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Humiliation - 10/3/2017 5:10:46 PM   
GoddessLynne


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Hey there kinksters!

One of My favorite fetishes is humiliating My slaves and I'm curious what type of experiences some of you have had with humiliation in the past either online or during real time with a Master/Mistress.

Tell Me, what was your experience? Did you feel anything other than humiliated? Was the humiliation mixed with another fetish?
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RE: Humiliation - 10/4/2017 7:46:28 PM   
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That is one of my hard limits W/we don;t do that..  It would put me into a veey bad headspace.

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RE: Humiliation - 10/5/2017 2:07:14 AM   
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I won't use humiliation. No interest in doing so.

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RE: Humiliation - 10/5/2017 2:53:49 AM   
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It's so easy to "humiliate" me. Since I find giving a blow job humiliating already, like I genuinely find it humiliating, that's why I never give blow jobs to anybody who I am not in a "love relationship" with. I have only fallen inlove 3 times in my life, so I've only given 3 men blow jobs in my life. I have plenty of ONS and casual sex, but I never blow anybody. And anyway, I hate being eaten too, so I am very fair. They don't go down on me, I don't go down on them.

So I had a very strong "humiliating" dynamic with my x-dom.

But of course it's beyond just "blowjob", there is so many ways you can "humiliate" someone. And everyone finds different things humiliating. I find it humiliating to be on my knees too. So it doesn't take much to play "humiliating" things with me in a D/S format.

I definitely know "vanilla girls" who find the doggy sex position humiliating too for sex and degrading, and absolutely refuse to have sex in that position with their husbands. They feel dehumanised in that position.

So all I can say is, you need to know your sub and customise according to the sub.

And I was just thinking about people who love to flash themselves to others. They don't find it humiliating to themselves to do that, because they love the attention. But if my dominant force me to flash myself to maybe a "consensual" third party. I would find that humiliating too.

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RE: Humiliation - 10/5/2017 11:50:16 AM   
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You can only have a positive response to humiliation if you are conflicted about your sexuality.

Those of us from sex positive backgrounds take it literally. And I see no purpose in being with someone who truly believes I’m lying, cheating, worthless, etc.

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RE: Humiliation - 10/5/2017 7:43:06 PM   
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My fetish is putting Findoms who post in the wrong forum into diapers for everyone to laugh at.

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RE: Humiliation - 10/5/2017 9:09:12 PM   
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quote:

You can only have a positive response to humiliation if you are conflicted about your sexuality.

Yeah, that's a load of bullshit.

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RE: Humiliation - 10/8/2017 6:01:52 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP
You can only have a positive response to humiliation if you are conflicted about your sexuality.

I don't really agree. It has nothing to do with that. But anything can be positive or humiliating depending on context. Even penetrative missionary sex can be humiliating. Even a french kiss can be humiliating. It's how it's framed. But there are things in sex, that if a man turn against you, when things sour, that they would have ammunition against you than other things in sex, so..., I believe for example, BJ is one of the biggest one.

And anyway, for me, I've just seen too many men who are angels when they love you, but fucking nasty when things sour and you break up. So for me, I am just very wary of who I play "humiliation" play with. I enjoy "humiliation" play as it would be all part of the "rape fantasies". I mean, what kind of rapist doesn't humiliate? And also consensual non-consensual plays. I seldom view someone playing in a consensual non-consensual role as a sweet and loving man. Sweet loving men don't play "non-consensual" role plays.



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And I see no purpose in being with someone who truly believes I’m lying, cheating, worthless, etc.

That's a bit weird. You know, none of these words have ever been used in my humiliation plays.

My humiliation plays is more about a man making me cum when I said no to sex. (Of course he ignores the "Nos" and only stops when safe words are used)

The Humiliation comes from cumming despite not wanting sex with that person. Maybe more about "lying" that I don't want him?

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RE: Humiliation - 10/13/2017 12:05:55 AM   
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I like humiliation to a degree. I don't really get a kick out of being totally degraded like I am some door mat though.

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RE: Humiliation - 10/15/2017 12:50:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Charles6682

I like humiliation to a degree. I don't really get a kick out of being totally degraded like I am some door mat though.

Humiliation and degradation do not do it for us. Never has and never will.

Before I came into the picture, Cub would pretend to be humiliated.
That was because he assumed this is what all dominant women want, and he simply wished to please them.
He was actually just having fun doing whatever seemed to amuse them.

The same with masochism. He is not a masochist either and was quite relieved to discover early on that I did not require him to be.

