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impishlilhellcat -> Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 3:20:07 PM)

I am probably repeating an earlier thread that I wasn't around the forums for or missed, but I am curious about the answers to this question. What really reaffirms your feeling of being owned/collared? Is it an action, words, or an object?

For me it's just hearing Him whisper the words Tell me who you belong to.



MasterRobsalayna -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 3:24:52 PM)

Oh so many things!  Being accountable to Him in all aspects of alayna's life, knowing He makes the decisions, hearing Him say:  "mine."  slave alayna could go on and on and on and on.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 3:24:56 PM)

Same goes for me. Hearing myself saying who I belong to gives me shivers and makes me tingley all over. When he isnt around looking at my collar does the same.



impishlilhellcat -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 3:28:28 PM)

Yeah for me when he says that whether it be a whisper in my ear or a command "Tell me who you belong to!" it sends tingles down my spine, gives me goose bumps, turns me on, and just makes me feel like I am on cloud nine.



littleone35 -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 3:29:13 PM)

For me it is when he holds me looks into my eyes kisses me and says you are Mine and i am never letting you go. I love to hear those words.

Matt's littleone



firstsub -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 4:16:04 PM)

Everytime Master reminds me how much better things are now that He owns me. 



Littlepita -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 4:54:26 PM)

It's his attitude towards me. His complete control over me. His care and love. It's the way he looks at me, kisses me, and tells me that I'm his. I am his and there is no doubt to that fact!



Riskyssquirt -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 5:22:59 PM)

Its the collar i wear and the looks i get when i have pleased Him. Its the body jewelery i wear proudly to show i am all His.



NurseKitty -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 5:47:32 PM)

I've been collared for 2 weeks now...what a difference actually wearing the collar makes.  I'm still new to the lifestyle, so having the actual collar placed on me and being able to feel its weight is what really gives me the focus I need to work at being His submissive.



mellian -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 7:52:47 PM)

Something I have not truely experienced yet, being truely owned (in the D/s sort of way).

-mellian



babysburnin -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/26/2006 11:45:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: impishlilhellcat

What really reaffirms your feeling of being owned/collared? Is it an action, words, or an object?



None of the above really.  Ownership is something I have a difficult time wrapping my mind around.  None of us are truely owned - as we ultimately have a choice in the matter.  What makes me feel incredibly connected and commited to my Dom?  That's the real question... All I will say is that it's a combination of chemistry, common likes and morals...I suppose commonality among our differences... and the respect shown to one another.



ownedgirlie -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/27/2006 1:04:05 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: babysburnin

quote:

ORIGINAL: impishlilhellcat

What really reaffirms your feeling of being owned/collared? Is it an action, words, or an object?



None of the above really.  Ownership is something I have a difficult time wrapping my mind around.  None of us are truely owned - as we ultimately have a choice in the matter.  What makes me feel incredibly connected and commited to my Dom?  That's the real question... All I will say is that it's a combination of chemistry, common likes and morals...I suppose commonality among our differences... and the respect shown to one another.

I respectfully disagree that all of us have a choice in the matter.  I could not walk away if I wanted to.  I could not walk away if I tried.  The bond around my heart and spirit is so strong and tight, I know without a doubt there is nothing he could do to cause me the ability to leave at this point.

And it is that knowledge - proven to be true - which makes me know and feel I am owned.



impishlilhellcat -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/27/2006 4:48:06 AM)

Thanks everyone for the responses thus far. I love hearing what works for everyone else. Please keep posting.

I have to say owned I'm with you. Once someone has my heart it's soo hard to walk away even if you want to.



afeathr -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/27/2006 7:44:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: babysburnin

quote:

ORIGINAL: impishlilhellcat

What really reaffirms your feeling of being owned/collared? Is it an action, words, or an object?



None of the above really.  Ownership is something I have a difficult time wrapping my mind around.  None of us are truely owned - as we ultimately have a choice in the matter.  What makes me feel incredibly connected and commited to my Dom?  That's the real question... All I will say is that it's a combination of chemistry, common likes and morals...I suppose commonality among our differences... and the respect shown to one another.


I totally agree.  As a submissive, I have few powers in the relationship (except those that He gives me) but as long as I have those powers, and the power to leave the relationship, I don't know that I will *ever* feel "truly owned."

I love the concept, the *idea* of ownership, so when Sir asks me "Who owns you?" It's very erotic and easy for me to say, "You do, Sir."  Because I love the concept.  But because I have the power to choose whether I stay or go, I never lose total control of myself (in the power exchange dynamic) and therefore can never really be His 'property'.  Now, the one choice that I do get to make is an all-or-nothing choice: either I stay and submit, or I go and never see Him again.  This puts the relationship into a perspective that I've never been faced with before... therefore my level of commitment is much higher in this situation than any any 'nilla situation I have been in.  That has changed my perspective a great deal, as well as the submission of my will (for the most part) to Him.



cheshireboy -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/27/2006 6:12:27 PM)

when someone can beat me mentally in a verbal game of chess where all i can say is "yes Goddess"  oh that makes me so full of yummy ownership i just...well.....grin.
 
cheshire



popeye1250 -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/27/2006 8:13:54 PM)

Afeathr, well said! "Either I can stay and submit, or go and never see him again."
It IS up to you. I consider a Collar "Permanent" just like a marriage.

"Who's Your Daddy!!?" lol



KatyLied -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/27/2006 9:00:18 PM)

I feel "owned" when I am consciously working on things he has asked me to do.  These may be things for my personal growth, or things we do together.  I don't always enjoy these things.  Also, when he holds my leash and I sit at his feet.



popeye1250 -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/27/2006 9:40:19 PM)

Katy, I like that too. Or having a sub sit beside me on the couch with a leash on her.



gentlethistle -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/27/2006 10:22:20 PM)

 
To be honest, I don't really understand 'being owned.'  I don't know how to feel that way.

Laura



BitaTruble -> RE: Really feeling owned? (7/27/2006 10:49:01 PM)


I read through this question several times throughout the day and couldn't figure out how to answer it and have it make sense. (Not going to promise this answer will make sense either!)

For me, it's not so much that it is reaffirmed. It's just something that's always there. Yes, when he asks me .. "Who owns you" or questions of that nature, it sends a bit of a thrill down my spine, but it's not that. And it's not in doing things for him that he likes me doing.. or following through on an order or anything like that.

It's more of when, out of the blue, things pop into my head as I'm doing something and I say to myself.. "Self, He would like it better if you did it this way, not that way." It's some sort of internal .. what.. internal what.. hmm.. mechanism maybe.. that just points me in a different direction. It's the influence he has over me that manifests at the oddest moments and in the strangest ways. He's in my head and because of that, it shows up in my actions or, when necessary, inaction's due to that influence.

Maybe I should have thought a bit more because even writing this I can see that it doesn't convey what I wish it would, but I'm not sure how to explain it differently.

If I can come up with a better explanation, I'll post it.. until then, this is what I have to offer .. such as it is. ::chuckles::

Celeste



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