Hello all. I am in a sticky situation, and I am hoping that perhaps someone might have some advice that might help me resolve it.
I have 2 girls. One of them, I have been with for over 4 years, and married to for something like 6 months. She's legally my wife, but realistically, she's a sub/slave/girl...whatever. We've never bothered, nor felt the need, to define or label it. Suffice it to say that she is mine.
I love her dearly. She takes care of me in an overall way that any dominant or Master would be happy with. She anticipates my needs and wants, she goes the extra mile, gets me little gifts and extras, just to see me smile and make me happy.
By the same token, I love making her happy. I buy her little gifts, do my best to make a big deal out of her birthday (even though I don't celebrate birthdays - I do it because she never had a good birthday in her childhood). I hold her while she cries, stroke her hair, soothe and comfort her, and I love every minute of it because I am there for her, and I genuinely, deeply love her.
However - I don't find her sexually interesting. She's not unattractive - in fact, she's a very cute girl. She is a bigger girl - okay, she's fat - but that doesn't detract from her looks really all that much. I still think that she is very pretty.
The problem is, there are things about her I don't share. For example, I love breasts. Playing with them, pinching, biting, sucking, tormenting them - basically anything to do with them. But her breasts aren't an erogenous zone for her. She actually almost entirely lacks feeling in her nipples up to the point of pain. That is, she feels really nothing at all up until it starts to unpleasantly hurt.
Also, I like tickling, which does nothing for her. And I enjoy overstimulation torture - which she actively dislikes. She is into puppy play, which...well, there is a reason I prefer cats over dogs. And, to top it all off, she has (what I consider) an unpleasant odor from her vulva. It isn't a health issue, I am fairly certain, because it has been there since I have known her, and she has been to the doctor, both GP and Gyno, since then, and I would have thought that were it because of a health condition or problem, they would have caught it. She's not lacking in hygiene - she showers every day and is scrupulously clean. It's just very strong and not very pleasant, to my nose. I haven't said anything to her about this because if it is just her natural odor, there isn't much she can do about it and I don't want to hurt her feelings or make her self-conscious. Even after a shower, it's still there - lessened, but still there.
I love her dearly, and I have absolutely no desire to release her or leave her. We are in a poly relationship, so she is free to seek other relationships, with my advice and consent (as her dominant or whatever). However, she has told me that she feels a 'huge sense of desire' for me, and while I have told her, in gentle terms, that I was not as attracted to her as I could be, in the past, she has said that she gets angry and frustrated, and occasionally jealous, that she cannot 'express her desire for me', while my other girl gets more sexual attention because she is simply sexually more interesting to me.
Can anyone give some advice how to resolve this situation? What steps you might take or what might be helpful? I would prefer that you reply to my inbox, if you can - I don't spend much time in the forums here. Thank you in advance for your advice and assistance.