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RE: i need advice - 6/20/2017 12:43:36 AM   
LadyPact


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I think I have to separate this into two parts. The first is related to how I deal with email. I only respond to private emails if one of the conditions exist:

1. I know you in person, meaning I've met you face to face.

2. I have met in person, someone you know in person, even if we haven't had the opportunity to meet.

3. You have a screen name that was created at least five years ago and it has been used on the forums on at least a semi-regular basis within certain time intervals.

(I know that last one sounds weird, but trust me on it. There really is a valid reason for this one that very few people on the forums know about.)

Ninety eight percent of the time, if a person doesn't fit into one of those categories, I'm not exchanging private emails. The roughly two percent that I will even do so much as used the hover feature to see what's been sent, are the rare exceptions.


When I saw the name that landed in my inbox, I was pretty confident it was about this thread. I understand why the question was not something that was wanted to be put on the forum. I get why the specifics aren't for public consumption and I do want to honor that request. I weighed my thoughts carefully and I think I can at least get to good enough.

In dealing with grown up people, these are my thoughts and general standards:

1. If you are the victim in the first person sense, who has been on the wrong side of a crime committed against YOU, I believe you should have the right to be the decision maker on how to handle it. Not all victims want to turn their perpetrator over to authorities because they have various considerations about the whole picture. Whether that be concerns about outing, that a process will do them more harm than good, or whatever reason a person has. As the victim, it's your choice.

2. The victim has specifically asked for your assistance. They TELL YOU how they want to handle being a victim of a crime and you support them in that decision. It's not about trying to take their decision away, try to tell them that you think you know better, or try to override them in some way. The victim's wishes should have value.

3. There's no time to consult the victim, because the crime is being committed in front of your own eyes, you call for assistance, and when the cops or other authority responds, there is a reasonable probability that somebody's going to jail, (or there's at least a court date being set) because it's necessary to turn someone in. This one is kind of hard for kinky people because some things that might be consensual might look like criminal activity. Are these people engaging in CNC or is it a fight? Is the face slap you just saw an assault or is it something that turns the two people on? Do the people have a punishment dynamic and it's possible you are witnessing that expression? We can't always get this right if we are just an observer, rather than the parties involved. The consequences of causing harm, if we are wrong, should weigh heavily on our minds.

Please remember that not everyone is truthful. Not what they say on threads, write in journals, or anything else. Some people just write stories because it turns them on. If there isn't additional evidence or proof, think carefully.

Best wishes and good luck.




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RE: i need advice - 6/20/2017 7:57:29 AM   
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I've never had a nurse in the room. I'm aware anyone you want can be in the room but you didn't want him in the room...ergo...why did you let him stay and why did he?

Oh it was an incest medical fantasy scene in your head? Thought so.

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RE: i need advice - 6/20/2017 9:10:35 AM   
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Exams with kinky "doctor" are featured in 'her' journal.

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RE: i need advice - 6/20/2017 11:16:10 AM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw
Oooookkkkkkk

I've never had a nurse in the room. I'm aware anyone you want can be in the room but you didn't want him in the room...ergo...why did you let him stay and why did he?

Oh it was an incest medical fantasy scene in your head? Thought so.

In military medical facilities, the nurse being in the room is pretty standard for anything like pap smears, etc. It's supposed to be a fail safe against impropriety and against false allegations of impropriety. They've always been women in my case, but if for any reason I'm not comfortable with the nurse assigned, I can request a different one.

The other thing that's pretty standard in any clinics where there is a likelihood of the patient having to disrobe (OB-GYN, wellness clinic, etc) are posters about patient rights. At the very top, the poster reads "you are entitle to an escort." However, the other part of this is the medical personnel are required to ask if anybody that has accompanied you will be remaining in the room with you for the exam, and an affirmative response has to be obtained.

These items, and others, are why I'm not real sure about believing the OP. She knew she had the right to have a person accompany her, but didn't know she had the right to request that person to leave. The "proud to serve" stuff doesn't change her rights as a patient. If she really thought so, why was she willing to allow her father to be dragged into her kink/obedience? On the father's side, he agreed to go with the OP to the appointment, went with her, and agreed to stay during the exam?

I don't buy it.



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RE: i need advice - 6/20/2017 11:24:45 AM   
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Not to mention,why did he accompany the op to the doctor's? When she got called, why wouldn't he have stayed in the waiting room?
Too much that makes zero sense for the op to be anything other than some asshole guy who's mistaken the forums to be a typical wanker's only chat room.

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RE: i need advice - 6/21/2017 7:08:24 PM   
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This is becoming more complicated. Let me give you the basics. I have been with this couple 3 years. I had no other masters or mistresses prior. My original limit list was very small as i did not know the huge amount of kinks or tasks that were possible. They were, no pain, no bathroom or baby things, no body markings. I am conservative and very shy. I was married for 18 yrs. ex husband and i both came from very religious families. We basically only did 2 positions missionary and me on top. We only had sex 5 or 6 times a year. For me that was normal. My parents were not affectionate, or intimate. for example they did not shower together or dress in the same room. I had only 2 men in my life prior to meeting this couple. I had my first sexual experience almost at 22. And it was nothing great.

