I've always enjoyed your intellect DarkSteven. So I'll take that challenge and criticize you. I look forward to your reply. So in my best oldschool voice I say...
"If gender is more important than service, then you are a swinger looking for sex, not a leather Master looking for service from a slave. You're just a swinger with a whip."
And that is what the elders in my BDSM community professed when I was 14 years old. Over the years, I have come to relax my perspective and consider myself heterosexual by educated preference. I don't want gay men either. But I help torture gay men on stage for free, at a demo or at parties when I'm asked to help. But that is not a relationship, it's just topping.
Why the hell would a lesbian Domme be ashamed for not Domming a man for free? That's like me criticizing you for not wanting gay men.
To that I would submit to you that a very large portion of advertisers here are in fact swingers looking for kinky sex. Either that or to spice their vanilla swinging sex life. Countless 1000's have no intention of relocating or even locally moving to the 'slave-next-door.'
In fact I will go so far as to lend my confirmation to what a very experienced Mistress told me about kinky sites...'bring your sticks and you'll get the sex.'
You can be a murderous tyrant and the world will remember you fondly but fuck one horse and you will be a horse fucker for all eternity. Catherine the Great
Under capitalism, man exploits man. Under communism, it's just the opposite.
J K Galbraith