-- Lisa

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RE: Humiliation - 10/15/2017 1:47:21 AM   
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Being a slave to a Black family. Owned by a Black woman that gave me to her 20 year old niece for a birthday present.

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RE: Humiliation - 10/18/2017 9:19:07 PM   
LTE


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I'm not interested in dispensing humiliation for the sake of humiliating the female in play. I suppose some of my actions can be construed easily as being humiliating for the subject if she does not enjoy it. To put it another way, women are wired to see an action that is humiliating as not humiliating since they view it more as a natural service and a natural role to an alpha male, especially if she loves him or even just respects him for who he is.

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RE: Humiliation - 11/11/2017 1:00:49 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

You can only have a positive response to humiliation if you are conflicted about your sexuality.

Those of us from sex positive backgrounds take it literally. And I see no purpose in being with someone who truly believes I’m lying, cheating, worthless, etc.



I know people that think: "You can only enjoy BDSM if you have psychological issues. "
I know people that think: "You can only enjoy Race Play if you are a racist. "
I know people that think: "You can be Bi-sexual if you are conflicted about sexuality. "

I suggest you lose your arrogance and stop insulting other people's kink.
Accept the fact that some people like things you do not, and that most likely means you have NO IDEA what is going on in their head when they do it.

There are a lot of people that love humiliation without any conflicts about their sexuality.

Enjoy calling someone a beautiful slut? You like to humiliate people. Enjoy any form of public play because someone is watching? That's a form of humiliation.

These people do not have any conflicts, they like what they are doing and do not need you to tell them they must be sick for liking it.

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RE: Humiliation - 11/12/2017 9:25:15 PM   
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Humiliation is a huge kink for me. But not in the way most people seem to understand it. For many, it's mainly about calling names, or making someone do explicitly ridiculous things.
For me it's more about an admission of defeat. That someone is accepting some things, because - even if he/she knows that are demeaning - he/she knows that are the way to get pleasure. Even against their own self perception.
Also, it takes some reluctance from the sub side. A person too willing to be humiliated is boring for me.

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RE: Humiliation - 11/13/2017 2:35:22 PM   
baudeight


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8 is humiliated all the time by public use and display. Its owners enjoy it immensely and they feel that humiliation shows how well a property is trained and cause it to be much more receptive to new and extreme uses.

respectfully
8

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RE: Humiliation - 11/24/2017 11:07:29 PM   
sjskuared


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Was the niece experienced? What happened that was humiliating?

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RE: Humiliation - 11/24/2017 11:21:33 PM   
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Maybe Humiliation is just the other side of dominance and exercising control, that would make the dominants also conflicted.

Personally, I enjoy being humiliated in certain ways and do things that might be seen as humiliating but are also exciting. I believe most submissive men seek the humiliation to break down their egos and let go.

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RE: Humiliation - 11/25/2017 2:27:04 AM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessLynne

One of My favorite fetishes is humiliating My slaves and I'm curious what type of experiences some of you have had with humiliation in the past either online or during real time with a Master/Mistress.

Tell Me, what was your experience? Did you feel anything other than humiliated? Was the humiliation mixed with another fetish?


Humiliating to who?

I've done plenty of things with and to my girl over the years that a third party might find humiliating. Yet those acts aren't designed or meant to humiliate her. They come under the general umbrella of "what happens between consenting adults blah blah...."

And so that third party is where I draw the line, including if they're other BDSMers. I'd imagine that if I had my girl all bound and forced to her knees while giving her a thorough oral examination with my dick, some perv peeking through the window might see that as her being humiliated. Or if I were just giving her a formal dressing-down for fucking up in some way, same thing.

But to me/us, it's all part of what we do and nobody else's business. And I'd NEVER intentionally put her down or knowingly humiliate her in front of others, even if she screwed up to a point of embarrassing me or us. Though it'd likely hit the fan once it's just us, again....

Focus.


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RE: Humiliation - 1/5/2018 10:31:33 AM   
SMJ53


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessLynne

Hey there kinksters!

One of My favorite fetishes is humiliating My slaves and I'm curious what type of experiences some of you have had with humiliation in the past either online or during real time with a Master/Mistress.

Tell Me, what was your experience? Did you feel anything other than humiliated? Was the humiliation mixed with another fetish?


Pig what kind of Goddess are u if u worry about ur animal [ slave ] . U do with ur animal whatever pleasing u , u humiliate ur animal whenever , wherever it pleases u !! U own the animal - that's all !!

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RE: Humiliation - 1/6/2018 3:28:59 PM   
Richspank


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For me it’s being made to lick the dirty kitchen floor clean and being made to scrub the toilet clean and laughed at for having a small cock, I live being humiliated

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