I did discover i enjoyed public humiliation. People seeing me nude without me being able to do anything about it.

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RE: i need advice - 6/22/2017 5:53:28 AM   
JstAnotherSub


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If you just gave a baby up after being "bred", as claimed in your profile, I would suggest you have much bigger problems than needing answers about your kink.

Seriously, if it is true, seek help. If it is not true, seek help.

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RE: i need advice - 6/22/2017 10:35:04 AM   
heavyblinker


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quote:

ORIGINAL: unclebob

K means K 9

according to her every week

in her own words:

maringloria69 on 6/16/17 at 7:57 AM:

maringloria69 on 6/16/17 at 12:34 PM:

"Masters own the dogs. I do them once a week"
"german shepard, black lab and siberian husky.
yes, they wear boots on their paws. the ones used up north for the snow"
"dog semen more liquid, very easy to swallow"
"start by giving oral. put peanut butter around and in vagina. "


This is horrifying.

OP--stop assaulting animals!!!!

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RE: i need advice - 6/22/2017 1:19:00 PM   
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Public humiliation is one thing, a thing that involves consenting ADULTS. This is not public humiliation.

If you're actually living what your journal says, this is illegal and ethically/morally repugnant.

Your continued choosing to obey a deranged dominant couple's orders to breastfeed nude for others to watch means that you're all using that baby as a kink device. I don't have a word for the level of base disgust I have for this level of child abuse. That baby deserves better.

As far as I'm concerned, that baby should be taken away with immediate cessation of parental rights for all of you.

And you should all be in jail. With a long sentence. Suffering in prison for live as the child abusers you are.

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RE: i need advice - 6/22/2017 2:01:30 PM   
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I cry "bullshit" on this OP's whole thread. There are too many chain jerking activities, that a reasonable person, much less one from a religious background, would object to - loudly and vigorously. As for the stuff with babies and dogs - if there was any moderation at all with this site, this thread should have been yanked! There is no woman that is that shy and that naïve. Especially at 30- something.

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RE: i need advice - 6/28/2017 1:08:42 PM   
LTE


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quote:

ORIGINAL: maringloria69

I have a question or comment. I have been serving a couple for almost 3 years. within the last 3 months mistress has allowed my family members to see me nude. It was never one of my limits but we had talked about it. I am not comfortable with it. The damage has been done. I have been in a bad mood. not sure if i should continue with them. i have mix feelings.


You need beating. You lack proper focus.

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RE: i need advice - 9/16/2017 8:03:37 PM   
cabrona


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First off onces family for Be is off limits. Our bdsm lifestyle is separate from our vanilla life. I feel strongly never mix both together. . Your family life sense respect shall be destroyed. It should happen you'll need go get some serious counseling.
✌🏿Cabrona

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RE: i need advice - 10/12/2017 8:09:01 PM   
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your gut is telling me all you need to know. A Dom/me should never put their submissive or slave in a compromising position. This definitely is a sign of trouble.

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RE: i need advice - 10/13/2017 9:45:07 AM   
LTE


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quote:

ORIGINAL: maringloria69

I have a question or comment. I have been serving a couple for almost 3 years. within the last 3 months mistress has allowed my family members to see me nude. It was never one of my limits but we had talked about it. I am not comfortable with it. The damage has been done. I have been in a bad mood. not sure if i should continue with them. i have mix feelings.



So. Past is the past and you could have asked "your father" to leave. I am your father now. When is your next appointment?

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RE: i need advice - 10/13/2017 2:56:11 PM   
LTE


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quote:

A Dom/me should never put their submissive or slave in a compromising position.


Well. When Star was bound on a whipping horse with her panties pulled down almost to her high heeled feet (my insistence) and her red streaked ass bare to all in the club with a purple (no other color available a the time) battery operated dildo somewhat pointing me to her sweet spot, I suspect we can call her position at the time "compromised".

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RE: i need advice - 10/13/2017 3:02:15 PM   
LadyPact


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Ummm, dude.

This BS about you hiding under a <cough> different profile <cough> has a lot to say.

If you don't have the balls, that's not my problem, but you should be a f^cking man.

I'm still a better man than you, Arty.... And I have a pussy.

NO HONOR.

NO RESPECT.



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Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: i need advice - 10/13/2017 3:20:08 PM   
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now was that a slip up? or did I miss something...


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RE: i need advice - 10/13/2017 3:24:50 PM   
LTE


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Ummm, dude.

This BS about you hiding under a <cough> different profile <cough> has a lot to say.

If you don't have the balls, that's not my problem, but you should be a f^cking man.

I'm still a better man than you, Arty.... And I have a pussy.

NO HONOR.

NO RESPECT.




Ouch. Oh wait, that didn't hurt.


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RE: i need advice - 10/13/2017 3:27:42 PM   
LTE


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lucylastic


now was that a slip up? or did I miss something...



It was a huge one. I hate purple.

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RE: i need advice - 10/13/2017 3:34:03 PM   
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the voices in your head dont like you do they.....


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