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Taramafor -> Context matters. (8/27/2017 7:35:43 AM)

It's pretty simple really. If you "pretend" to be doing things then that's a fantasy. No one's disputing that.

If on the other hand there is an owner that has real feelings and you do things with each other that are never an illusion it is NOT a fantasy. I don't "pretend" to be a sub and I don't "pretend" to be intimate with a dom when I'm also being put in line and forced to do things when being called something "insulting" which is actually a compliment and affectionate because of the context. Example: "Useless". Kinda grows on you. Useless yet kept around anyway, you know. Depends on how it is said too.

Example A: Distant company that dresses up in a latex outfit to "Acts like a dom". That's pretend. That's "fantasy". If you're doing "a scene".

Example B: Well known and trusted company that slowly runs a knife along your chest, gives the leash a hard yank as they pull you into their chest while stroking your cheek and warning you to be good or they'll stick the knife in you. That's actually real, not a fantasy. Been there. Done it. Note: I'm a mental masochist into fearplay.

The reason for this thread is a simple one. The context of something depends entirely on who you ask. A "slave" is not a fantasy. Not if you change the context of what it means legally and apply your own BDSM (or other, even) context to it. It's like that "insult" that isn't an insult that I stated earlier. There's a slave and then there's a slave. In this case my context is "A slave not choosing their chains" with the former, and a slave choosing who they're chained too with the later. Even being in a "forced" relationship (Where you're made to do things) can be something you know you're getting into and agreed upon. If an owner cares they don't make you do things if it makes you sad (punishments and mindfucking aside). It's that simple. Anyone that says that's a fantasy can only be jealous when I know full well there's plenty of people that live like that. Some call themselves subs, others pets, others slaves. Some might not even use any labels at all all even use all of them at once (if at different times). Again, context. Even the lack of a label altogether has context (Note: Your context will be different from others).

I can't believe I'm actually having to point this out. But the last time I was on this site someone had the nerve to call me a "fantasy" acting as if the "legal definition" was "the answer" for everyone. It's not. You may as well say "Relationship label here" means the same to everyone. That's not how it works. Everyone has their own way of going about things. And everyone applies their own context to what and who they are. Maybe your context is a fantasy but mine is very much a reality. Sub is real. Slave is real. Pet is real. It's real because of what it means when said by X person here. The context behind the words.

Example A: You're useless, spoken in a spiteful, venomous tones.
Example B: Hush now useless, your owner will look after you while you're blindfolded and cuffed.

Even if example B happens on a temporary bases, it's still happening and therefor real. Though perhaps the fantasy here could be "I want someone to be around all the time to do that". But again, if someone is already there all the time doing that it is again in no way a fantasy, since someone would be there and doing that.

What's more A can look like B yet actually be B if someone knows the owner well enough to trust that "angry and spiteful" is "Affectionate and loving" with them. Outsiders may simply not be aware of this due to not knowing about them.

Long story short: People on this site assumed stupid shit. That should know better then to assume stupid shit. Hence this thread. Don't like it? Blame the people assuming stupid shit. I'm going to toss reminders if people assume stupid shit. It is a BDSM site after all.




ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Context matters. (8/27/2017 8:01:24 AM)

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People on this site assumed stupid shit

Yeah, people do that.
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Hence this thread. Don't like it?

Couldn't give a fuck about your dumb-ass rant, sorry




Taramafor -> RE: Context matters. (8/27/2017 8:27:04 AM)

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Couldn't give a fuck about your dumb-ass rant, sorry


Amusing. You're... ranting about... ranting.

And only the last part of the post was a rant. The rest is about "context". Fill this thread with "I don't give a fuck" all you like. It's here for anyone that does. It wasn't made for you alone. Nor for me. It's for anyone that gives a fuck about context. If you really didn't give a fuck... why post at all?




DesFIP -> RE: Context matters. (8/27/2017 9:31:09 AM)

Since you're not in a relationship all this is fantasy.

But you define d/s as kinky play. Here, it isn't about that. It's him saying we need new tires in April when I believe you buy tires just before winter so they're at their best come the first snow.

But what the hell do I know, I've only been in a power relationship for fifteen years.




peppermint -> RE: Context matters. (8/27/2017 10:51:03 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Taramafor

Long story short: People on this site assumed stupid shit. That should know better then to assume stupid shit. Hence this thread. Don't like it? Blame the people assuming stupid shit. I'm going to toss reminders if people assume stupid shit. It is a BDSM site after all.


I'll agree that you are assuming a lot of stupid shit. You should know better as you've told others. Apparently you feel above the rest of us here. Only YOU know what a D/s or BDSM relationship is supposed to be like. Only YOU have the answers, or so you think.

Now, take your pacifier, lie down in bed, and take a good nap. You'll feel much better when you wake up.




needlesandpins -> RE: Context matters. (8/27/2017 11:05:54 AM)

You're right, context is everything, but you're missing something very vital in your rant, and it is just that ... you dictate what is real to you, and you're ranting because you actually believe someone else could be right.

You've proved this by your own examples. Your very first example is exactly someone's reality, and yet you are trying to say it's pretend. You're being a hypocrite.

Even your second example is bullshit considering that this is exactly what some people want. Considering that BDSM actually has no one true way, your whole little rant is void in its hypocrisy.

No one person has to be defined by the rules of someone else's BDSM boundaries. That is how context works.

Needles




WhoreMods -> RE: Context matters. (8/27/2017 12:11:57 PM)

If you want to see a real argument about reality being redefined by context, mate, I suggest you go and look at the Gorean forum a bit down the front page.




MsLadySue -> RE: Context matters. (8/27/2017 12:57:35 PM)

You're entitled to your opinion, but it doesn't mean people are going to agree with you. We all do "us" differently and what you think is right/wrong matters not a pinch to anyone.




ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Context matters. (8/27/2017 8:32:07 PM)

Oh just fuck off.




OsideGirl -> RE: Context matters. (8/28/2017 10:17:07 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Taramafor


Long story short: People on this site assumed stupid shit. That should know better then to assume stupid shit. Hence this thread. Don't like it? Blame the people assuming stupid shit. I'm going to toss reminders if people assume stupid shit. It is a BDSM site after all.


This post pretty much fits the definition.

Bottom line, this is your opinion. If it works for you - yippee. You don't have to like my opinions, but I'm entitled to have them.




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