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I cant' understand my self ! - 8/26/2017 5:44:47 AM

zaba99

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I am a man submissive and i love femdom and i always dreaming to live a long term live-in slave life !
and always in searching for ways to achieve this dream !

BUT ! in real life when meeting girls in clubs , streets , hotels, college and every where 95% of girls i meet i don't think into them with a submissive mind set and the first thing i think about it is how to pick her up or how to sleep with her !

but there is always that 5% that turns my submisive side on like hell !!

I don't know what should i call this !

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/26/2017 8:15:58 AM

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Being normal? I can't imagine that you think about having sex with every person out there. Only those that fir your preferences. Which usually includes age, height, weight, having a shared language, possibly hair color or even educational background.

You need the right chemistry to be sexually attracted and you need the right characteristics and chemistry to submit.

I've usually referred to it as person specific.

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/26/2017 12:00:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Being normal? I can't imagine that you think about having sex with every person out there. Only those that fir your preferences. Which usually includes age, height, weight, having a shared language, possibly hair color or even educational background.

You need the right chemistry to be sexually attracted and you need the right characteristics and chemistry to submit.

I've usually referred to it as person specific.

Omg ! you didn't get it my friend ! i didn't tell that i think about having sex with every person here

I mean WHEN I BE ATTRACTED TO A GIRL 95% it's sexually attraction and 5 % submission attraction !!!

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/26/2017 4:54:13 PM

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And that was my comparison. Just as you aren't sexually attracted to everyone out there, you aren't kink attracted to all of them either.

This is normal.

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/26/2017 4:54:14 PM

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Well then , it sounds as if you are 95% vanilla with a 5% submissive fantasy bend. No problem.... How is this a problem for you?

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/26/2017 4:56:17 PM

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The problem is that he can't get his pipes cleaned by just anyone.

He has to date and find someone compatible. Oh the horror of it.

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/27/2017 2:08:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub22

Well then , it sounds as if you are 95% vanilla with a 5% submissive fantasy bend. No problem.... How is this a problem for you?

The problem that's i know that i am 95% submissive ! maybe i don't always find the right chemistry as @DesFip said

And it's a problem since i feel like i have 2 minds in one mind ! maybe my system trying to hide the submissive side in front of peoples :p

+ what mean vanilla ? ( englisch not my first langue :p )

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/27/2017 2:09:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

And that was my comparison. Just as you aren't sexually attracted to everyone out there, you aren't kink attracted to all of them either.

This is normal.

I think this is the right answer ^_^ thank you

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/27/2017 2:56:05 AM

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Vanilla = Plain, as in the ice-cream, rather than being different like all the other flavours. Thank yourself lucky that you have the chance to meet girls that you could be submissive with in any format at all. I'm a Switch, it took me until I was 36 to meet the guy that I finally felt comfortable enough to give any submission to. I think that smashes your 5% out of the water.

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/28/2017 6:36:02 PM

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I think that smashes your 5% out of the water.

I don't think so :) ( i can't explain , but you have no idea about where i live ... )

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/29/2017 3:10:35 AM

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Wow, well, way to go on remaining so very self absorbed in all this rather than trying to accept what you are being given on the experience front to help you. Yep, I can see you really growing from all of this, and gaining some perspective. *Sarcasm button now switched off*

Just to add a little perspective for you sweetie with a piece of 2x2; it took all those years, and broadening my search to the whole fricking UK to find that one man. Don't you go making assumptions either now, will you, about where people live, their culture, past life, what we've been through, triggers, or anything else you want to come up with as a potential excuse as to why things are just so much harder for you than the rest of us.

Sorry to tell you this, but you're really just not that special.

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RE: I cant' understand my self ! - 8/29/2017 1:31:49 PM

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I suggest you work a bit harder at understanding yourself as it doesn't look like any fucker else wants to make the effort to do so on the evidence of this thread. Good luck! (A wise man knows himself, and all that...)

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