way of social skills that no-one will notice him vanishing. That is what I call a niche!

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RE: Looking for a sub - 5/11/2017 3:37:19 PM   
WickedsDesire


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we call it eyelash wool here ;) it remains un finished

unlike




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RE: Looking for a sub - 8/16/2017 11:12:38 AM   
sub4all2use


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact


quote:

ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


quote:

ORIGINAL: StarvingArtistDW

I have spent the last three years actively looking for a sub. I have had limited success because each time I get close to finding one the bail out. I'm looking for one who is serious and if you're much older than me don't bother message. If you're serious and I'm mean just need to know where to come get back to me.


What do you have to offer?

Your profile is all about what you want, but it doesn't state what your houseboy will be getting out of the equation.

Yes, yes, yes, I know, he'll be getting all that wonderful kinky control he is looking for as well... the problem with that is that there are a 100 other guys like you willing to offer him that exact same thing.

And some of them are better looking than you.
And some of them are smarter than you.
And some of them are younger than you.
And some of them are wealthier than you.
And some of them have more interesting lives than you.
And some of them are a better match on kinks for him than you.

Etc, etc.

Out of all those guys who are willing to offer your houseboy all that deliciously kinky life he's looking for, what makes you different from the rest of them?
What makes you better than the rest of them?
What makes you a better fit for him than the rest of them?

Why should he pick to wear your chastity belt, instead of that of another? What do you offer him, that makes you the better choice for him?

Figure that out, and figure out a way to communicate it on your profile and in person, and you'll find the boy you're looking for.

If you can't do that, you'll always be passed by for another Dom who's more X than you, or who is -at the very least- better at communicating what he's got to offer.

All of this!!!

In addition, OP, it would be my suggestion that on a site like this, you might want to consider changing your main profile pic.



As a bottom-sub i prefer an "honest" picture that closely depicts the Man i am meeting. I have gone out so many times to meet a prospective Dom and the Adonis depicted on the profile turns out to be more like Quasimodo.

I am not shallow when it comes to looks, but honesty is important.

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RE: Looking for a sub - 9/11/2017 4:46:28 PM   
SMJ53


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LOL - LMAO - looking for a sub/slave in here ? That is a waste of time ! LOL - Only scammers are in here !!

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RE: Looking for a sub - 9/11/2017 11:04:30 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SMJ53

LOL - LMAO - looking for a sub/slave in here ? That is a waste of time ! LOL - Only scammers are in here !!

No, cupcake, it's you.

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RE: Looking for a sub - 9/11/2017 11:06:54 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


quote:

ORIGINAL: StarvingArtistDW

I have spent the last three years actively looking for a sub. I have had limited success because each time I get close to finding one the bail out. I'm looking for one who is serious and if you're much older than me don't bother message. If you're serious and I'm mean just need to know where to come get back to me.


What do you have to offer?

Your profile is all about what you want, but it doesn't state what your houseboy will be getting out of the equation.

Yes, yes, yes, I know, he'll be getting all that wonderful kinky control he is looking for as well... the problem with that is that there are a 100 other guys like you willing to offer him that exact same thing.

And some of them are better looking than you.
And some of them are smarter than you.
And some of them are younger than you.
And some of them are wealthier than you.
And some of them have more interesting lives than you.
And some of them are a better match on kinks for him than you.

Etc, etc.

Out of all those guys who are willing to offer your houseboy all that deliciously kinky life he's looking for, what makes you different from the rest of them?
What makes you better than the rest of them?
What makes you a better fit for him than the rest of them?

Why should he pick to wear your chastity belt, instead of that of another? What do you offer him, that makes you the better choice for him?

Figure that out, and figure out a way to communicate it on your profile and in person, and you'll find the boy you're looking for.

If you can't do that, you'll always be passed by for another Dom who's more X than you, or who is -at the very least- better at communicating what he's got to offer.

I was going to say that the common denominator is you, but Ish said it so much better.

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Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

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RE: Looking for a sub - 9/17/2017 4:56:29 AM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: StarvingArtistDW

I have spent the last three years actively looking for a sub. I have had limited success because each time I get close to finding one the bail out.


Do you know why they bailed on you?
quote:



I'm looking for one who is serious and if you're much older than me don't bother message.


Fella, do you realize how bad that statement is?

Nobody starts off serious. We dance before we propose. You're implying that If things fail, it will be because you r sub wasn't serious, not that you two were incompatible or didn't work at it hard enough.

And you have no need to be rude about the age thing. You're not being swamped with messages from ancient subs. Also, you don't specify what 'much older' actually means. A statement like "I'm looking for someone up to age 40" is more polite and easy to work with.
quote:



If you're serious and I'm mean just need to know where to come get back to me.


Again with the demand that they be serious. I suspect that "and I'm mean" is a typo that you were too sloppy to notice. And again a lack of courtesy. Saying "If you're interested, please send me a PM here" is more polite, grammatical, and more explicit and easy to follow.


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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Looking for a sub - 9/25/2017 11:41:57 AM   
SMJ53


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

No, cupcake, it's you.
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Hun how much money do u need for relocation ? LOL - Check is in the mail hun !!

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RE: Looking for a sub - 9/25/2017 12:30:40 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SMJ53

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

No, cupcake, it's you.


Hun how much money do u need for relocation ? LOL - Check is in the mail hun !!



You are one sad, little man.






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