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How did you first discover you want to be a Mistress? (... - 10/2/2017 5:52:23 AM   
sadisticsienna


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/Dominant female?

I always thought of myself as more submissive yet my actual behavior in real life was not really like that.
I liked being in control and dictating things.
My fantasies, oddly, always involved me as a submissive.

Think I just kind of realized I'm just not well suited to being a submissive because I like to be in control....

Hence starting to explore being a Mistress

I like the respect and how they treat me and I like the dynamic and how I reciprocate their kindness and submissiveness. I feel it is more rewarding and enjoyable for me personally than being a submissive/slave.
Perhaps because I was not well suited to being a slave or I just deep down am a dominant.
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RE: How did you first discover you want to be a Mistres... - 10/2/2017 9:20:56 AM   
DesFIP


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Many dominants like to bottom. Being the authority figure is not the same as enjoying giving or receiving sensation play.

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RE: How did you first discover you want to be a Mistres... - 10/2/2017 11:06:40 AM   
sadisticsienna


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I never said it was?
Ok now I'm confused lol...

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RE: How did you first discover you want to be a Mistres... - 10/8/2017 2:16:16 PM   
BlackSinMaster


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do call or name anyone you can call? Name them mess

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RE: How did you first discover you want to be a Mistres... - 10/13/2017 1:12:53 PM   
LadyDaemonyca


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Not certain where some of the replies came from, but my experience or discovery... started in the leather community at an event.

Had been entertaining ideas and whatnot through puberty through my teens (18-19), but didnt know what I really was/am until I was 29. I met someone in the community when I was 26 and after speaking with them in great length, was advised that I was to train as a submissive to get a honest understanding of what this lifestyle is and what we enjoy doing to others. Lots of time and negotiations went into place before the collaring ceremony and at one point I thought I was actually a submissive.

It was approximately 1.5yrs into my service when I was asked to top another while at an event. I was so nervous! And then extremely excited! But, over all found myself getting more enjoyment out of what I was doing to that bottom play partner (simple wax play) than I did with pleasing my then Mentor. I guess that was my Ah Ha moment.

Shortly after, I spoke with my Mentor and we re-negotiated to allow exploring my dominant tendencies. I learned so much from my Mentor and the leather community and finally found myself as who I really am within this lifestyle I love dearly. It was the best decision for me to make and just took some time to understand it.

If you are curious, you should seek and try. Find others in your local leather community that you can learn from, you never know what your true nature/calling is unless you do.

Lady Daemonyca

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RE: How did you first discover you want to be a Mistres... - 12/16/2017 2:08:49 AM   
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Way back when I was in kindergarten there were a group of boys I ordered around and made eat bugs and other gross things for my amusement. They did so willingly just to please me. They sat around at my feet, brought me gifts of toys and candy and every day they competed to be my "favorite servant". I rewarded them with friendly "torture", like kidnap play or making them crawl on all fours and act like my puppy.

I thought this was NORMAL. The teachers thought I was an "unhealthy influence" on the boys and after several months they eventually moved me to a different, mostly girl, classroom.


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