I was thinking ( always a dangerous thing). Let's just say you met this great Dom/me on line they did not have a photo. Before you met you had great rapport. You liked the same things, wanted the same things from a relatonship. No pic so they described themselves to you and you liked what you heard so you set up a meet.
You meet and they are nothing like they described, but, you still have that great chemistry.
Now the question, could you overlook the fact thay they lied about their apperance, or would it be a deal breaker?
As for me i think i coud overlook it tf they were trustorthy in evey other other way.
Nothing like what they described or nothing like you visualized?
I mean, my self perception is quite warped, thanks mom, but my self esteem is healthy, my confidence is always high and I have a deplorable lack of caring about wot others think of me. Those things do not negate the fact that I see Quasimodo in reflective surfaces, Quasimodo just doesn't impact or damage me.
Some peoples self perception goes the other way... John Merrik sees Tom Sellick in his reflection. Self perception is definitely a spectrum event and not an either or. I've known women with the cutest feet you ever saw try and hide them because they saw Shaqs feet on their tiny ankles... Of course I've seen women with Shaqs feet and they thought they were the cutest things ever.
So, was it an askew self perception or did the image in your head not match the image they described. Cuz, if it were me, the person I described would've been so flawed that you wouldn't have shown up for a meet.
To lead, first follow: Aurelius, Epictetus, Descartes, Sun Tzu, to name a few.
Semper fidelis (which sometimes feels like a burden)